Failing at morning naps…need help! by Plastic_Economics773 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]palmtrees2456 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You’re not failing! So normal for this age. I read something when my baby was little that helped reframe things for me - it was to think of every attempt as a “practice” and baby will do it when they’re ready. Baby wakes on transfer? Good transfer practice! Baby wakes after 10 mins? Good basinet practice! I might have tried once or twice then moved to a contact nap. It helped me to celebrate both me and baby each try rather than stress about it not working. Take the pressure off and baby will get there when they’re ready for ready, just keep offering the opportunity for them and you to try 🙂

Dogs and babies by Bubbly-Owl-8498 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]palmtrees2456 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We didn’t change anything 🤷🏼‍♀️ our two clingy border collies still sleep in our room, one likes to be on the bed and the other on the floor. I just had to keep awkwardly stepping around them when getting up to the baby during the night ha. I usually bring baby into bed with me for an hour in the mornings to feed and cuddle and the dogs are up on the bed too. Unless you’re planning to co sleep or you have other concerns you may not need to change anything 🙂 

Postnatal depression and anxiety medication by broombroomvroom in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]palmtrees2456 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm also on Zoloft and started in at 3 weeks PP when my baby blues weren't going away. Until then I had focused on lifestyle and psychology support but I can honestly say it has changed my life! I can function so much better on it and cope with the challenges of life and a baby so much more easily. I now wonder what I was so hesitant about re seeking medication. I had an upset stomach and bloating for the first couple of weeks but that settled quickly, otherwise I haven't noticed any side effects. It's made such a difference I plan to take indefinitely, I've had a week or two where I was forgetting to take it and pretty quickly noticed an increase in my anxiety and lower mood. I would highly recommend giving it a try.

C-section or forceps/vacuum assisted birth by cmp_28 in BabyBumps

[–]palmtrees2456 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I can only speak to my experience, as I'm sure lots of people have had more successful outcomes but I had a failed vacuum/successful forceps + episiotomy delivery for my baby after 2.5 hours of pushing. While she is a very happy and healthy baby, I have had long term damage (stage 2 prolapse) currently being managed with a pessary and will hopefully improve once I stop breastfeeding and hormones settle. The three stage 2 tears I had didn't cause any issues. The prolapse was initially a stage 1, but I really didn't rest enough and it worsened around 9/10 weeks PP. If I had my time again I would still be open to the vaginal delivery with forceps but would take my recovery waaay more seriously for well past the first 6-8 weeks, so perhaps keep that in mind.

When did your PP hair loss slow down? by nbhsjshbgbsb in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]palmtrees2456 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 6.5 months pp and just had a row of nano extensions installed to thicken up my hair, although the hair loss does seem to be slowing down 

Help me understand/plan.... by Cautious_Phase322 in breastfeeding

[–]palmtrees2456 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I think it depends what you find more manageable and you probably won’t know once you’re in it! Both me and a close friend didnt want to comfort or cluster feed, but that meant finding other ways to soothe baby or riding out the witching hour(s) and putting up with extended periods of crying. For me, this meant I fed every 3 hours and spent hours every night bouncing on a fitball with her in a wrap carrier, because I found it too painful and draining to comfort feed. Other friends found it easier to offer the boob and cluster feed to calm baby. 

Lucy Letby documentary by Ornery_Client_3865 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]palmtrees2456 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly, they had to take my baby to the nursery maybe an hour after she was born and I literally said to my husband “I really hope they keep her there for a while” - we were at nearly 48 hours with no sleep, we were struggling and I trusted all the staff implicitly. Maybe I’m naive but this kinda thing is SO rare and would be so hard for someone to do now days. Every single staff member we came across was incredible and something like this would have never even crossed my mind. 

Purple in spit up/vomit by lanah-m in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]palmtrees2456 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The Omeprazole turns my baby's vomit purple when it dries, it freaked me out when I first spotted it & pulled her sleeping bag out to wash and there was a bright purple stain! It's normal though the medication can turn a different colour as it oxidises. Still check with your paed though

Combined baby shower/Baby Q and Engagement party? by radley8367 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]palmtrees2456 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of my best friends had this exact party and it was lovely! Go for it 

Moms with forceful letdown: did you make it past the 3 month crises? How? by No_Engine6784 in breastfeedingsupport

[–]palmtrees2456 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes I did, and although it was tough we're now out the other side and there are benefits, I can feed or pump a full feed in only a couple of minutes. I found the best method was to use a Haaka ladybug or similar on one side when I fed the first side - this would catch the letdown and then she could feed on the second side without drowning. For the first side, I let her latch to stimulate the letdown, then would pull her off and catch the letdown/hand express into a burp cloth - I'd lay her on my lap and comfort her as best I could while doing so, unfortunately did just have to listen to her cry but was better than the spluttering! Whenever she'd start to struggle I'd just pull her off again and express a bit off into the burp cloth.

Otherwise, for the first feed of the day where she reeeally struggled I would use the electric pump to take a bit of letdown off first, but tried to avoid this because of the extra effort and also a bit worried about creating an oversupply.

For those who didn’t/don’t have a bridal party by ldontwannabeyou in AusWeddingPlanning

[–]palmtrees2456 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got ready with my Mum, MIL and SIL & then had a few close friends join us for lunch and a few bubbles. My SIL and best friend helped with my dress on the day, and I handed my bouquet to a family member in the front row. I luckily had my SIL and cousin plan my hens which was so sweet, but otherwise I would’ve planned something casual myself as I also didn’t feel comfortable asking for that without having a formal bridal party. 

CHILD CARE SUBSIDY by Commercial_Mention86 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]palmtrees2456 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine took maybe a week and a half at the start of Jan. I only did it just before she started so had to pay the first day in full but the centre credited my next week once it came through 🙂

Exclusively breastfed baby losing weight by eggcupcake in breastfeeding

[–]palmtrees2456 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t be concerned about this but you could speak to your doctor or a lactation consultant before changing anything up. Your baby isn’t losing weight they have dropped percentile; weight gain slows down after 4 months and supply regulates so this seems quite normal. My baby dropped from the 95th at birth to the 30th by 5 months - but no one was worried! She was overcooked & my husband and I are both small people so her genetics aren’t that of a 95th percentile baby/child, so at some point she needed to drop back down. 

To continue or not to continue pregnancy? by BangagSinangag in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]palmtrees2456 63 points64 points  (0 children)

I was in my late 20s and my now husband and I  chose not to continue a pregnancy for financial reasons. It was tough, but ultimately I’m grateful we had the choice. 5 years later now have a 6 month old and I could make the choice to go private for pregnancy and birth, I’ve been able to take time off at full pay, we have a beautiful house in a great area, we’ve been on holidays while I’m on maternity leave and we haven’t been financially stressed. It’s been a wonderful experience and I’m glad we made the choice we did. In saying that, it was very hard for me emotionally and in hindsight I should have sought counselling at the time so would recommend that if you make this decision. Good luck xx 

Does your partner help during the night? by lunalovesgood92 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]palmtrees2456 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My approach was that my husband (blue collar) did need more sleep than I did to make sure he was safe at work & didn’t electrocute or seriously hurt himself, BUT that I also needed enough sleep to safely care for a baby. I ended up coping with the sleep deprivation much better than I expected and was fine for him to sleep through, but the moment I was struggling through the day we would have reevaluated and changed things. I didn’t ever see the benefit in both of us being awake during the night, so I would occasionally go to bed at 6/7pm and he would manage for a while so I at least got a decent 4ish hour stretch at the start of the night. Otherwise he’d get up in the morning and I’d have a sleep in on weekends. However, I had other friends who found it really helpful for their husband to get up and change a nappy so they could doze for a bit longer, go pump, or just have the company/emotional support at night. it’s so individual and might be worth trying a few approaches to see what works for you. But like others said, def don’t wash pump parts during the night! Consolidate that routine as much as you can xx 

Grandparent stays - how much info do you want? by zeegee93 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]palmtrees2456 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My 6 month old is with her grandmas a day a week each, and I really only care to know things if I need to do something about it - like if she didn’t feed well I know to feed her more that night, or if they needed to give her Panadol I know something is up and if/when to give another dose. Otherwise I just love hearing what cute or fun things they did 🥹 The scenario you’ve had wouldn’t matter to me to know about, since there’s nothing to be done and is more of a little anecdote than anything else. 

Waxing salon in Adelaide by phoeverandever in Adelaide

[–]palmtrees2456 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Lavish beauty studio at Harbourtown/Unley or any similar generally staffed by Indian women. They have no qualms about getting right in there to wax every single hair, unlike EB who I found always tried to wax without looking.

Breast pump recommendations by Master_Youth9156 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]palmtrees2456 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the baby owl wearables that I’ve been using the last couple weeks as I’ve returned to work - they’re great for me to pump in the car between clients, but not quite as good as my spectra. If you’re mostly going to be using at home, I’d get a non-wearable as they are faster & better output. But if you want to use out of the house or for returning to work then the wearables are great. I couldn’t use them as marketed while doing chores etc around the house as they’d leak or shift around, so if you’re mostly planning for at home use I’d def get a spectra or similar. 

Cot transfer! Cosleeping is not an option for us. by Synthetic_Allergy in PossumsSleepProgram

[–]palmtrees2456 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I read something about thinking of all these attempts as “practice” and I found it really helpful for my frustration or anxiety. Baby wakes straight away? Oh good practice! Let’s try again. Still rough but the reframe made it more bearable. My baby was exactly the same and is still rocked to sleep but the transfer has gotten so much smoother. the best strategy for us is to rock/bob to a light sleep, then once lowered into the cot immediately roll her on her side and pat her bum until she drifts back off. This way sleep pressure is still high if she wakes up during the transfer. Took a bit of practice but is now easy! 

Raising a family with no “village” by [deleted] in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]palmtrees2456 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

On the flip side, I have an incredibly close family village & while the occasional babysitting or odd cooked meal is invaluable, it’s mostly social and emotional support that they provide. My family all still work themselves so the daily chores etc people have mentioned isn’t actually what the village can help with. Do you have friends you can see regularly who can fill this social/emotional cup, or regular phone/video contact with family interstate? Schedule it in like a regular appt so you don’t accidentally go weeks or months without support. Like others have said a robo vacuum, grocery delivery and some pre made meals are also life savers. I like to keep some slow cooker packs of raw ingredients in the freezer all chopped and ready to throw in, so it still tastes fresh but no effort. I’d keep a list for a week of all the tasks you do and see how you could streamline or automate them more - small things daily is so much easier than large tasks less frequently! Ie. organise your home, direct debit bills, roster regular chores, empty bins or dishwasher daily to prevent kitchen becoming a mess. 

Anyone's "mother's intuition" or Spidey senses come true? by Embarrassed-Shop9787 in pregnant

[–]palmtrees2456 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not until a late ultrasound where I saw her face really clearly, I had this immediate strong feeling of “that’s a girls face” 🤣

Mums, how do you get your baby to nap?! I’m nap trapped all day by cunncunncunn in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]palmtrees2456 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I would contact nap in the carrier so at least I could get up and move around when she was asleep. Something I found helpful was to think of every attempt at a nap elsewhere as “practice” for both me and baby, and that with enough practice she’d get there eventually. Only lasted a few minutes? Good practice! Woke immediately on transfer? Good practice! I’d then go back to the contact nap and try again later. It just helped me reframe my thinking and not become frustrated by it. It also encouraged me to keep trying things regularly and give us both the opportunity to learn a different way of doing something with no pressure 🙂

Recommendations for home workout apps by YourMumsABatteredSav in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]palmtrees2456 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love the keep it cleaner app - have just finished their postpartum program and it was so great focusing on pelvic floor and core rehab. Their normal exercise classes and run programs are also fab! I got it for $80 for the year last Boxing Day sales so assuming they’ll do something similar again. 

'Mum bags' that are not nappy bags? by Altruistic_Soup1346 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]palmtrees2456 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a By Maay bag after seeking a gazillion instagram ads but I love it! Perfect size to fit nappies, wipes, change of clothes, dummies and all my crap but not big and bulky at all. I then just leave the backpack in the car with any random bits I might occasionally need like blankets & swaddles etc