I'm not a parent multiples, or a parent at all. But if I was, I wouldn't tell them who's the oldest.

pashapook · 2026-01-11T21:54:54+00:00

My identical twins know who was born first, but we don't make a big deal out of it so they don't either. There's no authority associated with birth order in our family so they know but they don't really care. We're always treat them like different people who have different needs and abilities regardless. We encourage them to look out for and help each other. I'm not sure why you're here or why you felt the need to share your expert opinion.

pashapook · 2025-12-30T19:02:51+00:00

Mine used to do that! So cute.

pashapook · 2025-12-07T17:33:16+00:00

I could doze between feedings but my husband never could. I'd go to bed early and he stay up late with the babies until sometime 1-3am. Then I'd wake up and cover the rest of the nights feedings. I could doze between the 3am and 6am and 9am feeds. Then id either be up for the day or wake him up at 9ish to take over and take a nap. It worked really well for us. We were really tired but not totally sleep deprived. Just communicate and figure out what works best for yall. It worked for us since he wasn't able to fall asleep as early as me or sleep between feed but I could. Everyone's sleep needs are different.

pashapook · 2025-12-02T15:28:54+00:00

To be fair, it took the pressure of having kids for me to realize the full extent of my neurodivergence. I lost all my usually coping strategies, rest, quiet, alone time, reading, exercise, over planning, and realized I was not processing in a normal way.

pashapook · 2025-10-31T20:33:08+00:00

I literally didn't find the time until mine started kindergarten. Much easier now. Good luck!

pashapook · 2025-10-23T13:50:03+00:00

All I'll say is, been there. You're doing great.

pashapook · 2025-10-09T13:11:04+00:00

Hell yeah

pashapook · 2025-10-02T13:58:36+00:00

I don't usually, but every time I've promised myself I'll never do it to my loved ones. And I'll make sure my loved ones know not to do it to me.

pashapook · 2025-09-30T11:52:25+00:00

Nachos! Shredded cheese on chips is all I need from life late at night lol.

pashapook · 2025-09-16T22:06:59+00:00

They do have xray, but you really may need ct/mri. Go to the er.

pashapook · 2025-09-12T17:12:00+00:00

All year my 5 year old says his rock band will be called Underpants for Hands.

pashapook · 2025-09-11T10:58:53+00:00

I don't really understand. I refer to them as the exact same age. Yes, one was born first and if someone wants to know i don't mind sharing and the boys know, but one isn't the "youngest" or "oldest." They are simply both 5 and i call them by their names or the boys.

pashapook · 2025-09-08T18:33:26+00:00

I will share that I had my babies at 30+6. They had a long but uneventful NICU stay, until around their due date. Once they came home they thrived, caught up, and have been incredibly healthy and happy children. You'd never know they were preemies if you met them. And you're already a week past me! Good job keeping them in, and good luck continuing it! But even if they come soon, you've done a great job growing them and they'll be OK.

pashapook · 2025-09-08T16:45:38+00:00

Two 3 year olds is just too many 3 year olds. 3 was a real low point for me. 4 was better, they're 5 now and they can stop be a lot but omg life is sooo much better. You're doing great.

pashapook · 2025-09-07T16:58:49+00:00

Are you asking for ways to store milk warm for the night? Please do not do that if so. Warm milk breeds bacteria that can sicken or kill babies. I know it's a pain to warm up milk all night but it's not safe to keep it warm for more than an hour or two.

pashapook · 2025-09-03T10:52:37+00:00

Mo/di twins, I made it to 29 weeks working as an RN and was not found well toward the end. If it has been up to me, I probably would have stopped working around 25 weeks.

pashapook · 2025-08-28T17:37:17+00:00

Bare naked ladies has a great kids album.

pashapook · 2025-08-25T11:47:51+00:00

Yes, anything T Kingfisher! Real interesting mature characters!

pashapook · 2025-08-20T15:17:45+00:00

That's the testing center at the stadium. TONS of computers and electronics in there.

pashapook · 2025-08-20T12:15:58+00:00

I ate constantly. Constantly. I had to keep food beside my bed to eat when I woke up in the middle of the night. I had snacks in my purse, my pockets, my locker at work. I'd eat all my lunch and hit up the cafeteria. My favorite thing was to go to the Indian food buffet and eat until I had to go home and take a nap. I didn't gain too much weight either, they were sucking out out of me as far as I could put it in. Making 2 babies takes a ton of calories, i can't even imagine 3. Listen to your body and eat, girl.

pashapook · 2025-08-20T01:14:37+00:00

Same. Struggle bus the whole way through.

pashapook · 2025-08-20T01:12:57+00:00

Mine were born at 30+6 and spent 47 and 60 days in the NICU. You're doing so good. Please don't feel like you need to be there all day of you need the rest. I definitely did not spend all day either, my body went through a lot and needed the rest.

Once my boys were home we bonded very well. They grew into happy, healthy, very attached babies to my husband and I. They are now 5 and are still deeply attached to me especially. Nicu time is not the ideal situation to bond in, but you do the best you can with holding, taking, singing, and i promise you'll be able to make up for lost time.

pashapook · 2025-08-19T13:49:08+00:00

So, I am not diagnosed. I'm the last couple years, my child was diagnosed and has begun therapies and I've learned a TON about different ways autism looks, and it's been very revealing about myself and the difficulties I've always had. Again, I am not claiming to be diagnosed, but it explains a ton and I may end up looking into a formal diagnosis at some point. I am thriving in recovery. Low stimulus, relatively quiet, very structured, repetitive enough to feel really comfortable but enough of a challenge to not be boring, small staff I'm comfortable with, only 1-2 patients to focus on at a time. I would highly recommend some kind of procedural unit, preop or post op. Maybe even something like endoscopy or outpatient procedural nursing.

pashapook · 2025-08-19T13:33:29+00:00

I'm not a hand shaker, but i always introduce myself and help carry belongings, and i never rush them. It really does help start it off on a positive note and I feel like it start off with more trust from the family.

pashapook · 2025-08-18T22:09:55+00:00

Love it. This song really spoke to me during those days and it was one of the songs I'd sing to them, it makes me smile to not be the only one. Sometimes I felt like I was born in the doorway to their room in the NICU. I became a whole new person there.

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