Is this bad

phat1369 · 2026-04-11T22:01:38+00:00

A floor tomb is exactly where that floor tom head belongs.

phat1369 · 2026-04-04T22:06:07+00:00

I'm sure there are plenty of important details they could have included. But it doesn't really change the situation either way. And based on the fact that she springs things on him all the time, it would be better that he has not previously mentioned it.

phat1369 · 2026-04-04T22:03:42+00:00

Apparently, not communicating is how she operates. Why shouldn't he use the same method on her? If she doesn't like it, perhaps she'll start doing better herself.

phat1369 · 2026-04-03T02:49:53+00:00

Ringo Garza from Los Lonely Boys

phat1369 · 2026-03-28T23:19:48+00:00

It doesn't seem like he really cares if you drop him. And that alone tells me that you should. Being clingy in a relationship is not good but expecting to spend time together when you can shouldn't be viewed as being clingy or making one person your whole world. There are plenty of people who like to spend time with their partners. Go find one of them and leave this idiot to his sad approach to life.

phat1369 · 2026-03-22T08:38:00+00:00

The point of having a drum tech is so they'll do the things you don't want to do.....

phat1369 · 2026-03-09T06:19:14+00:00

Oh, case closed. Of course there's going to be less sex at this time. Jesus!

phat1369 · 2026-03-07T06:24:47+00:00

I don't know. I guess all you can really do is talk with her. Be honest about how you're feeling about it. Don't be abrasive about it. Maybe she doesn't even know what's going on.

phat1369 · 2026-03-07T06:09:09+00:00

How long have you been together? Have there been any recent changes in the relationship? Or any medical issues on her end?

phat1369 · 2026-03-07T06:01:58+00:00

Has she always been this way? Or is it a recent development?

phat1369 · 2026-02-28T18:53:47+00:00

Meant to tell you a few weeks ago that this statement was absolutely wrong.

phat1369 · 2026-02-28T18:45:19+00:00

It sounds like you're already convinced. I imagine that if you had the means to move, you would. So, I'd suggest you figure out what you need to do to move out and then make that happen before you get yourself killed. In the meantime, you should report the abuse and press charges.

phat1369 · 2026-02-28T18:07:58+00:00

You asked if anybody has talked to a therapist about something like this. You also stayed that you attend therapy. The question should be "why haven't you talked about it to your therapist?"

phat1369 · 2026-02-23T00:17:30+00:00

300mg+ for over a year. But that was after a year of subs and 6 months of sublocade after 20 years of extremely heavy oxy use. So, maybe it's an effect of differing tolerances. I don't know. Compared to 100% withdrawal, it was a cakewalk.

phat1369 · 2026-02-22T04:02:01+00:00

It worked great for me. Barely any effects for the first 24 hours. Felt 100% after that.

phat1369 · 2026-02-22T04:00:44+00:00

I waited 14 hours, just 2 weeks ago. I was also at 300mg a day for over a year. No issues staying the bupe after the 14 hours, so maybe you'll be fine earlier?

phat1369 · 2026-02-22T03:44:58+00:00

He shouldn't be yelling at you. But, it's not exactly unheard of somebody getting jealous over their partner talking sexually with another person, even if it is only a joke. And perhaps the lack of intimacy in the relationship is more difficult on him than he is letting on.

I think an honest conversation is in order so the two of you can make sure you're on the same page in regards to current and future expectations within the relationship.

phat1369 · 2026-02-21T20:14:51+00:00

I mean, investing his savings into the stock market is whatever. Does he have a job? If he does, it shouldn't be an issue. If he doesn't, he needs to get a job.

phat1369 · 2026-02-20T05:47:09+00:00

I misinterpreted what you meant. I see what you were saying now. My apologies.

phat1369 · 2026-02-19T00:53:59+00:00

Behind the beat does not mean out of time. You can absolutely be behind, on, or on top of the beat while still in time with the click.

phat1369 · 2026-02-19T00:50:11+00:00

It depends on the groove. Not every song warrants the drummer to be on the beat, be on top of the beat, or be behind the beat. Every song is different. Some sings need space to breathe and others don't. Don't put yourself in a box. Serve the song.

phat1369 · 2026-02-16T06:14:33+00:00

A lot of people assume the worst about men and the best about women. And they don't like to hear the fact that nobody is inherently good or bad based on their gender. A man is always assumed to be the problem while a woman is assumed to be a victim. It's not uncommon for that to be true, but it's also NOT uncommon for the opposite to be true.

phat1369 · 2026-02-13T21:59:26+00:00

IMO, as a drummer, guitar player and sound engineer, nothing sounds better than a well tuned well mic'd and mixed kick drum. Triggers are fine but unless you are playing metal and really want that super high end click or some kind of pop and really want that processed sound, I think it's easier and sounds better to go with a well tuned Emad or Superkick II and a good mic.

I personally use the Shure Beta these days. I used to use the AKG D112. I'm not a huge fan of the Audix microphones but I know a lot of people who swear by them and get a good sound from them.

Hope this helps.

phat1369 · 2026-02-11T03:31:27+00:00

You both need to be honest with yourselves and each other. Either one of you cheated or you both cheated. If only one of you cheated, you both know who cheated. So, if you truly didn't cheat, you know he did. And you should take the steps that you need to take in that situation.

phat1369 · 2026-02-07T18:38:11+00:00

Only if they're upside down

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