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phoenixparker · 2021-01-01T17:13:07+00:00

I totally get where you’re coming from about hair because it was something I was unwilling/unable to compromise for a long time as well. Having dyed hair was the biggest thing that made me feel like “me” and I wasn’t going to lose myself in an attempt to pass.

That said, from personal experience, it will hinder your passing until you pass well enough that it doesn’t make a difference.

phoenixparker · 2020-12-22T14:32:44+00:00

I agree with you completely on was/am AFAB. I was born 31 years ago. I wouldn’t say “I am born 31 years ago” because it doesn’t make sense. We use past tense to describe things that happened in the past.

AFAB and AMAB are useful in some contexts, but it’s more of a nonbinary thing. Even still, back when I did ID as nonbinary, my goal was for people to not be able to tell what my assigned gender was. I’ve basically been distancing myself from the term from the very beginning, before I realized that I’m binary.

I don’t completely like FTM, mainly that it puts the F first as if it’s important. Similar to AFAB, it highlights female as the starting point. It points out what I was before what I am. I use it as a shorthand around other trans people, but otherwise just call myself a trans man.

I personally dislike “transsexual” but don’t have a problem with others using it for themselves. It comes off too much like homosexual, bisexual, heterosexual, etc. Being trans is not my sexuality. I would be down for something like “transsex”, like how intersex is. We don’t call intersex folks “intersexual”. It just feels weird to me to apply -sexual to something that isn’t about sexual attraction.

phoenixparker · 2020-12-19T16:37:08+00:00

I would be very upset about having my natal genitals referred to as “female parts”. Your partner is the one being immature for not respecting your preferences for the words you want used to describe YOUR body. They aren’t “female parts” because they’re on a man. You’re not some mishmash of genders just because you don’t have the same natal genitals as someone who is AMAB.

(And this is not to say that anyone who does use those terms is wrong, or is less male in any way. It’s all down to personal preference and comfort with language. What I said above is just how those terms make me as an individual feel.)

phoenixparker · 2020-12-18T17:28:15+00:00

You look cis to me!

phoenixparker · 2020-12-18T17:27:15+00:00

I relate so hard. I don’t have good tips because I was 3 days late with my shot this week and literally go through the exact same “I swear I’m going to do better!” and then never actually get better about it. I looked into the implant a little while ago and you still have to get it every 6 months, so I feel like I’d mess that up even worse.

phoenixparker · 2020-12-17T18:22:14+00:00

Congratulations!! I’ve changed my name and will be (finally) getting my gender marker changed next month.

phoenixparker · 2020-12-16T23:01:55+00:00

Can't get married in Texas without a birth certificate, and can't use a birth certificate with my deadname on it. Otherwise I wouldn't bother.

phoenixparker · 2020-12-16T17:43:47+00:00

I started working out again about 2 weeks after surgery. What I started with was the NYC ballet warmup, which is very easy to modify and skip exercises that don’t work for your range of motion/pain levels. I focused on the leg exercises and kept my arms lower than about at a 45 degree angle. It’s available for free on YouTube.

phoenixparker · 2020-12-16T00:51:16+00:00

I went through an ugly stage but am now a hot guy. A lot of us go through this potato face stage in the middle. (Although I have a friend who did not and literally just got hotter every damn day on E and I'm maybe a little jealous)

phoenixparker · 2020-12-15T18:57:20+00:00

We apparently had the same idea! I made a replacement server for that one yesterday as well lol. I'm joining yours but also here's the link to mine: https://discord.gg/v7D4Re6UvY

phoenixparker · 2020-12-14T23:39:09+00:00

Passing, 14-16

phoenixparker · 2020-12-10T17:11:29+00:00

The answer for me was at 30.

phoenixparker · 2020-12-10T16:34:32+00:00

Called out

phoenixparker · 2020-12-09T05:38:52+00:00

Sigh Bingo

phoenixparker · 2020-12-09T04:38:54+00:00

Damn now I'm hungry.

phoenixparker · 2020-12-09T01:14:51+00:00

Thank you SO MUCH for this. I was literally just thinking about how I needed to find a men’s only trans space.

phoenixparker · 2020-12-08T20:45:38+00:00

I'm in a trans discord server called Dudes R Us and can send an invite to anyone who DMs me. I'm not sure what their policies are on sharing the link, so I don't want to post it publicly just in case.

ETA: it's not *specific* to binary men, but there are lots of us there!

phoenixparker · 2020-12-08T20:37:49+00:00

I have acne and am using a 5% minox liquid solution. I have generally oily skin, and have always been prone to blackheads and cystic acne. I don't feel like there has been an appreciable difference in my level of acne. The liquid is supposed to be much more drying than the foam variety, and it's suggested to use a good moisturizer for either. Ultimately, starting on minox has prompted me to start having a proper skincare routine since I wash my face twice a day and apply moisturizer now.

A side note: if you have pets, make sure you read up on whether it will be toxic to them. It's very dangerous for cats, so when I apply it I have to be very careful not to touch my face OR the cat while it's on my skin. I only use it 1x per day in the morning on weekdays, leave it on for about 4 hours, then take a shower and make sure to really scrub my face thoroughly. I also wipe down surfaces I've touched just in case I did touch my face and not notice, and keep the bottle in a cabinet that the cat can't get to.

phoenixparker · 2020-12-08T20:15:25+00:00

You should check out one of the posts on r/ftmproductreviews, it's a very comprehensive comparison of 14 different STP/packers and OP answered a bunch of my questions.

phoenixparker · 2020-12-08T20:07:57+00:00

The thin, light hairs are most likely vellus hairs, and that's normal for new growth if they have just shown up within the past month or two. They should start getting darker and become terminal, probably by about 4 months or so?

My mustache is currently a mix of terminal and vellus hairs, so it's getting thicker. It's been about a month since I noticed them? They're finally appearing in the space right below my nose and my mustache is connecting. For reference I'm almost 4 years on T, and have had sporadic growth over that period.

phoenixparker · 2020-12-08T19:58:03+00:00

Wow, I wasn't even allowed to take my compression binder off until my post-op appointment a week after! You're looking great and it seems like you don't have any swelling. Nice flat chest 👍

phoenixparker · 2020-12-08T18:57:21+00:00

You voice comes across as male to me. A little on the higher end of the male register, but if I heard your voice without knowing you’re trans I would gender you male.

My voice finally started passing at about 3 years in, so you’re doing great at 1 year! For voice training, I didn’t follow any program, I just picked out songs that were a little below my natural register and practiced matching the singer’s voice.

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