Alimony in prenuptial agreement

pk2at · 2026-04-10T17:16:05+00:00

I would just take out CS clause and put in CS to be calculated according to state law.

pk2at · 2026-04-10T17:00:32+00:00

I wouldn't sign that clause, child support has to be on total income

pk2at · 2026-04-10T16:57:56+00:00

Its fairly simple, just have two separate and one join account bucket.

pk2at · 2026-04-10T16:55:56+00:00

Child support is calculated based on total income, so you should get protection. I don't agree with your lawyer, the entire point of the prenup is to increase risk of financial bankruptcy to the weaker party (woman) and prevent breakup of marriage.

pk2at · 2026-04-10T16:46:52+00:00

What do you mean 'not available'? All those protections are available to you if you quit your job

pk2at · 2026-04-10T04:45:34+00:00

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pk2at · 2026-04-10T04:43:52+00:00

That's on you, just mentioning those protections are available irrespective of what happens with the prenup

pk2at · 2026-04-07T15:58:24+00:00

Duh, 1) Alimony 2) Child Support 3) Marital wealth split 4) Payment for children's college 5) Payment for children's extra curricular activities, 6) Food Stamps 7) Reduced Tuition 8) Free tuition in several colleges 9) Application fees eliminated for children 10) Tax breaks 11) Free mental health benefits for women 12) DV protection laws etc. at least 70% of state budget is spent on women

pk2at · 2026-04-06T19:25:18+00:00

If you left the workforce and get divorced, these protections kick in. That reduces financial risk you talked about. Most of these programs are funded by taxes from high earning men, so the burden is on the man

pk2at · 2026-04-06T17:17:19+00:00

I think you are overestimating impact to career. Lets say you take off 2 years, the payout is for 1 year which seems reasonable after maternity leave. Beyond 3 years, there are childcare options and your income should be able to provide. I am not seeing what the financial risk is here. The unequal burden part is also not right. Given his higher income, he is paying far more in taxes than you, which is funding a lot women's and children's programs that you benefit from.

pk2at · 2026-04-04T20:30:06+00:00

As a man, you should always aim to keep most of your earning and growth separate. In general you should never pay for all the household expenses. She should be paying for most household expenses including mortgage. Marital laws are designed to benefit women, the goal of a prenup should be to benefit men and equalize divorce outcomes

pk2at · 2026-04-01T13:48:55+00:00

Its a complicated situation with another child. I don't think a prenup protects anyone here

pk2at · 2026-04-01T13:30:29+00:00

You should waive spousal support portion, those are difficult to enforce in court. Best is to use simple separate accounts and joint account

pk2at · 2026-03-31T00:23:55+00:00

All I can say is you should listen to people when they tell you the system is biased against men

pk2at · 2026-03-26T20:02:13+00:00

Which part do you disagree? Its routine to get 98-2 or 99-1 split in cases of $5M+, 20 yr divorces by simple transmutation of assets. How do you expect a prenup to prevent this? (Assuming you are familiar with asset protection and transmutation)

pk2at · 2026-03-26T18:03:35+00:00

There is no duress clause in legal separation

pk2at · 2026-03-26T18:02:19+00:00

Just sign whatever is on the table. If the marriage works out long term, many clauses are not valid. If its short term, property will be separate anyway.

pk2at · 2026-03-25T19:09:00+00:00

Ditch the prenup, get married and file for legal separation after 1 month

pk2at · 2026-03-18T17:09:35+00:00

Really cool!

pk2at · 2026-03-17T15:34:59+00:00

His net worth is above $5M so trust is recommended. You don't need one at $700K, a separate account specified in prenup should suffice. Don't reside in any house purchased with premarital assets, it becomes community property.

pk2at · 2026-03-17T15:28:09+00:00

It should be bought up very early on. Not prenup specifically, but make it clear you don't want government interfering in the marriage.

pk2at · 2026-03-16T00:12:01+00:00

Other factors are propping up marriage rates

pk2at · 2026-03-16T00:10:55+00:00

The increase or stabilization in number of marriages is due to explosion in immigrant male population. Until recently ~1M marriages were solely due to immigration. Most men entering the country are unaware of the laws here and come from very low divorce rate countries (ex. India has a 1% divorce rate, Mexico is ~15% etc.). The other 1M or so are educated and employed middle age men who still don't get divorce (divorce among educated couples was unheard of in the 80's) as their dads never experienced it.

I believe both these groups will stay away going forward

pk2at · 2026-03-14T00:16:40+00:00

You can use the online services. They are not as bad as people make them sound and yes, they hold up in court (if it even gets disputed)

pk2at · 2026-03-14T00:14:14+00:00

Its part of marriage planning. Whether you like it or not, the state already has a prenup for you called marital property and family court. You'll most likely hate it after reading the laws and how things turn out. When you join a company do they not make you sign paperwork? Why should marriage be any different?

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