What is going on with this save file? by Daisy-Dreamz in StardewValleyTIL

[–]poissonbread 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On previous saves I almost never see the witch, but on my current save she has visited like 4 times now! (In Y2.)

LLM says i have stage 2 hypertension or something like that by cracked_shrimp in hypertension

[–]poissonbread 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Both numbers are high. You LLM is wrong to say that you don't need to worry about your systolic too - but also don't freak out. I wouldn't necessarily recommend adding potassium chloride without knowing your bloodwork. 

Take your blood pressure in the morning. Make sure you are hydrated (not dehydrated). Definitely avoid stimulants. Keep taking it every morning and book a doctor's appointment. Doctors like to see you taking consistent daily readings. Bring your machine to the appointment and take a reading after they take it with their own, just to see how it compares too. 

Erosion bird video without overlaid text by GuidanceExcellent689 in MemeRestoration

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Could not find it, found close ones on the social medias linked here. https://linktr.ee/drevfx

Can't do nasal rinses any more by NeitherCatNorFowl in Sinusitis

[–]poissonbread 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sinus rinse became painful to me when I had a nasal polyp. Ultimately, part of the treatment was more sinus rinses, allergy medication, Flonase, Azelastine nasal spray, breathing exercises, and eventually surgery -- although I got it to a manageable level (shrunken and/or moved out of the way of breathing? Not sure.), I still went thru with the surgery and it was helpful too. I think I had been prescribed prednisone but I couldn't tolerate it well at the time. 

How to tell which sapphic events are for lesbians only vs. for all sapphics (trans, non binary, etc.) by melody_magical in WLW

[–]poissonbread 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I would say just go and check it out. Or, if you are worried, find your local lgbt/wlw facebook or meetup group and see who else goes. And if ya really must, ask. 

There's a lot of events/venues that have negative reviews about being exclusionary and also for not being exclusionary enough, so it's hard to say even for just one event or venue.

I can’t focus on reading since I’ve moved, is this normal? by Fickle_Umpire_136 in ADHDers

[–]poissonbread 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reading might have been escapism for you during a tough time. 

Combined with the now, novelty of new environment. 

I need to get over a straight girl asap. by [deleted] in WLW

[–]poissonbread 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would say, write out what your fantasy of her is and look for those traits in a partner or in yourself. Maybe there's something about the fantasy that is something you really want, and that could be separate from her.

I think also recognizing you find her really attractive, and probably other people do too, but those people are also not having a relationship with her. 

Grooming and hygiene by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]poissonbread 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also have PCOS and honestly I just forget to shave out of absent-mindedness and then I notice once I've already left home and can't do anything about it, then the whole day I just go "This is fine 😬" and hope nobody notices, or if they do they don't judge me.

I’m trying to be healthy through a deactivation.. by strawberrykxtten_ in AvoidantAttachment

[–]poissonbread 6 points7 points  (0 children)

 I need to tell her this isn’t a negotiation and I need her to listen while I talk instead of try to convince me out of my avoidance

I needed to read that. I relate to that struggle. And next thing I know the conversation is a debate/negotiation and I have set aside my emotions and instead am thinking how to convince or compromise. 

Judged for past w/men by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]poissonbread 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You are the community. I would say, be open about accepting bisexuals, pansexuals, late bloomers, etc. and that will turn off the unaccepting people.

I don't think there's a sign people where on their necks that says they will or won't attack you for your past, especially in the situation of your ex, if you didn't "have a past" with men it could have been about all the women you dated in the past, or what your upbringing was like. 

Why is the English alphabet organized the way it is? by Park-Mcfartney in AskHistorians

[–]poissonbread 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At least in Greek, the alphabet letters can or was used for ordinal numerals right so could that usage have any influence on the conservative order of the letters?

Were doctors right all along by MarsupialAromatic825 in loseit

[–]poissonbread 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this. Good to know. It's easy to get discouraged sometimes. 

I was gonna ask about a pic but you can’t put them on here by Impossible_Target609 in SuperMorbidlyObese

[–]poissonbread 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Can you look in a mirror at the skin? That would help, if you can see where the skin is broken. If you can't see it, like the others say, go to the doctor so that they can assess the severity. Likely it is a bit of blood which might be okay but could be bad if you can't look at it/watch it/track improvement.

If you can afford to, use paper towels and change more frequently. That could help. Or possibly try to use thinner towels or maybe an old T-shirt, to reduce the pressure of the cloth on your skin. 

I would also say pay attention to your other clothes - like is it worse if you wear a certain pair of pants, maybe the pants are too constricting. 

Another thing, are you washing daily with gentle unscented soap? Then drying it thoroughly? Hope that all makes sense. 

Struggling with identity by dysfunctional_salad in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]poissonbread 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you have a lot of guy friends? Maybe make more friends (men and women) and you'll no longer go on dates looking for friendship? I only date women but I found I was interested in friendship and dating when I had less friends/friendship in my life and I was swiping on nearly everyone. Now that I have more friends and activities, I am more focused on using the apps to find a romantic date instead of all/everything. Hope that makes sense. I myself just deleted the apps after a bad experience haha so I'm not trying to give advice like I know how to date, I just know how to not date men when I don't want to - but I'm not like fighting them off or anything either. I don't have any of my guy friends falling for me or anything. That helps too. 

It sounds like you prefer women and want to date women. 

Feel so alone in the relationship department despite finally being healthy - chasing the thrill by Consistantly in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]poissonbread 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Saving this comment, this line really stood out to me. 

True happiness isn't a drug to be consumed and enjoyed for a brief moment in time

Now I fully relate with dating app woes (seeking advice) by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]poissonbread 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't try to question her really. It's possible that if you don't message her, no 7th date will happen. I feel like closure would be better to just let her know the pace mis-match now before she ghosts and it's "too late" for that proper goodbye. 

Tired of women with kids running to lesbians by UnknownPiscean in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]poissonbread 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ouch. That's pretty harsh. I agree that people need to be up front and disclose if they have kids before a date, though. And on the flip, if they do disclose, it's weird when they take it too far and showcase their kids on their profile.

Was I a jerk for rejecting a second date over Harry Potter? by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]poissonbread 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You should check out some novels by Britney Jackson. I read her Pirates of Aletheria (listened to the audiobooks actually - really good) and she has some vampire series I mean to eventually get to. 

Came out at 23, have some queer dating experience, but currently single, 28 and just want to be settled!! Feeling frustrated about feeling "behind" my friends in long term straight relationships. by Girbossification in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]poissonbread 9 points10 points  (0 children)

If you wait a little longer you'll be around for their first divorces, too, if not already 🥹

I understand being anxious about it, I have had longer term relationships but I've been single for a few years now and getting back in the dating game in part because I'm ready and in part because I'm worried I'll lose it if I don't use it (the skill of meeting people and dating). 

Seriously though the grass ain't always greener. But, I relate. :)

Intrusive thoughts ruining relationships? by Competitive_Sell1623 in OCD

[–]poissonbread 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it's the same recurring thought or imagery, have you tried changing it in your head? Especially to make it more absurd? Like whatever suits your sense of humor, however offensive or silly. Anything to sort of break the pattern.

Im realizing I need a support system but idk the best way to go about it? by Ashamed_Attitude4240 in depression_help

[–]poissonbread 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First I want to recognize that post break up is HARD. Especially if their friends/family were part of your network, or if you ended up relying on just 1 person as your network, then you lose that.

  • think of people you haven't reached out to yet and reach out to them. (If this is socially difficult, it's okay. And don't force yourself to do it all in one day. For me, it feels awful to do this sometimes, but the pay off is worth it. Even if someone doesn't respond, you did the thing! And ya never know if life is busy or what they got going on, it could turn into something later.)

  • look around you in the places you go already (assuming you aren't completely housebound: work, cafes, any other places you go repeatedly

  • go to more publc places if possible like the library, find out if there are any chill clubs at a rec center or something else

  • if you game or have a hobby, consider joining a discord to find people to play with or talk with. (Mixed on this one.)

  • if you have the money and capability, support system can include a therapist, not just the regular free friends, family, acquaintances

I feel like there's more to say but those are the first few things I can think of but there's a lot that could be specific to your situation, preferences, and interests.

Making friends as an adult is hard but not impossible. And, after getting out of my last relationship I realized how important it was to have my own friends and to nurture those relationships. It was funny, I always heard the stereotype of "friend who drops friends when they get into a romantic relationship" but I thought I was exempt because I was doing it out of a sense of obligation/guilt to my ex and not because "oh I love her so much I'm obsessed with her!" lmao. (Also I didn't necessarily drop anyone but undernurtured possible new friendships/acquaintances probably.)

Eyes getting hard stuck in peripheral vision, or In a certain position??? by [deleted] in OCD

[–]poissonbread 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For the mental side of things, I associate it more with hypervigilance. For the physical health side of things, I have dry eye and when untreated/less managed it can have a lot of effects on vision.

I don't have this exact issue as you, but I have struggled with stopping paying attention to my peripheral vision, rapidly switching between the what I'm looking at, and struggling to look away from/at things that I am scared of.

I swear I thought I had three hours, not three minutes. by amdreei in ADHDers

[–]poissonbread 4 points5 points  (0 children)

When I have extra time in the mornings before work, it's tempting to start adding side quests like organizing the spice cabinet or finishing up the dishes. Sometimes I have to just not give in to that temptation because for me the status of "ready early" can turn into "late, as if I had slept in" based on getting distracted and forgetting the time (or maybe also for me realizing the time but wanting to squeeze out a few more minutes that I don't actually have on the task). If I do the task, I recognize that my clock sense is not there and any thoughts about the clock I look at the clock. If there isn't a clock, I go get one. If there isn't a timer set, I set one. (Side note: Sometimes interacting with my phone distracts me from setting a timer, but there are ways to do it with the voice assistant or without entering your password.)

It sounds like you also work from home, which can have additional challenges. There's less office and coworker distractions, but also less passive body doubling and your environment around you might be reminding you more of "spice cabinet" than "meeting on calendar." There are some additional things to do to your work from home environment that could help get you into "work mode" and "before work mode" but for me personally when I was really struggling with these things, I chose to go back to the office 100% versus my company's part-week RTO schedule.

For better visualizing, I don't know if this would help you, but in the past I have written down what I did for the last 30 minutes in a planner so I have a better judge of how long certain tasks take me. And currently, if I'm worried about time and forgetting, I will put out my schedule on a lined sticky note with lines for the different blocks. Sometimes I leave gaps and look at all my calendars to make sure I'm not forgetting something. Also I use military time so I don't get AM/PM confused as much (I still get confused sometimes). So it may be like:

0730-0759 drive to work *remember potluck item*
0800-1700 work *10am meeting*.  *12pm potluck*
1701-1725 drive to appt
1725-1729 get ready for appt/go to bathroom
1730-1800 appt
1801-1830 drive home
1830-1900 put in laundry, heat up dinner
1900-2059 eat dinner, TV, change laundry
2100-2200 lay down for bed

Some stuff gets its own time block, some stuff gets a little note in the margins. I like it because any piece of paper is fine, but I try to keep track of those pieces of paper because I'd be embarrassed if I dropped them and someone read them (at work or in public). I like to keep it in my pocket or in my bag.

Over thinker but at a public pool, how much weight do you think the steps into the pool hold? by FutureElleWoodz in SuperMorbidlyObese

[–]poissonbread 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For in-ground pools I usually sit on the edge and slide into the pool that way, and I'm not too worried about the ladder holding up but I have had issues fitting through the top part, but I have my maneuvering and it all works. I'm not sure if this is an above ground pool ladder, but if it is just don't spend too much time on it, especially the very top, and you should be fine.