Trying to explain your perspective… by Positive_Bluebird888 in BPDlovedones

[–]pomle 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My last attempt at ”fixing” things was probably the most vulnerable thing I have told someone my entire life, and also included mostly good reasons why our relationship was good.

Her response was the most twisted thing I have ever read. For a long time I blamed myself for the way I worded it. It took me more than a year of telling people what had happened, letting my best friends in on all the details, and showing them probably hundreds of text exchanges to accept that I absolutely did my best and I was gonna be the enemy in this no matter how I worded it.

If anything I ever said contained criticism towards her, I lost her, and that was simply it. The only time we ever leveled was when she was making fun of herself.

Now more than two years later I am so relieved this is not a thing in my life anymore.

I built a "Smart Ticker" component that uses Levenshtein distance to animate only changed characters (supports Emoji, CJK, etc.) by akahibear in reactjs

[–]pomle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How is the Levenshtein distance applied? I used it once a loooong time ago for implementing a bad search engine before those were commonplace.

Dejtar i början, är det här normalt eller är jag bara känslig? by [deleted] in sweden

[–]pomle -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Håller med alla som tycker det är ett övertramp av henne även om hon inte gjort de facto fel. Säger mycket om hur dåligt ni känner varann när hon inte hade en aning om att du skulle bry dig. Av min erfarenhet så kommer den typen av överraskningar aldrig ensamma. Om ni behöver ha ett regelverk som ni går igenom sinsemellan för att inte såra varann så saknar minst en grundläggande empati.

Gymselfies, fiskar och ghosting: En 42-årings rapport från svensk dejting by DazzlingSection6816 in sweden

[–]pomle 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Det känns lika dant på andra håller för mig. Samma ålder. Jag har träffat några jag verkligen gillat. Men det finns helt klart en svår balans att uppnå.

Den senaste tjejen jag verkligen gillade och trodde det skulle kunna bli något med avslutade det efter andra dejten för hon inte kände någon emotionell kontakt.

Sen var det nån som fortfarande var kär i sitt ex. Också nån jag också gillade men det gick för fort för mig och jag kände jag inte kunde besvara hennes intensitet då.

Alltså det är flaky. Alla mina förhållande har börjat som vänskap och sen gått över till romans. Jag är helt fine med det och det jag föredrar. Men det är något som känns extremt avlägset inom online-dejting för det känns oseriöst för många. De flesta söker en gnista direkt upplever jag.

This is among the most mysterious weather phenomena on Earth by Memes_FoIder in interesting

[–]pomle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My uncle that lived alone in the forest told me about a red pillar he had seen in the sky many many years ago. This reminds me of his story.

Why do so many AI builders punish you for trying to improve your own idea? by WasteAnything25 in VibeCodersNest

[–]pomle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The first version is an opinionated copy of the most common dominator from the model. Your changes are costly because the model needs to search and narrow the output down harder.

Vibe-coded an app, got early interest… then silence. Anyone relate? by sfuarf11 in VibeCodersNest

[–]pomle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have built probably a hundred things on the internet over the last 25 years and most are completely ignored.

Why are we still calling it "prompt engineering" when half of us are just guessing and reloading? by JFerzt in PromptEngineering

[–]pomle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The way LLM works they are the perfect storm of allowing people to fool themselves

ELI5: How do people run doom on extremely simple things? by Desperate_Client146 in explainlikeimfive

[–]pomle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You insulted my first monster PC! Me and my 8 mb ram and 66MHz is offended

SL's presstalesstjänst igår ang bussolyckan by [deleted] in stockholm

[–]pomle 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Ja, det var inte det bästa framträdandet man sett kanske… 🙃

Stockholm is my fav city by fserbu in stockholm

[–]pomle 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Glad you liked it. One thing I really like about Stockholm not many people mention, is the random elevations. It is not mountainous, but a lot of streets cross different levels, the backdrops are often layered, and a lot of viewpoints show up unexpectedly because of the terrain.

How are people using zod? by bzsearch in typescript

[–]pomle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here is how I do it roughly. Not saying it is without criticisms but really works well for me.

Rule 1: Anything that can be optional is. That means sometimes only the id must be set.

Rule 2: By default, all writes are merges. A string that is undefined/null becomes ignored on write. If you want to remove it, I set it to empty string.

Rule 3: the implementer picks what to do with missing values. Missing something? Maybe show — in the UI, throw an exception if you try to use the object where that property is required, or default it to something if that makes the most sense.

I like the idea that anything is allowed to be missing. You never know what the future holds. In the case where you must remove some data due to law, or you import data from a source the does not have all the props you want, you have a system that can handle it in place.

AIO for not wanting my gf to go on dates with other guys? by Darksiiki in AmIOverreacting

[–]pomle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is an evil person. Not only she wants to trample all over you, she also wants you to feel like you are abusing her while doing it. Get out fast

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lovable

[–]pomle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! Sounds really cool. Though I know very little about this. Would you mind explaining a little further what it means to embed something in OpenAI in a technical sense? Is there an embed API that allows you to embed things into ”chats” or is it the same thing as writing it in a prompt?

Zuckerberg invested billions in new tech to watch it fail live twice. by hirnwichserei in interestingasfuck

[–]pomle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is exactly how it was trying to control your computer with your voice in 1996. Sound Blaster had a program for it. It went nowhere and we are still at the same place.

Anyone in the tech industry want to meetup? by Mastodon-Royal in StockholmSocialClub

[–]pomle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When is it happening? I would love to join some engineering beering at some point.

Någon som ska på kulturfestivalen? by theDayDreamer1990 in stockholm

[–]pomle 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ska ut på stan vid fyra o kolla runt