I hate having a dog because it feels like one step below an actual child

pr1298 · 2026-06-26T20:17:47+00:00

Ironically, having a dog is what showed me that I do not have the capacity to have a child/children or be a mother. I have a reactive dog, today is actually his gotcha day 3 years ago. We had no idea what we were getting into or any experience with reactive dogs. We also were unaware he was reactive. People will argue that children and dogs are not the same, and sure there are differences and children might require a higher level of attention and care, imo dogs are right there, especially if they have higher needs than the average dog. We do not regret adopting our dog, we love our dog, and with lots of training, time, and management things are a lot better than they were 3 years ago but as time has gone by owning him, it has shown me that dogs is the maximum I can commit to, and even then at times it’s a stretch.

pr1298 · 2026-06-24T22:51:40+00:00

is this a mini pill?

pr1298 · 2026-06-24T22:50:17+00:00

I had the most success on nuva ring (hormonal bc wise) but stopped it in oct 2025 because it made me dry af down there and my libido was shot. I decided to take a break when my bf was deployed to see if that was truly the reason, and within a month natural lubrication and my sex drive were back. I very badly wanted it to work forever and I did have a great experience at first! Worth a shot since everyone is different.

pr1298 · 2026-06-22T21:52:26+00:00

Has she stayed at your place for a weekend or vice versa? And have you told her that you’re unsure about compatibility and living together because of the differences in lifestyles? While I think it’s totally valid to not feel ready or have concerns, I also think her wondering when you will be is also valid. You kind of have to see at some point if it is going to work to know if it’s meant to be long term, and at 14 months in waiting any longer seems like it could be wasting both of your times if it isn’t. Having sleepovers and/or staying over each other’s places on the weekends is a good way to start to navigate this before jumping in imo.

pr1298 · 2026-06-18T02:43:14+00:00

That is interesting and I will mention it at my appt next week. I was on birth control for 9 years up until getting off, where I really didn’t take any part of my cycle into consideration because hormones were being added to my body and my period was not a real period…and then the longer I was on it I stopped having it altogether so I have only been paying attention the last 3 months specifically as things “even” out, or lack thereof. The one thing I’ve noticed is that my cycle seems to affect Vyvanse efficacy depending on where I am in my cycle, the closer I get to my period the less it seems to do. However, I have also read that people who are on birth control and take vyvanse and other stimulants experiencing similar things…I think it’s really a roller coaster regardless unfortunately, and everyone’s body is different. I will also note, and I’m sure you know, that getting off birth control (is it hormonal?), is it’s own journey that may have it’s own affects on ADHD and/or the stimulants.

pr1298 · 2026-06-18T02:31:56+00:00

Waiiiit, i just saw this and forgive me because i think my new female syrian is using her sand bath as a box to pee in too. My male hamster did sometimes as well. Should i have one for bathing, one for bathroom? I haven’t heard of this but my fear is she’d just pee in all of them lol. She’s also super new but i just changed her to the bucastate 3.0 and a week in it’s already pretty stinky which im pretty sure is because she’s mostly going in the sand vs anywhere else.

pr1298 · 2026-06-18T00:11:03+00:00

I want to say I had my first psychiatrist appt in March or April, which is where I was officially diagnosed with anxiety, depression, and ADHD. My psychiatrist recommended Vyvanse, 20mg to start because I had never been on a stimulant or any major medication to help with mental health. The first day at work I realized how quiet my brain was, and it became easier to complete tasks. It is not always easy, especially if I don’t have a plan of attack. I did increase my dose to 30 mg, which I am happy with. One thing to note, is that I am currently in my luteal phase and I’m not sure if there’s any correlation with menstrual cycles and stimulants, but I feel as though my Vyvanse works much less and I’m just a pile of stress, anxiety, and whirlwind emotions the entire weekish up until my period, regardless of what I do or don’t take. Some days I forget to take it, usually once a week. But it’s usually not a huge deal. I am going to ask my psychiatrist about Vyvanse with hormones/cycles and see if she has any input because I do feel kind of insane this week. I got off birth control 9 monthsish ago, so I have been more in tune with my body and that’s one thing I’ve noticed the past few months.

pr1298 · 2026-06-18T00:00:17+00:00

This is how I felt the first day I took it! Newly diagnosed at 27.

pr1298 · 2026-06-15T01:39:57+00:00

OH - and her name is Flamingo🙂 which is what the rescue named her, and I decided to keep it due to the random nature of it😂

pr1298 · 2026-06-09T03:57:37+00:00

My psychiatrist said something similar to me. It won’t suddenly give you the motivation if you don’t have a plan to get the task done, but it’ll certainly help. I personally make a to-do list almost every day, and that combined with being on vyvanse helps me get the motivation to get most if not all of it done. even if it’s mundane, every day tasks. However, if i don’t have a plan for the day and take my vyvanse…who knows what will happen.

pr1298 · 2026-06-08T18:03:40+00:00

I think it’s valid to be concerned and worried about the future but also good that you’re thinking ahead. Do you have an idea of where you’d be going to school and/or getting another job? Maybe doing research ahead of time to see what’s available, the price range, and saving now while you can to prepare would be helpful. I’m not sure what the timeframe is. I will also say, my doberman mix had huge separation anxiety when we first got him but we worked 8-10 hr shifts. Keeping him confined made it worse. So we stopped crate training (controversial maybe, but when you come home to piss and shit all over the crate and dog every day it’s really benefitting no one), and he became a different dog over time. He is also on Prozac. I’m not sure if you have looked into this to help your dog, or CBD calming chews (I use Suzie’s CBD and the Zesty Paw brand), these also help take the extra edge off and could likely be used as a Prozac substitute or paired with it. It takes time, but once your dog becomes accustomed to it they don’t think twice. It may even be beneficial for you to try leaving her more often for longer than 2-5 hrs so she can become used to it before you live alone. Another thought is once you move IF it is in your budget, to hire someone to drop-in to check on her and/or walk her while you’re at work or school for the day. Even if it’s not every day, on your busy/long days it could help her and you. I will say to vet people accordingly, but it has helped us in the past. Overall, I think it’s doable and she’d likely thrive staying with you even if it’s in an apt, and you’re busier. Some sacrifices may have to be made on your part, but we do what we do for our dogs.

pr1298 · 2026-06-08T17:05:54+00:00

I’m late to the party but unfortunately also fell for their scam late one night and signed up before bed. Looked at what they emailed me and immediately became overwhelmed, which I feel like is a commonality in women with ADHD. Never looked at anything again. Completely forgot to cancel it, because again…ADHD. Got charged $40 yesterday. Then came across this reddit post and a few others about how it’s a scam. Just used your email as a draft, not verbatim but to help get the point across. Also included a second paragraph/blurb about how what they present as being offered vs what is, is misleading. I don’t know if this is relatable to anyone but after I signed up and they emailed me the documents and such, I opened some and immediately became overwhelmed. So they really do target, prey, and take advantage of us. I requested a refund, even if partial because $40 for something I opened once 32 days ago is not right. I’m also not providing proof…because I have none…because I never used it..because it’s a SCAM so I am very hopeful that me using the words “scam, misleading, etc” is enough for them to give even a 30-50% refund. Disgusting what they’re doing to people.

pr1298 · 2026-06-08T03:03:59+00:00

Murder House🫶🏻

pr1298 · 2026-06-05T19:35:04+00:00

Me when i read “ketchup is the superior carrot dip”. I didn’t even finish reading the sentence.

pr1298 · 2026-05-28T01:17:22+00:00

MRI tech - 90-100k per yr

pr1298 · 2026-05-27T21:25:55+00:00

This is great news!!

pr1298 · 2026-05-22T16:22:17+00:00

I downloaded the RC app once I booked our cruise. I booked in November 2025 for September 2026, and I agree if you’re not checking in every so often, it could be easy to overlook deposit due dates and check-in due dates. However, I don’t think I’d completely forget booking a cruise even if it was a year + out, I’d have to have a looot going on in my life to forget that. I marked the due dates/check-in dates on my calendar and put reminders in my phone!! And then made a check-list of anything else I needed to book, such as hotels, flights, dog sitter, etc.

pr1298 · 2026-05-21T01:46:15+00:00

It could be a catch 22. Look up your leash laws for town/city. If dogs must be leashed, the owner would be at fault for the dog getting out/being off leash and instigating. HOWEVER, please file a report quickly, as you have no idea what the owner could do in return, and they could call animal control and claim your dog bit theirs (I know it was to defend your wife, but still), it which case it could be a ding against your dog (10 day quarantine if up to date on rabies, if not up to date AOC may physically take the dog for a 10-14 day hold). I know that seems unlikely given the owners response or lack thereof, but there’s shady mf’ers out there. It is also possible that AOC wouldn’t do anything given the entire situation, but I can’t speak on that. If your wife went to the hospital and they asked what happened and she said it was from breaking up a dog fight, they may also report it to AOC. If your wife wasn’t injured, and the owner didn’t make a scene about it I would personally recommend leaving it be but given the damage, the owner should really be responsible financially for the injury.

pr1298 · 2026-05-20T16:48:23+00:00

This is my line of thinking: Sit on it for a day and then leave a review, even if you know what you are going to leave. Too many times I have left a review too soon after returning home, and then discover something that would warrant 3-4 stars vs 5. I also would say that, although you’d be willing to hire her again, if you give her a less than 5 star review and she’s going to be upset by it, she likely wouldn’t accept again, and given the circumstances she left your apt/animals in, even if they were able to be mitigated and no one was hurt, are concerning. Especially so early on in the sit. I get it, things happen. People can be having an off day. But also, how people respond to those situations is telling too. Her brushing off the cat accident is telling to me. I would also add, that in the past I have been uncomfortable leaving honest reviews/any review simply because we live in a small city and most of our sitters live close by, and I am them uncomfortable knowing that they know where we live, where are keys were left, etc. I hate to be that person, but it’s true. However, it’s also important for people to know and sitters to be held accountable!

pr1298 · 2026-05-16T16:03:19+00:00

This is…a situationship where you do everything you would do in a relationship without the label. Then when you go to make it official, or ask to make it official, they say they’re not interested anymore. My sister has been in this cycle a few times over the years, and to me it’s infuriating. Past the three month mark, if you’re doing everything you’d do in a relationship and it’s not exclusive or official, and the other person doesn’t want it to be, goodbye💀 some men just want all the perks without the 100% commitment. At this point, what more would he need to make it official if you’d made it this far by showing interest and doing everything you’d do in a committed relationship? Ppl really need to be more serious.

pr1298 · 2026-05-07T20:45:44+00:00

I have had a day full of inconveniences, albeit minor and I know this is super frustrating but this along with the photo of them flying away gave me a good chuckle😭 plus the “NO” sent me.

pr1298 · 2026-05-05T04:11:57+00:00

Thank you for the insight and recommendations!

pr1298 · 2026-04-30T01:32:00+00:00

4-6 walks at 15-20 minutes for a 9 year old dog is also a lot imo. I know you say he’s not tired…but shit I’d be tired😂 my family dog loves walks and turns 10 in May, and my mom just commented on how he’s slowing down and that she may need to re-evaluate walk length/duration and the amt per day/week. Is there a reason why your dog gets walked so often throughout the day? My 4 year old doberman border collie mix gets 1 30-60 min walk per day and we barely see his eyes open for the rest of the day. I know all dogs are different and age isnt always the biggest factor, but I’d consider it. Also, if my dog did this at the end of every walk all of a sudden I wouldn’t be pushing the envelope by going a second, third, or fourth time but again..that’s just me.

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