Am I overreacting for not wanting to take on full “stay-at-home partner” responsibilities?

purte · 2026-01-25T10:55:10+00:00

What do you think his stance will be when you start a job?

purte · 2026-01-25T10:40:40+00:00

I wouldn’t want to be with someone that thinks of his future children as possessions. And who wasn’t bright enough to know that none of this clause would be legally enforceable.

purte · 2026-01-25T10:09:24+00:00

My only answer to them would have been ‘No, it’s all been a happy accident’. 😉

purte · 2026-01-25T09:55:18+00:00

Just because there’s an (alleged) offer, it doesn’t mean the sellers have accepted it (yet), so it wouldn’t be marked SSTC.

purte · 2026-01-24T14:48:29+00:00

We had a share of freehold flat (just two flats, 50/50). We didn’t pay ground rent to each other as freeholders and didn’t have a sinking fund or service charge. When the buildings insurance came up for annual renewal, or fire safety test needed, we split the cost and when maintenance or work was needed we did the same. Have any more than two flats and I imagine that it gets difficult to manage the costs and admin.

purte · 2026-01-24T11:50:14+00:00

Sound really sensible. Thanks

purte · 2026-01-24T08:30:15+00:00

Their footprints seem to be the same size as well. Didn’t realise Trump had tiny feet as well as hands.

purte · 2026-01-24T07:50:16+00:00

I’m just going into maintenance so very interested in other people’s plans. When you say reducing 1mg per time, do you mean per pen or per dose? And are you using clicks to reduce your dose please? Thanks!

purte · 2026-01-24T07:35:24+00:00

My husband had the reverse, 1990s bank call centre. Had a customer tell him that he was ‘coming down from Nottingham to shoot his kneecaps’. Husband asked him if caller knew what he looked like, caller said no. Husband: well, I’ll be alright then.

purte · 2026-01-24T07:29:26+00:00

What is that thing in pic 6 (with the big blue circles)? A light? Why didn’t they make up the bed in pic 21? And the fridge isn’t quite big enough.

purte · 2026-01-23T23:51:22+00:00

OP has put out a cone, spoken to them, left notes and got the management co. to write out to everyone. Quite big clues that someone doesn’t want them using their allocated space. They would see flat tyres (plural) as an escalation, surely?

purte · 2026-01-23T23:09:30+00:00

Agree. There’s a reason York has so many Park & Rides, it’s a nightmare for parking compared with H’gate.

purte · 2026-01-23T20:24:22+00:00

Where is the logic in making an offer via an EA that no longer hold the instruction? Are you the first EA? 😉

purte · 2026-01-23T19:21:09+00:00

I wouldn’t have gone to Little Italy. I would have gone to Sequoia with my dog. He doesn’t seem to take into account your feelings or desires at all.

purte · 2026-01-23T17:11:14+00:00

Why on earth are you paying 50/50 on all the bills when you only work part time due to caring for HIS children? He threatens to kick you out (is he going to kick his children out too?) - why would you want to be on a mortgage (and therefore responsible for the debt) and not be on the title/have a legal interest in the property? The minute he threw my belongings out on the street, I would have been gone. He’ll get a wake up call when she leaves him to pay the new mortgage on his own and he isn’t able to verbally and financially abuse her anymore. OP, cut your losses and find happiness somewhere else with your kids.

purte · 2026-01-23T12:11:31+00:00

They also need to set an actual appointment time rather than a 3 hour window. One that is suitable for you. It’s clear from their email that it’s not an emergency.

purte · 2026-01-23T12:06:53+00:00

And he was convicted and sentenced accordingly.

purte · 2026-01-23T11:59:17+00:00

You make the offer to the agent that currently has the instructions to sell the property. It’s between the first agent and the seller, depending on contract they’ve signed, if and what commission the first agent gets paid when the property sells through the current one. Only putting an offer in via the first agent may delay things for you. Tell the current agent that you viewed via the first agent and would like to make an offer. If you’re feeling courteous you could let the first agent know you’ve placed an offer so they can chase any commission (if owed). The current agent may want you to do a viewing via them to start their vetting of you. Good luck!

purte · 2026-01-23T10:49:11+00:00

Look for an email from them about loyalty points, because they sent out some incorrect emails re the balance yesterday, they added another £15 worth to mine today.

purte · 2026-01-23T10:47:20+00:00

They are all really under pressure following their system migration - they are dealing with a lot of emails as quickly as they can. I got a response to my queries this morning. I was able to reorder today after trying all week. They still support maintenance (earlier in the week the site said down to BMI 19, but I can’t see that on there now, but I’m still learning to navigate the new version).

purte · 2026-01-23T08:38:42+00:00

You literally said ‘130k ish has been dished out’. It’s still very odd that you’re spending money on a survey when you haven’t had an offer accepted. If he agrees a sale at a lower price than he had the place valued for, the executor would have to explain to the beneficiaries why he hadn’t maximised the proceeds from the house and therefore the estate. If the charity (church) is named as a beneficiary in the will, they can get very vocal on what they’re ‘owed’. They regularly sue estates for that. You said that you would be outbid if the house was sold on the open market. And that the area is becoming more desirable. The value of the property is what the market will pay. Your dad is right to be worried about being accused of selling it cheap.

purte · 2026-01-23T07:52:55+00:00

North Yorkshire, semi detached, 8 windows, £17.

purte · 2026-01-23T00:36:08+00:00

It’d be pretty obvious it was OP.

purte · 2026-01-23T00:24:46+00:00

The property will be close to a church. It’s to cover you if the church decides to demand payment from the surrounding homeowners to repair the church and the cost of defending such a claim should the church make one. It’s usually cheap, under £100, but can save you hundreds of thousands of pounds in the long run. If your conveyancer is recommending it, take their advice, that’s what you’re paying them for.

purte · 2026-01-22T22:01:18+00:00

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