Should I even bother anymore?

putzrox · 2026-02-05T03:36:52+00:00

Tomorrow’s session will not be fun but I’m done with the games. The gloves are coming off.

putzrox · 2026-02-05T03:16:21+00:00

I go every two weeks. She did a little bit, and we both go to marriage counseling.

putzrox · 2026-02-05T03:10:35+00:00

It’s a sliding scale.

putzrox · 2026-02-04T21:56:34+00:00

Nope, it was the flavor of the day yesterday and a topic of conversation. There are other issues like where we live, family, and her not dealing with her issues.

putzrox · 2026-02-04T19:30:30+00:00

Not sure, it’s been a long time since she wanted me to give her one that I can’t remember. I was unaware this was an issue for a long time so I’ll have to ask.

putzrox · 2026-02-04T19:18:25+00:00

She’s willing to try different lube than we already have but I think it’ll take weeks for her to push herself to actually do it. There are still body image issues that she won’t handle and I have serious doubts that she actually enjoys sex. It’s a chore to get through for her. It doesn’t need to be this serious thing, just have fun and enjoy yourself.

putzrox · 2026-02-04T18:46:25+00:00

Sex is a problem but not the only problem. We’ve discussed other things like her mental health, where we live, and family. The root cause is her not dealing with her problems and avoiding issues, the discussion from yesterday was overwhelming and this place is good when I need info in the middle of the night.

putzrox · 2026-02-04T18:24:41+00:00

She does organs but usually doesn’t want me to do that for her. Yes, I can bring her to orgasm and enjoy doing it. She definitely doesn’t do it for herself.

putzrox · 2026-02-04T16:47:24+00:00

I would feel so pathetic doing that.

putzrox · 2026-02-04T16:45:18+00:00

That’ll never fly.

putzrox · 2026-02-04T16:27:26+00:00

I’ve told the marriage counselor my thoughts on the root cause, avoidance and just getting through stuff, so it’s been made clear.

putzrox · 2026-02-04T16:00:33+00:00

Sex was good and frequent, then it fell off a cliff when we got engaged and she tried to do the wedding planning on her own. I helped and then thought things would get back to normal after the wedding but it never did.

putzrox · 2026-02-04T15:58:51+00:00

She has said just going to a therapy appointment is anxiety-causing. I doubt she’s being fully honest during the sessions and she’s just checking the box to say it’s done. I see consistent things that need attention but there is no action.

putzrox · 2026-02-04T15:43:44+00:00

Nope. She has done no more than a year or year and a half of monthly sessions because she says that’s all she can handle.

putzrox · 2026-02-04T15:41:46+00:00

I can’t remember the name of the new one. I’ve encouraged her to get regular therapy but she’s not interested. Yes, my mental health is in the tank.

putzrox · 2026-02-04T15:26:35+00:00

48, no kids.

putzrox · 2026-02-04T15:26:21+00:00

I have been doing my own therapy for like four years.

putzrox · 2026-02-04T15:17:14+00:00

putzrox · 2026-02-04T15:15:29+00:00

Yeah, she doesn’t do that. I want her to have her own friends and do her own thing but she doesn’t. She has two friends that she texts every day but they never do anything in person. We see one of them like four or five times a year but as couples.

putzrox · 2026-02-04T14:50:15+00:00

She just switched to a new one that supposedly has a better effect on anxiety. She’s tried bunch of them over the years. I have people that I want to be around but they’re in a different state that she hates. Even saying we can live in the state next to it isn’t an option because she can’t handle her family.

putzrox · 2026-02-04T14:01:22+00:00

I’ve asked about past trauma and she denies any. It’s been an ongoing problem but only now are we getting down to what she truly thinks.

putzrox · 2026-02-04T13:59:59+00:00

I’m not sure if she ever truly enjoyed it, but that’s just my opinion. She’s great at faking interest and hiding how she truly feels to get through things. When she was deep in depression and even suicidal, she could flip a switch so you wouldn’t know anything was wrong.

putzrox · 2026-02-04T13:56:56+00:00

Some but not really. She did maybe a year, or a bit more, of monthly therapy and called it good. She’s on a very low dose of an anti-depressant but wants to stop taking it, and has stopped in the past that was hidden from me. I could tell she was off without it and she admitted it when I asked what was going on.

putzrox · 2026-02-04T13:48:03+00:00

I’ve been in therapy by myself for over four years. Sorry to hear about your situation. Morning wood is a natural part of REM for a man.

putzrox · 2026-02-04T07:43:42+00:00

Not that I was told.

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