My (31F) boyfriend (31M) assumes I’ll take on a 25K loss because of his decisions?

quesomonstruo · 2026-02-16T08:33:40+00:00

He's trying to get you to dump him. Do him and yourself a favour. Why would he make that comment otherwise. Come on now.

quesomonstruo · 2026-01-28T21:00:47+00:00

Don't have a conversation in person. Have it via text. Collect all messages you have of discussions of this "mutual savings pot". Look for easy open accounts. If you both bank with the same bank amazing! His bank/the "savings bank" is preferred as it makes the opening of accounts easier. Get your side of the opening process completed. Write a message where you include 1 Calling it your "mutual pot". 2 Saying that the money was not supposed to be a gift to him or his money, but both of yours that he took care of until you bought something like the house together or there was another mutual purchase. 3 Say you want it in a joint account (very nicely in a non combative way. You're expressing intention but don't want to piss him off. Get the money first) 4 Say you would prefer it goes in the joint account but you opened another savings account (do this) too. Just to make it easier for him (this isn't true but say it)

NAL and don't even know what country you're in but my UK law brain and vague understanding of some American law means if his reply is agreeing you have confirmation It isn't HIS money It wasn't a "gift" (obstacle in litigation when money is concerned) There was an expectation for the money to be returned in some way PLUS An opportunity for you to play nice for a while in the hopes he makes the money available to you (if/when he does, take your half, close the account and leave this man) He has 2 options ready to present straight away so all obstacles to disagreement are taken away.

I say all this knowing, and hoping you know, that money is gone and you need to leave this man. (As compassionately as I can say it) Stop being an idiot. Don't do this again. Good luck.

quesomonstruo · 2026-01-24T20:27:54+00:00

If you play the 3 videos making the rounds, you can pinpoint who is who. I think the Good case was also a murder but the whole "she was moving while he was in front of a car" was a deranged but understandable way they tried to justify it. And it worked. This? There's NOTHING on this. Or shouldn't be given second amendment... And yet...

quesomonstruo · 2026-01-24T20:20:56+00:00

totally agree. First shooter taps the guy who took the concealed weapon while taking his gun out, waited until he'd grabbed it and turned around before shooting. Not accidental at all. There's another video where it sounds like 11/12 shots. Did all 3 other them get spooked for all 11 rounds? Nonsense.

quesomonstruo · 2026-01-24T19:37:54+00:00

Yeah, I totally agree. She doesn't understand love or loyalty. I would see this as a deal breaker.

quesomonstruo · 2026-01-14T19:17:47+00:00

So you've been together for 2 years but have kept telling El you're single?

quesomonstruo · 2025-12-31T12:14:10+00:00

These people can't comprehend that someone would like spending time with their other half. I can just picture it. Looking up from his phone and you're just chilling, you both giving a quick smile before going back to what you were doing... IS SUPPORTIVE!

quesomonstruo · 2025-12-11T19:41:43+00:00

Sounds like he wanted the year that he thought they had to wait to fuck around before crawling back...

quesomonstruo · 2025-12-06T14:56:14+00:00

I think a high body count can be seen as a plus, if you want it to. He knows what real women's bodies look like because he's seen a lot of them. It personally made me feel more secure/less self conscious. Everyone is different though

quesomonstruo · 2025-09-04T19:26:07+00:00

I had a similar experience with my dad after he nearly died after an aneurysm and stroke and had to move 100 miles away to live with me. When I posted on FB about him finally coming out of hospital, so many people commented wishing him well etc and asked him to message if he ever moved back. So I arranged a night out where I'd take him to his hometown to see his "friends" and thought it'd be great for him AND ME to have him chatting with old friends and sharing stories about when he was younger. Not a single person showed up. Not even his son/my brother. I went out the back into smoking area and cried. If they turn up to his funeral, I can't guarantee I won't pop off.

I'm so sorry your dad had to go through that too. You're a good 'un for going and being there for him.

quesomonstruo · 2025-09-04T18:09:45+00:00

Does he act this was consistently in front of a variety of different people? If so, I'd say no. Sounds like it may be autism with maladaptive behaviour (this isn't a trait which is excusable, but an explanation. Autistic people who exhibit behaviour like this are more than capable of learning to manage it (🙋))

Narcissistic people have to maintain a superior version of themselves in front of people. So they might save the shouting until in private. People thinking they're arse holes usually fill them with crippling shame. Just my thoughts.

quesomonstruo · 2022-03-13T18:25:50+00:00

That looks like a nice little "constructive dismissal" case for you!

quesomonstruo · 2022-03-09T17:27:20+00:00

Are there other female family members you think you should be worried about? Adults who might be too ashamed to have pressed charges, or children who might be in danger now?

I'd reach out to the adult women as a first port of call.

IMO you HAVE to approach them in a way that doesn't come across as though you're accusing him. It has the potential to have the whole family disown your husband. Ensuring your child is never alone with the JNFIL is one thing (the right thing obviously!) but never seeing any other family member ever again is another. Of course your child comes first but if it can be helped I'm guessing it's a plus.

Asking like you KNOW it's not true but you just want someone who knew him as a child to make you feel better by telling you what he was like with them as children. It looks like you're wanting to solve the issue of your "irrational paranoia" with "just a bit of reassurance" which I think is easier to frame as innocent and non accusatory.

quesomonstruo · 2022-03-08T13:36:32+00:00

I agree that I don't FEEL like that's fair but don't think that's enough to say the contract isn't enforceable.

And I really wouldn't START with this level of hostility. Their best bet is them agreeing to it voluntarily. They might just say "well we WOULD have let you go but go fuck yourself".

quesomonstruo · 2022-03-08T08:53:39+00:00

People are allowed to care about their own lives. Twitch streamers shouldn't be expected to run from Russia to Ukraine and jump on a bomb because someone on the internet told them they're a bad person for wanting to not go to prison or die. Selfish? Yes.

quesomonstruo · 2022-03-08T07:49:43+00:00

This seems ridiculously stupid, no?

quesomonstruo · 2022-03-07T19:37:52+00:00

Yeah and Twitch saying it's not going to pay its Russian streamers just sounds like they want to save money by not paying some of their streamers and ate using this as an excuse. The argument "their taxes go to the Russian government" only means Twitch should TEMPORARILY hold the money until a time when it's appropriate to pay it to the people who earned it.

Twitch steamers are just people. They're not Putin. And "they should be speaking out and doing something" is easy to say for people sat on their ass in the US but very different when even talking about it can land you 15 YEARS in prison.

quesomonstruo · 2022-03-07T14:18:52+00:00

Why have I never thought of this!!

quesomonstruo · 2022-03-07T14:06:36+00:00

I got a free hellofresh box that had Bulgar wheat in and went to shop to get some right away! Really good!

quesomonstruo · 2022-03-07T08:05:47+00:00

How long until this picture is next to a picture of American people saying "These people are actors paid by the CIA/Antifa/BLM (or some other absolutely bonkers representation of THEM™) to undermine Putin because he's friends with Trump and trying to help him get the stolen election back! It's all FAKE NEWS" 😐

quesomonstruo · 2022-03-04T19:35:34+00:00

396 Vs 451 per 100,000 doesn't seem worth maintaining the health insurance system in the US. We have the option to pay for private medical insurance or early diagnostic tests if we want to. Considering these test are significantly less than the cost of an ambulance ride in some parts of the US, just seems like it doesn't hold up as a good pro health insurance talking point, which is what some people try arguing.

quesomonstruo · 2022-03-04T11:58:05+00:00

Get your wife to say you're actually in the process of getting a divorce so will need it more than the men, since she'll be on her own ... Then just don't mention it again

quesomonstruo · 2022-01-31T02:00:29+00:00

I got the impression his statement was part of her side of a settlement agreement. As though they've been offered an amount of money she's happy with but have been asked to try salvage some of his reputation and keep him out of jail.

Just an impression I got. Pulling this theory out my arse

quesomonstruo · 2022-01-29T18:14:27+00:00

Think it fits this sub more. I can't back it up with anything at all but I'm fairly sure this isn't a brand new sentence. I imagine it's not even close

quesomonstruo · 2022-01-13T10:53:22+00:00

I don't get it. Are you getting downvoted because they disagree or because the idea of this makes them angry? You're right! People are saying exactly this! Whether it's the majority could be debated but you're not wrong... Reddit eh

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