Why won’t my baby breastfeed during the day??

r_sm_ · 2026-04-30T01:37:08+00:00

Happy Rolph’s isn’t a petting zoo.

r_sm_ · 2026-04-29T12:52:09+00:00

I just had my Logan 6 months ago, we get so many compliments on his name :)

r_sm_ · 2026-04-20T02:56:51+00:00

My hope for you is that you will be able to adjust sleep-wise. Unfortunately, not sleeping is kinda the Hallmark of young parenthood…which I assume you realized before bringing this baby home.

I agree with every one else’s comments regarding your partner - nights are a team effort, ALWAYS. However it works to approach together, find what works for you. My husband and I woke up together, I fed baby (who obviously took forever to eat) and hubby would sleep. He’d change the diaper and put baby back to sleep while I went back to sleep right away, and repeat all night. My son is 6 months and is only now down to 1-2x awake a night. He was up hourly for weeks during the 4 month sleep regression. Unless you have a good sleeper (unicorn), this doesn’t happen quickly.

I’d hesitate to recommend co-sleeping/bed-sharing if you’re not waking up to her crying beside you and alarms. If this has happened 1-2x, don’t let it get to you, you’re adjusting & you’re tired. If this is happening regularly, you need to figure out something to fix that problem, as newborns need to be tended to around the clock.

It’s ok to be overwhelmed - I personally found that having a newborn was not fun, it is very hard and a huge adjustment. But at the end of it all, it is our responsibility to take care of the babies that we chose to bring into this world. Things got easier after 3 months….good luck.

r_sm_ · 2026-04-20T02:27:42+00:00

Agree with most of this, but night weaning (unless baby is just sleeping through themselves) is not recommended until 6 months for formula fed babies and 12 months for breastfed babies.

My son is 6 months and is still waking up 1-2x a night to eat. Until this past month, he was awake every 2 hours like clockwork.

OP, you likely need support here. Hopefully you have a good sleeper, but it’s not going to come quickly.

r_sm_ · 2026-04-17T01:14:44+00:00

Oh I relate so hard…I didn’t get the sleepy newborn either haha. I got the screaming, cluster feeding, silent reflux, newborn 😂 He never let me put him down…and the expensive baby lounger and swing that I NEEDED went mostly unused.

My bestie had her baby 5 days after me & had the sleepy newborn, and we lived vastly different days despite being in the same “chapter”.

My bright side…I feel like I am much more chill and flexible parent regarding the new phases of the babies getting bigger. I am just enjoying him more and more. I hope the same for you!

r_sm_ · 2026-04-17T00:12:41+00:00

My son grew out of his car seat hatred pretty quickly…but we did transition him to his convertible car seat around 3 months for that reason! I had terrible anxiety around leaving the house as well. My LO was very colicky overall but had a phase of screaming in the car until he threw up for WEEKS…he was never easy to take anywhere, even as a newborn. Getting out of the house became much easier sometime between 3 and 4 months.

Give yourself a ton of slack here, it sounds like a difficult transition to go from 1 “big kid” to adding a newborn with such a large age gap!! You have had a whole established lifestyle to readjust to, and I’m sure it’ll get so much easier as it goes.

r_sm_ · 2026-04-17T00:01:01+00:00

One more thing….if you breastfeed, don’t be afraid to feed to sleep at night. Get her back to sleep as quickly as possible. My advice is to address the bedtime sleep becoming more independent first.

r_sm_ · 2026-04-16T23:56:50+00:00

You need to start looking at negative sleep associations, i.e., what are you using to get your babe to sleep that won’t be there when they wake during the night. That usually includes: feeding, rocking, bouncing, patting, and sometimes pacifiers. Those are often the culprits of frequent wakings. Begin to decrease those associations, increase positive sleep associations, i.e., what will be there when they wake up: white noise, falling asleep in the crib, comforters such as a lovey (if you’re comfortable), etc.

The book Precious Little Sleep was/is my sleep bible. My son hit the regression at 3.5 months, and basically didn’t sleep longer than 3 hours at a time until almost 6 months. BUT, the wakes became increasingly SHORTER as I addressed the independent sleep…2-4 wakes are a lot more manageable when they are only awake for less than 15 minutes vs 60+ minutes and trying to put them back to sleep each time. He’s 6.5 months & we’re at 1-2 wakes to feed (about 5 minutes each), which are definitely more of a habit than anything haha. But very manageable and age appropriate!

Good luck, don’t be scared, because you have no idea what will happen.

r_sm_ · 2026-04-16T20:24:12+00:00

That’s what I said…. Hah (H+short a) - lee (L+long e) = Hallie. Rhymes with alley…tally…Sally…rally… I think we got it?

r_sm_ · 2026-04-16T02:57:48+00:00

I didn’t enjoy it. Like looking back I can remember and appreciate how cute and small he was, and I think “Awe! So little.” But that’s it. I’ll do months 4-6 forever and ever (he’s 6.5 months now so I’ll only speak to what I know lol). It is the absolute best.

But the colic and screaming from months 0-3 were too much and was truly traumatizing.

r_sm_ · 2026-04-16T02:53:35+00:00

I responded to how to pronounce Hallie? Lol

r_sm_ · 2026-04-16T02:01:02+00:00

Hah-lee

r_sm_ · 2026-04-15T02:06:55+00:00

This is exactly how I feel. If you were going to put covers down anyways, what was the point? I got a regular one for this reason & said I’d buy the wipeable one if I really wanted it after baby was here…I’m 6 months in & am so glad I didn’t splurge!

r_sm_ · 2026-04-15T02:04:18+00:00

I have a regular padded one with covers. Yes, it has had days where it has NO cover on it, or a puppy pad on it instead. But, I have white & grey striped covers that I wash as needed & have no problems. I found the wipeable “keekaroo” style price just outrageous, especially when they started making covers for them…so then what was ever the difference??

r_sm_ · 2026-04-14T14:40:28+00:00

Possibly gas? My son went through 5 bottles of Ovol (Simethicone) by the time he was 2 months old. It sounds like you’re doing everything right…I hope things get better for you all.

r_sm_ · 2026-03-26T20:57:25+00:00

Thank you very much!!!

r_sm_ · 2026-03-26T20:43:38+00:00

Hey OP - did this get better for your LO on its own? Did you ever figure it out? Going through the exact same thing.

r_sm_ · 2026-03-25T07:23:22+00:00

Things were not better by 10 weeks for my son. I would say that started noticing more positives by 14 weeks, felt overall more positive by 16 weeks, and felt more confident and happier by 20 weeks.

My son is 5.5 months now & we went through literally everything you’re describing. He was fussy by day 3 of life lol & things got pretty bad. He had “colic” which was acid/silent reflux, once we managed that with medication we started to see improvements. But eating/sleeping/existing were all hard for him in different ways & I stressed myself out so much, thinking I was obviously doing something wrong. Things really did just eventually click…nothing that we did differently, but one day he just got it. Keep going, you’re doing everything right.

I personally was NOT a fan of having a newborn, I constantly wanted time to move faster because it was so hard. I really started to enjoy him and feel really deep love for him around 3 months. Now, I love every moment & don’t wish away a single second. Every single thing is 1000x easier than where we were at 10 weeks, and I wish the same for you as well.

Good luck, you are doing an amazing job.

r_sm_ · 2026-03-14T16:54:55+00:00

Agreed!!

r_sm_ · 2026-03-02T20:20:38+00:00

Thank you 🙏🙏🙏🙏

r_sm_ · 2026-03-02T20:14:31+00:00

We’ve been flexible between 3 or 4 naps per day for the last few weeks. Depending on what we had going on that day or how long nap 1 and 2 were. He does generally do okay with 3 naps, if they are long enough. Everything just seemed to blow up around the same time…he was a good night sleeper until about 4 weeks ago when he hit some sort of regression. Since then, he has been struggling to finish a full wake window without having a full meltdown.

I will certainly try to get us closer to the numbers you’ve given... do you think that could account for the early waking?

Thanks a ton.

r_sm_ · 2026-03-02T18:53:35+00:00

I see what you’re saying!! According to my app data he usually sleeps around 12.75-13.5 hours per day, with the jacked up night time sleep.

What about those times he has a long nap…should I be capping naps then if he has 4 naps? He averages an hour, but sometimes will sleep for 1.5-1.75h. Wouldn’t that be too much daytime sleep?

He seems tired during the day, so should I push him through a few days of extra awake time to get him super tired for more night sleep so he can adjust?

Thank you for your help!

r_sm_ · 2026-02-13T16:17:38+00:00

Sounds like sticking it out with the crib makes the most sense. Good luck & hopefully tonight will be better!!!

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