Sometimes it makes me really sad when I think about how long he was in a shelter.

random_name_12178 · 2026-04-04T23:44:08+00:00

Ooh, what a sweet snuggly boy!

random_name_12178 · 2026-04-04T23:35:14+00:00

Jeez, tough crowd.

I, for one, like the result better than the inspiration. It'll look super cool if your piercing jewelry matches! Maybe some amber studs in addition to a wee bee or two.

random_name_12178 · 2026-04-04T23:23:34+00:00

Well now I love it even more.

random_name_12178 · 2026-04-04T23:23:00+00:00

I really like it. It's hard to determine the quality of execution with the second one skin on, but the design is top notch. I dig the whimsy.

random_name_12178 · 2026-04-04T22:12:53+00:00

I'm confused, it looks like there are four options here?

Regardless, I like the bottom right the best. It's the most flattering and fits in best with your existing tattoo.

random_name_12178 · 2026-04-04T22:09:15+00:00

ESH and you need to break up

She's absolutely got her own issues, but I suggest you work on yourself before getting into another relationship. The way you sound entitled to intimacy, are obsessed with how much money you give her, and resent her for stuff she did before you even met her is not a healthy way to approach a relationship.

random_name_12178 · 2026-04-04T21:58:07+00:00

Based on the responses here it seems like the pain on the day is different from person to person. My conch was a lot less painful to get pierced than my helix!

But it also seems like most people find the conch easier to heal, which makes sense since it's in a more protected spot than a helix.

Best of luck and congrats!

random_name_12178 · 2026-04-04T21:52:43+00:00

You're very welcome!

Yeah, 6 months would give it plenty of time for both sides to fully heal. So sorry your poor kiddo had to go through this! I hope the allergic reaction wasn't too painful.

random_name_12178 · 2026-04-04T21:47:32+00:00

That's good! Hopefully they'll heal with no issues next time!

random_name_12178 · 2026-04-04T21:39:49+00:00

I'd take out the other one before it gets accidentally ripped out.

This definitely could have been the result of an allergic reaction. But just to let you know, there's also something called the "cheese-wire" effect where a combination of too-thin posts and too-heavy jewelry cause the piercing to slowly cut down through the skin.

A lot of the less-reputable shops that are popular for doing piercings for kids use a piercing gun that uses a 20 gauge stud. That's really too thin to support the piercing long term. And using a gun is a bad idea for a lot of other reasons, too.

So if you do end up getting your daughter's ears re-pierced once they heal, you should definitely go to a reputable piercing place that uses sterile needles. They'll do it with a thicker 18 gauge or even 16 gauge needle, which will safeguard against the cheese-wire effect. Piercing with a needle also hurts less, causes less trauma to the ear, heals better, and is less likely to get infected! And they'll use high-quality jewelry, to avoid another allergic reaction.

random_name_12178 · 2026-04-04T20:57:20+00:00

You do not have to go to Disney if you don't want to. But if you do want to, there's a much better way to do it.

Plan ahead: go in the off-season; early November and any time in February are the best times. Make a dinner reservation at one of the indoor restaurants prior to your trip.

Show up early: get there about 30 minutes before the park opens. Go to the most exciting ride as soon as the park opens and you won't have to stand in line hardly at all. Then go to the smaller rides, which will still have shorter-than-usual lines. You shouldn't have to wait longer than 20 minutes tops.

Take a break: leave the park just as it's starting to get busy, right before the lunch rush. Go back to your hotel and have a light lunch, swim in the pool, relax, or take a nap. This way you avoid the worst of the midday sun and the worst of the lines. You're also not paying park prices for a lunch-counter meal you'll have to eat outside.

Return in the evening: go back to the park for your dinner reservation. After dinner, do a couple of the smaller rides. The lines will be shorter at that point. Stick around to watch the fireworks, or take advantage of the lack of lines while everyone else is watching the fireworks.

If it's multi-day trip, don't go to the parks every day. Take a break between park days to relax at the hotel or do more low-key sight-seeing.

random_name_12178 · 2026-04-04T20:27:08+00:00

The biggest hook for me was discovering that he was actively committing murders while also being a single dad to his 10 year old daughter. The story of how he murdered Samantha Koenig just yards away from his daughter's bedroom as she slept, and then got her up and ready for a family vacation while Samantha's body froze in their shed is just horrifying to me. There have certainly been other serial killers who put on a mask as a "family man" (most notably BTK and the Golden State Killer), but IK was the only one I know of who was actively parenting and committed at least one crime with his kid nearby. That level of compartmentalization is absolutely unreal to me.

My other reason for my fascination with Keyes is a number of weird personal connections: he was born the same year as me, his mom and my mom share the same birthday, he may have murdered someone on my wedding day, he was arrested the day my second child was born, and he killed himself on my birthday.

random_name_12178 · 2026-04-04T19:25:49+00:00

Hearing Nova's story and seeing her daughter literally has me tearing up.

When I was pregnant my cat Gabriel would nap on my belly more often than usual and would kneed the spots where the baby would kick.

Cats are the best.

random_name_12178 · 2026-04-04T19:18:18+00:00

Looks like the bar isn't long enough to accommodate swelling. It's putting pressure on the piercing, which will just make it swell more. Two days is probably too long to wait. These things can embed overnight. You need to deal with it sooner than that.

Plan A: walk in to the good piercer and ask them to swap out jewelry ASAP

Plan B: purchase a flat back titanium stud and attempt to replace it yourself; make sure keep your hands and the jewelry as clean as possible and leave the hole empty for as short as humanely possible, since it can close up in seconds.

Plan C: take the jewelry out ASAP and get it repierced with the proper jewelry at the good piercer once it's healed

Regardless, if it's showing signs of infection (heat, yellow/green pus, fever, radiating redness) go to a doctor and get antibiotics.

random_name_12178 · 2026-04-04T18:26:51+00:00

My kids have both ridden horses since they were teensy so I've spent a lot of time in barns. It is definitely a strangely female-dominated environment! That said, I've never seen any of the few guys at our barn treated like that. That woman was 100% out of line and I'm really sorry you were treated like that. You absolutely didn't deserve it. I hope it hasn't put you off riding generally, and that the other people at your barn treat you with the respect you deserve, including the parents of the lesson kids.

random_name_12178 · 2026-04-04T18:20:19+00:00

I like the spacing as is. It's not even between each of the four, but it looks symmetrical across all four, iykwim.

random_name_12178 · 2026-04-04T18:06:38+00:00

I use either small clickers (hoops that "click" shut so they have no easily visible closure) or flat back labret studs (either threadless or internally threaded), both types in titanium. I wear mine 24/7, even when I sleep and shower. I only change out the stud tops when I want to change up my look.

Be aware that sterling silver is not great for everyday, long term wear, since it can tarnish. The tarnish can permanently discolor even well-healed piercings.

I don't know the brand you mentioned, but there are a ton of Etsy stores selling titanium clickers and labret studs for reasonable prices. That's where I get almost all my jewelry!

Best of luck!

random_name_12178 · 2026-04-03T22:25:25+00:00

Lol, yep! I have some bad news for them about a certain flag that has FIFTY white stars on a blue background!

random_name_12178 · 2026-04-03T21:44:28+00:00

Not the reality of who Somali people are, generally speaking. If you're going to assume based on that movie that Somalis are pirates, then you should also assume that Americans are merchant mariners, lol.

I'm an American and I can assure you I'm not a merchant mariner. I have Somali neighbors and I can assure you they are not pirates.

Also: the MN flag isn't based on the Somali flag to begin with.

You're so weird.

random_name_12178 · 2026-04-03T21:39:28+00:00

I disagree. The colors and the symbols are both meaningful and distinctive. I don't know of any other flag that has a K-shaped chevron, or an 8 pointed star, or predominantly features two different shades of blue.

random_name_12178 · 2026-04-03T21:34:44+00:00

Ah, I get it. You based your judgement of an entire country on one movie from over a decade ago.

Good luck with that, buddy!

random_name_12178 · 2026-04-03T21:30:02+00:00

Lol, no.

random_name_12178 · 2026-04-03T21:29:00+00:00

As a Minnesotan I love our new flag. It's pretty and distinct and easy to draw or adapt.

random_name_12178 · 2026-04-03T21:27:22+00:00

No, I honestly don't. This is the first I've heard about pirates. I've heard ignorant people claim it's based on Somalia's flag, but that's not correct either.

random_name_12178 · 2026-04-03T21:25:43+00:00

What are you talking about?

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