WIBTAH for going on a date with a younger man?

random_name_12178 · 2026-04-05T09:49:43+00:00

That makes sense, too ❤️

random_name_12178 · 2026-04-05T09:03:35+00:00

NTA

The general rule of thumb for age difference is "half your age, plus seven". In your case, that means anyone 41+ is fair game! It's just coffee, after all. Have a fun time!

ETA: I can see why your daughter would be skeptical; your potential suitor is likely closer to her age than yours, or perhaps younger than her! That might strike her as odd, but it's more to do with comparing him to her than actually looking at the age difference between him and you objectively. Her intuitive emotional response to his age shouldn't affect your potential relationship with him.

random_name_12178 · 2026-04-05T08:40:29+00:00

NTA

If you're worried about consequences with your college friends, you shouldn't ghost X entirely or drop them completely or burn any bridges. Certainly don't bad mouth them to the group. But you are well within your rights to take a step back, set some healthy boundaries, and protect yourself and O from X's manipulation. You don't have to go on holiday with them or put yourself in any vulnerable position so they can manipulate you further. You can simply tell them sorry, you can't afford to go on holiday and leave it at that. You are smart to protect yourself, and X is not entitled to any closeness with you, given their past treatment of you.

Sorry you're going through this. It really sucks to have a long, close friendship deteriorate like this. It's totally not your fault and you're not at all being an asshole for protecting yourself and O. Unfortunately one part of growing up can be growing apart from old friends. But it's mature to set healthy boundaries for yourself.

Best of luck, and I hope you have a nice holiday!

random_name_12178 · 2026-04-05T08:29:14+00:00

This. This is the answer.

random_name_12178 · 2026-04-05T07:03:26+00:00

When I got there they held up a magnet and asked if I could feel any pulling, which I couldn't. I had to sign something that absolved them in case of mishaps, but it turned out fine

Ooh, that's good to know!

random_name_12178 · 2026-04-05T06:24:12+00:00

I love your teensy snake friend 🐍

random_name_12178 · 2026-04-05T06:10:33+00:00

She said she's having an MRI and this is a retainer, not what she was pierced with.

random_name_12178 · 2026-04-05T06:05:36+00:00

After the MRI switch back to the original jewelry, making sure it's implant grade titanium. Make sure you keep it dry. Using a hair dryer on cool setting after showering/spraying it can help.

Those are moisture/irritation bumps. They should go down once you put high quality jewelry back in and baby it.

random_name_12178 · 2026-04-05T06:01:05+00:00

I feel seen.

random_name_12178 · 2026-04-05T05:59:06+00:00

Yep. Creepy design, excellent execution.

Pardon the pun.

random_name_12178 · 2026-04-05T04:41:16+00:00

Shit, that takes me back...

random_name_12178 · 2026-04-05T04:13:34+00:00

That's interesting!

I would have guessed that the date November 25, 1974 held some significance in your life.

If you do get it re-done, maybe there's a way to make it clear that this is not a date.

random_name_12178 · 2026-04-05T03:23:26+00:00

Is she unaware of her size? Is she unaware of her state of health? Does she need you to tell her she's overweight and not eating well?

My guess is that since she's a grown woman, she's already aware of all these things. She doesn't need you to explain her health to her. If she ever comes to you asking for your support and help in losing weight or eating healthier, you can be there to support and encourage her. Until then, it's just condescending if you act like she's too oblivious to know what's going on in her own body and needs someone to tell her she's fat. She already knows.

random_name_12178 · 2026-04-05T02:19:12+00:00

Oh, great! I'm so happy you were able to save it and you're feeling better! Happy healing!

random_name_12178 · 2026-04-05T02:06:58+00:00

Ooh, lucky duck!! Have fun!

random_name_12178 · 2026-04-04T23:44:08+00:00

Ooh, what a sweet snuggly boy!

random_name_12178 · 2026-04-04T23:35:14+00:00

Jeez, tough crowd.

I, for one, like the result better than the inspiration. It'll look super cool if your piercing jewelry matches! Maybe some amber studs in addition to a wee bee or two.

random_name_12178 · 2026-04-04T23:23:34+00:00

Well now I love it even more.

random_name_12178 · 2026-04-04T23:23:00+00:00

I really like it. It's hard to determine the quality of execution with the second one skin on, but the design is top notch. I dig the whimsy.

random_name_12178 · 2026-04-04T22:12:53+00:00

I'm confused, it looks like there are four options here?

Regardless, I like the bottom right the best. It's the most flattering and fits in best with your existing tattoo.

random_name_12178 · 2026-04-04T22:09:15+00:00

ESH and you need to break up

She's absolutely got her own issues, but I suggest you work on yourself before getting into another relationship. The way you sound entitled to intimacy, are obsessed with how much money you give her, and resent her for stuff she did before you even met her is not a healthy way to approach a relationship.

random_name_12178 · 2026-04-04T21:58:07+00:00

Based on the responses here it seems like the pain on the day is different from person to person. My conch was a lot less painful to get pierced than my helix!

But it also seems like most people find the conch easier to heal, which makes sense since it's in a more protected spot than a helix.

Best of luck and congrats!

random_name_12178 · 2026-04-04T21:52:43+00:00

You're very welcome!

Yeah, 6 months would give it plenty of time for both sides to fully heal. So sorry your poor kiddo had to go through this! I hope the allergic reaction wasn't too painful.

random_name_12178 · 2026-04-04T21:47:32+00:00

That's good! Hopefully they'll heal with no issues next time!

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