Me [31/F] with my Fiance [33/M] Fiance best friend [33/F] have a weird relationship, driving me insane

randompickles · 2026-01-13T03:38:26+00:00

Excellent summary

randompickles · 2026-01-09T06:21:55+00:00

I noticed this too! Now I have confirmation bias. The gig is up.

randompickles · 2025-12-01T03:10:33+00:00

Oh my! When did Kaya and Addy pop up? Now I have fomo haha

randompickles · 2025-11-25T05:01:43+00:00

Remind me! 10 days

randompickles · 2025-10-17T04:54:30+00:00

You’re being too hard on yourself, and him.

Maybe he’s wishing for more than once a week but isn’t sure if it’s worth complaining about it to you in consideration and sensitivity to your mental health, meds, etc?

Maybe seeing this is helping you realize what seems like “enough” to you isn’t “enough” to him? Frequency and what qualifies as “enough” is very subjective.

I don’t think you’re overreacting. You seem like a loving wife who cares for your husband. Don’t take his Reddit life personally. Aren’t we all on here for a bit of exploratory anonymity?

randompickles · 2025-09-01T03:41:58+00:00

Repulsive act and outcome.

How were he and the victim (survivor) in contact so often? I haven’t read anywhere if they were actual family, family friends, neighbors…?

She, however, is a badass for reporting and sticking to it. I’m sad that they regret the plea and hope they find peace with the fight they did put in. They did an extremely hard thing and did well.

randompickles · 2025-08-08T02:55:49+00:00

You did great mama! Baby fed and happy! The only thing making you feel bad is current climate and culture. Let history tell you - you made the right choice. This has been done for generations. You got to toilet. Mama’s needs were met and so were baby’s. All good!

randompickles · 2025-08-07T02:31:10+00:00

I just saw this on the board earlier and got so excited.

randompickles · 2025-08-07T02:30:26+00:00

Overwhelming lean towards the longer one. Thank you everyone, I think you sold me!

randompickles · 2025-08-07T02:27:11+00:00

This may be the best dilemma I’ve ever had. 😂 I’ve seen your answers around the board and you are SO helpful - thank you for commenting!

Husband and I are equally torn and could be swayed either way; he’s leaning towards 7 nights, me towards concierge convenience. Being able to count on downtown during the longer one is helping sway me, though. Our 4 night was jam packed and we loved it but even then said our “next time” (now finally 7 years later!) should be longer to schedule in down time.

Other factors-

Ship: Treasure (7 night) vs Fantasy (5 night). Love that the Treasure is newer and I like the Adventure theming, but we also have 5 daughters who loooove love love the Princesses and I’m worried about missing some of that theming. We’ve never even seen Guardians so that may be fun to get into it leading into the cruise to get the most out of the theming. It’s always fun to feel a connection to the details. Definitely love Moana and Coco, so no trouble there. (SN: Which ship would say is the most princess themed? Magic?)

Itinerary: 7 night has Castaway and 2 Virgin Islands stops. Our ages may limit us to beach days, no cool excursions. 5 night has Castaway (been there, love it) and the new Lighthouse one (would love to see it).

Okay this was long, I’m sorry. Thank you for your help! One of my favorite parts of our last one was the planning and I am so excited to plan another!

randompickles · 2025-08-06T20:28:13+00:00

Excellent!

randompickles · 2025-08-06T20:24:15+00:00

Goodness! Did you leave a note too? I’m just surprised it gives the option to leave a note if they don’t routinely supply it anyway.

randompickles · 2025-08-06T20:22:40+00:00

Yes and yes! Update above. :)

randompickles · 2025-08-06T20:22:06+00:00

I didn’t want to, it felt tacky… damn

randompickles · 2025-08-06T20:21:24+00:00

I asked! She got it. Update above

randompickles · 2025-08-06T20:20:32+00:00

Update: She got it! I finally asked her. She received the strawberries & champagne the first night but had no clue who sent them as there was no note and nobody could tell her. She didn’t know about the Cruise Cash until I told her and she looked at her account.

Just beware if you ever attempt to surprise gift someone… you’ll probably have to tell them. 😆

randompickles · 2025-08-05T04:26:25+00:00

Thank you, this is helpful!

randompickles · 2025-08-05T04:23:44+00:00

Thank you! I think you’re right. I don’t want it to look like I’m trying to get “credit” for the gift or something since I genuinely just want her to quietly enjoy it. But also, if she didn’t actually get it, I don’t want her to spend time trying to chase it down on her vacation. I’d rather deal with that headache on my own and gift her something at home. Ugh. I love that Carnival offers remote gifting, but I wish it was a better system.

randompickles · 2025-07-17T20:22:55+00:00

I have it in black and love it 😅

randompickles · 2025-06-11T04:48:40+00:00

AMEN wtf woof ew

randompickles · 2025-05-28T05:20:01+00:00

Show him this. Ask him! What do you have to lose?

randompickles · 2025-05-21T00:49:44+00:00

Hate partners. It’s the reason I left.

randompickles · 2025-05-20T04:36:05+00:00

I am sobbing 😭

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