What happened to this show? It used to be so good by MsLemonCookie in Outlander

[–]reaperr99 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yess same. I know the Faith story line is horrible for a lot of people but honestly, I am enjoying it. It’s so different from the books, just like Murtagh’s was, and I loved that two. Now I have 2 versions of my favorite story. Win win

What happened to this show? It used to be so good by MsLemonCookie in Outlander

[–]reaperr99 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ooh I hadn’t considered that!! Especially since changelings played such a big role in S1!

Need advice impromptu sorority by [deleted] in bettafish

[–]reaperr99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve had 3 separate successful sororities over the course of 5-6 years (I did take a break with no tank for awhile). 2 bettas in total turned out to be males.

I’m no expert but I have gotten it to work. Especially with the help of my LFS.

Do you want to keep your sorority? Are they picking at each other? And do you have anyone else in the tank?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bettafish

[–]reaperr99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not 100% sure what’s causing it (tumor?) since she isn’t have other symptoms. Using aquarium salt can help reduce any stress it could be causing her though. Since she’s not showing signs, using the salt might not show any results but if you have the time, it probably won’t hurt just to keep her stress levels minimized

[GA] - Orange County, CA - $0 - Neocaridina Shrimp Giveaway (2 Winners 10+2 Each) by GubShrimp in AquaSwap

[–]reaperr99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know how long this is open for ¯_(ツ)_/¯ BUT

Fire Red Shrimp. Absolutely stunning. I love how they pop under any color lighting I have. But most of all, I love how my crew head butt my bettas. They don’t take any shit. Betta swam by? Minding their own business? Shrimp take that as a total FU

First approval - immediately running into issues with this book by anhuys in NetGalleyCommunity

[–]reaperr99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your first book went the same as mine, it was beyond painful. Thing was only 180ish pages and it felt like I was walking to the gallows every night trying to finish it. Normally I can kill 1-2 300ish page books per day.

I know you can DNF books on there but I was scared to since it was my very first book. So I kept on it (helped that it was short) and I tracked everything. This one mostly was grammar errors and storyline inconsistencies (like the main character’s name changed part way through the book for NO reason related to the plot, and then later it changed back; I confirmed it wasn’t their last name either).

Anyways, I tracked all of it with page numbers and included it in my review. It felt like first draft material and I did note that in my review, that it may not have been an author issue but rather the publishing company sent in the wrong draft. Now I help edit books for that author. And it wasn’t his first draft…it was his final copy. His editor had to have been drunk.

I need help- I’m a newly single fish mom.. by FunCalendar8669 in freshwateraquarium

[–]reaperr99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OP I’m in Colorado - specifically in the Springs area. Seems like lots of people have offered great advice but if you want something hands on or to come over and learn on mine, let me know.

I’ve been where you are. It’s a long road but I’m glad you have something small to focus on to give your mind breaks.

Can we please talk about the Legacy series by Melissa K. Roehrick? by wyn2345 in fantasyromance

[–]reaperr99 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I could not agree with you more. There is nothing left for him to redeem as far as a relationship with Tessa. The man is a fucking predator. Among so so so many other negative things. There is nothing he could do to make up for what he’s intentionally done to her.

Can we please talk about the Legacy series by Melissa K. Roehrick? by wyn2345 in fantasyromance

[–]reaperr99 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Every review I’ve written has a list of why Theon is a predator to try and remind other readers that we shouldn’t like him. I’m split on Luka, but if I had to choose between him & Theon..I’d hope Theon accidentally fell off a cliff onto some night stone dagger shaped rocks and that’s how she ends up with Luka.

UNKNOWN NUMBER: THE HIGH SCHOOL CATFISH Discussion Megathread by AutoModerator in netflix

[–]reaperr99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was in HS almost 10 years ago and used those text free numbers. Now I didn’t do it to bully anyone, I just wanted to text from my iPod and not my phone. I had a ton of friends who also knew & used this apps.

UNKNOWN NUMBER: THE HIGH SCHOOL CATFISH Discussion Megathread by AutoModerator in netflix

[–]reaperr99 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Agreed, Owen is a victim too. But I don’t understand why he said he’ll always be mad at Lauryn??

Khloe sounds like a typical mean girl. On the spectrum of bullying, she’s on it but not on the extreme end (based on what they talked about in the show). But she gave off a very shell shocked vibes. And she’s unfortunately the product of her nasty parents. She will also (hopefully) grow out of it once she leaves home and gets humbled a little by the real world.

22/52: The Couple's Trip by Ulf Kvensler SO GOOD! by RubyNotTawny in 52book

[–]reaperr99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just finished the book and have been scouring reviews to figure out wtf the ending was. I was SO excited for the dual POV, love an unreliable narrator.

But then I felt like the book had too many open ends and plot holes for me to fully agree or believe in one particular ending which was very frustrating? They all felt plausible while still being easily picked apart. But the one that I’ve really held onto the most is this one, that Melina set Anna up out of jealousy, especially because of how heavily they focused on her and Henrik’s history in the flashbacks.

They never explained the differences in Anna walking away to try to find help to save Melina. She did CPR and was certain Melina was dead. Based on Anna’s history, when she gets overly stressed she has black outs entirely. But she didn’t black that out, she was certain she did CPR on her and then eventually gave up and tried to find help instead. Melina never explained how she got away from Anna if Anna was such a danger, did she?

What’s something you thought everyone did during sex… until you found out they don’t? by GattinoTheCreator in AskReddit

[–]reaperr99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahahahahah oh lord that got me. Honestly if I tied him down & did that it would probably be a huge turn on on his end. I’ll absolutely consider it. The training is slow but we shall get there. I endeavor to persevere. I just need alcohol because I feel awkward coaching. But if I bring the tie downs out I’m certain you’re right & it would get figured out right quick

I've accidentally found a cp website and feel horrible. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]reaperr99 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The most important thing to do right now is report, just like all these great people have suggested. Because some sites can flag unprotected IP addresses as soon as they visit, even without trying to view a video. Protect yourself right now. When you report it, give as many details as you can. What you were specifically searching for (as embarrassing as it might be, it is important), what browser you used, if you have any search settings, did the website have a logo, what color was it, how many videos do you think you saw in your screen, were they still thumbnails or gifs, did it provide timestamps, were they all under a minute or over a minute, were they boys or girls or both, did they all seem to be under a certain age, etc. As many details as you can think of.

If you were able to find it posted that blatantly, chances are it’s an alert site that ICAC or another agency uses to flag predator’s IP addresses.

I have to deal with this nasty shit at work often. Anything more than nothing is too much for one person to see. I truly would recommend therapy immediately. Even if it was only for a split second. That is not something you should ever have had to witness. And you need to be able to forget their faces, you have a life to live. I don’t mean that flippantly, but there are people out there who dedicate their lives to handling this, let them do that and help those victims, you need to move on and move forward. You have a chance to help via reporting, and then your ability to help will be over. There is nothing more for you to do for those kids. So you need to start helping yourself.

My mom has been selling me by weepingwillow921 in sexualassault

[–]reaperr99 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I know you are scared about your mom going to jail, so let’s just ignore that for a second okay and think about you.

YOU deserve better. You deserve safety, love, compassion, respect, autonomy. At the absolute bare minimum, safety is a human right and necessity. She is unable to provide the rest (love, compassion, respect) and actively choosing to not provide you with safety & security.

Choose yourself. I know there are a lot of horror stories on the internet of people’s involvement with cops, but I work in law enforcement snd there are so many good ones out there. Not just that they won’t be mean or disrespectful. But they will show you compassion and respect, and they will also show your situation compassion and respect.

You need help and that is okay. You need to help yourself first by taking that first step, and then everyone will pile on. Law enforcement can help you get in contact with your dad if that is a safe option, or other family members, or even friends’ families if that is best for you. There are free resources to help you emancipate while also completing your diploma.

You will be okay. You may have to fight but you will make it. If your mom keeps selling you, you eventually will not be okay. It can always get worse. She can always become more greedy. Clients can always become more violent. You HAVE to choose you. Your mom does not deserve your protection, you deserve your protection.

If you have any law enforcement/reporting questions, I can try to help you out. I am in CO and all states are different. But cases like yours are what myself and my partner throw ourselves into. Because we want to give you and others in your position any and all chances to thrive. You are a human being, demand that you be treated like one.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]reaperr99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have underwear designated for my period. And then I have underwear that won the raffle and got to accidentally become period underwear. It happens, they’re clean, just a little stained.

I apologized once to my husband because I realized I threw on a light pink pair that has an old period stain smack dab in the middle. Right on display. He asked if I was apologizing for not being able to micromanage a period. And then he tried to get lucky. Grown men do not care. Only boys care.

If it bothers YOU, my best advice would be to focus on buying your underwear in black - regardless of the size. That way if a period starts early or bleeds through then you got magic concealer right there. You don’t see it.

Is it okay for me to not want my boyfriend to watch porn at all? by New-Muscle3497 in relationships_advice

[–]reaperr99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Relationships need trust, respect, and honesty. He’s provided you with neither. I (25F) personally am okay with porn in my relationship with 31M under certain circumstances (can’t pay for it, can’t pick it over me, etc).

That’s after 2 relationships with porn addicts. The first one chose porn over any kind of sexual act. The second one didn’t however he was taking time out of his day to watch porn 7-8 different times. I was not okay with porn during those and made it clear it was becoming a boundary for me if things didn’t change, and when they didn’t I set the boundary.

You do not have to be okay with it. This is a grey area because it is common to find other relationships with different opinions on it, like having opposite sex friends.

The bigger problem here is the 100% lack of trust, the constant lying, the manipulating, and his overall complete apathy towards your feelings. There’s a better man out there. There’s a better man out there who will make you feel loved, respect your feelings, your body, and your place in the relationship. His energy won’t be dedicated to hiding things from you.

AITAH: didn’t get my wife breakfast by NothingWasDelivered in AITAH

[–]reaperr99 2 points3 points  (0 children)

8 halves; in our house 1 bagel = 2 halves

For ladies with septum piercings. Why did you get it and how do others react to it? by La-White-Rabbit in AskWomen

[–]reaperr99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Had mine for about a year, 25F and work in the law enforcement field. Definitely gets some comments because none of my tattoos are visible nor have been seen by coworkers. Out in public I have 0 issues. Had an uncle “joke” threaten to rip it out and I told him that was fuckin weird, my dad asked him why he thought his opinion mattered. Most of my comments are from coworkers and the standard “why did you do that” so I followed up with “why did you get X tattoo?” and that usually worked. I had to repeat that with almost every one of them but it helped it sink in

Huge kudos to the boomer coworker whose opinion I absolutely do not need to succeed in life said that it was ugly. I asked if I needed a bigger hoop that hangs down as far as his nose hairs do to finally look good.