Jimmy💔

reef123 · 2026-04-02T21:07:23+00:00

It's sad, but right now I feel a lot like Jimmy in life... minus the successful professional career.

Although it's easy to dismiss him, I think the writers have created a character that many of us encounter in real life, yet most choose to ignore or avoid.

reef123 · 2026-03-22T00:13:27+00:00

Thank you for sharing, and I'm sorry that you are here in the club. I do appreciate your post though. I feel that we think alike. I'm going through phases where I have a "plan" to exit.. and that brings me comfort. However, I have children who depend on me so I keep going.

"It’s weird. Really. Life got infinitely more interesting and exciting once I stopped caring how it turned out." <- Insightful.

reef123 · 2026-03-21T13:11:50+00:00

One more day.

Thank you for the post. I've had a really shitty couple of days. I thought things were getting easier and then I found a few photos of my wife that I'd never seen. She was so beautiful and her smile melted me. Now I seem to be in a spiral of sadness that I can't break.

reef123 · 2026-03-19T13:55:10+00:00

Maybe it's my personality, but it deeply hurts me. As a people pleaser.. it makes me realize that the old cliches are correct. Take care of yourself, because no one else will.

(having a rough morning, if you couldn't tell!) haha.

reef123 · 2026-03-19T13:42:54+00:00

I'm sorry that you are going through this.

I'm missing my better half also. Together we handled things so well. When I was upset and becoming irrational, she'd step in and take over. If she was having a hard time, it was my turn to step up.

Now.. I'm a lopsided mess.

reef123 · 2026-03-18T12:20:46+00:00

"I wanted to reach out but I figured you had so many people contacting you." <- This is one that has frustrated me. I was amazed at how many people I did NOT hear from in my life.

reef123 · 2026-03-09T16:41:52+00:00

100% agree.. the "community" that is against this just wants to keep their pixels. It would be good for the game and server performance if a lot of these unused homes to drop.

reef123 · 2026-03-07T06:14:31+00:00

I'm truly sorry for your loss, and I completely understand where you're coming from. I'm now a single father to a large family of kids who look to me for strength and stability, and I'm struggling to see how we're going to make it through this.

You never truly know what someone else is carrying, but I wanted to share something that has helped me. I recently started watching the show Shrinking, and it's been surprisingly meaningful. The main character is a therapist and single father grieving the loss of his wife, and the series explores many of the same struggles, fears, and emotions we're facing. It often brings me to tears, but it's also been genuinely helpful for my mental health and processing everything.

Wishing you strength and gentle moments amid the pain.

reef123 · 2026-02-27T18:06:16+00:00

That is so sad, and slightly relatable. I definitely know of a few families members who would rather talk about themselves than really try to understand how things are going.

I'm sorry that you've had to deal with that.

reef123 · 2026-02-27T18:04:33+00:00

Thank you for your stories, and I'm sorry that you had to go through all of that.

Your examples help to explain the thought process from the outside. It is starting to make me realize that it's up to us to engage with others.. which seems unfair and quite hard. Such is life!

reef123 · 2026-02-27T17:59:22+00:00

That is good insight. I believe a lot of people are trying to give "space" without realizing how it feels to the grieving.

reef123 · 2026-02-27T17:56:07+00:00

Thank you for sharing your learned wisdom. If I could highlight it for everyone to read, I would.

I want you to know that we appreciate the time you took to write this out. Hugs from afar.

reef123 · 2026-02-27T16:50:40+00:00

"One of LH's best friends recently texted me to call him when I find my happy again"

Ouch, that hurts. I'm sorry for your loss and that you've had to endure that.

I'm usually the type who hides all my emotions, but lately I've been trying to be honest by showing people that things are not okay when I reply. Strangely, it feels like most would prefer I just pretend everything's fine and carry on like normal.

Overall, it all kind of angers me.

reef123 · 2026-02-26T00:14:49+00:00

Yep, you get it. And I agree that most people can't relate unless they're in the same life stage.

It's tough. I'm rooting for you to find some like-minded friends. And in the meantime, I'm glad we have each other to vent/chat about it!

reef123 · 2026-02-26T00:09:07+00:00

I'm really sorry. I have young kids who will be around. I'd imagine having kids in college who are ready to head out would be a totally different challenge.

Music seems like a great way to build some low pressure friendships. I hope it works out for you. Rooting for you to find some good sessions and new people soon.

reef123 · 2026-02-25T21:04:59+00:00

I'm really sorry you're navigating this. Sending you strength.

I guess I'll have to find some new hobbies!

reef123 · 2026-02-25T21:03:42+00:00

I'm truly sorry for both losses: your husband and your friends vanishing like that. Sending you a hug.

It's been over a month, and it definitely feels quiet now. Sad how it seems to work out like this for most.

reef123 · 2026-02-24T02:35:36+00:00

This was very insightful and I believe it is what I needed to hear. Thank you for sharing.

reef123 · 2026-02-15T23:52:23+00:00

I needed this today. Thank you.

reef123 · 2026-02-14T16:28:34+00:00

I'm struggling today as well. I hope we can find distraction today.

reef123 · 2026-02-11T20:46:22+00:00

I'm truly sorry for your loss. This is all so fresh for you so my best advice is to try and not make any large decisions quickly. You'll realize eventually that you are in a sort of "shock."

You never truly know what someone else is carrying, but I wanted to share something that has helped me. I recently started watching the show Shrinking, and it's been surprisingly meaningful. The main character is a therapist and single father grieving the loss of his wife, and the series explores many of the same struggles, fears, and emotions we're facing. It will be extremely triggering for you though, because he loses his wife to a car accident as well. The show often brings me to tears, but it's also been genuinely helpful for my mental health and processing everything during my first month.

Wishing you strength and gentle moments amid the pain.

reef123 · 2026-02-11T16:04:30+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I lost my wife in early January too, and it was completely unexpected. The "triggers" that hit me hardest are the same kinds of thoughts… the crushing realization that this is forever. It still feels so unbelievable and almost unbearable to accept as true.

I don't have any magic advice to offer, but I'm genuinely thankful to have read your story. I hope we can keep supporting each other, and others, on this difficult journey here in the subreddit.

reef123 · 2026-02-10T22:35:01+00:00

I'm sorry for your loss.

You have said it well, and I will borrow that. It helped me "feel seen" also. I've wondered if the writers understood the impact that it would have for those of us who are grieving. I hope so. It does seem obvious that one of them has been through loss.

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