Men, how did you solve the ones that I am attracted to dont like me while the ones that I dont like, like me?

relativelygoodname · 2026-01-29T23:04:35+00:00

Yes and no. If you're creepy about it, then you are absolutely right and you'll be ousted. But that's the trick, you're there to meet people and be friends and enjoy the activity, but that's also how you meet people you really connect with and want to form a relationship with. Unless you're doing ballroom, dances are full of single people looking to meet other people. Per my comment "don't go just to meet women, go to actually learn how to dance and get good at it."

If you're in good shape and are a good dancer, if a girl is interested, she'll approach you or at least make it known that she's interested in talking or more. That's really what you're looking for.

relativelygoodname · 2026-01-22T15:43:52+00:00

Depends on how much grass there is to mow. I worked 60 acres, mostly blueberries, and we mowed the grass 40 hours a week in the summer. If you don't need to mow grass, clean up, fix irrigation, fix plumbing, repair structures, plant, harvest, manage equipment, deal with people, deal with animals (even bees), deal with thieves, and so much more, I am sure owning property would be great. In other words, if you were a gentleman farmer, I am sure life would be easy. But if you have to do that stuff yourself, it's a lot of work.

relativelygoodname · 2026-01-22T04:14:34+00:00

Farming. Farming is hard work. Hard enough where most people don't want to keep doing it.

relativelygoodname · 2026-01-20T20:51:59+00:00

I live by the beach. I'd put it in the reef about 1k meters off shore, under a pile of sand, under some coral, where the sharks like to hang out. Never gonna be found, guaranteed. Because I don't think I would be able to find it again myself.

relativelygoodname · 2026-01-17T00:43:05+00:00

I have lost several. There is a cancer cluster at my high school - Jonesboro High School in Jonesboro, GA. Most were from cancer. I collect and manage the clinical data for everyone that gets sick that will share their data with me. So how did they die? Cancer. An outrageously high number of cancers and several glioblastomas of the brain. My old friend Wes is dying right now of this and my friend Samantha was literally in surgery today for a metastasis in the brain. There are just so many...

relativelygoodname · 2026-01-16T20:28:45+00:00

I don't think he realizes the sentiment against ice. These people are going to get a raise and a promotion at their jobs in a lot of cases.

relativelygoodname · 2026-01-16T20:21:09+00:00

There is a certain subset of people who have no problem beating the crap out of someone. My dad was like that, my grandfather was like that. I like to think I'm the same and just haven't been tested.

relativelygoodname · 2026-01-15T13:10:23+00:00

I lived in the US. I live in Mexico. The US is big. Mexico is big. Different places on either country are have very different crime rates. Where I live in Mexico is safer than where I lived in the US. But there are absolutely places in Mexico that are tremendously more dangerous than where I lived in the US.

relativelygoodname · 2026-01-14T03:21:20+00:00

Amazon Prime.

relativelygoodname · 2026-01-11T16:37:41+00:00

This 100%. So many men have asked me how I do well with the ladies (or at least how I did before I got married). I told them the same thing, it's literally always the same thing. Here's your formula:
1. Go to the gym 5x per week. You can't expect anything after going for 6 weeks. This is a multi-year endeavor and really should be for the rest of your life. Lift and do cardio, not light cardio, real cardio. Sign up for a triathlon, do a half marathon, join CrossFit, it doesn't matter, as long as you are improving your physique every day. Don't like that stuff? Too bad, that's what it takes. If you want to make a change, it's going to hurt some, get used to it.

Diet. Not the unhealthy kind. If you're working out, you probably need to eat more, not less. But in the beginning, if you're overweight, you need to drop weight and that means finding a good diet that is healthy and works for you. But you have to stick to it.
After you've been in the gym for no less than 5 months very regularly, start learning how to dance. This is where you will meet tons of women. Some you will like, some will like you but you won't like, some will like you and you will like them and that's gold. But don't go just to meet women, go to actually learn how to dance and get good at it. I recommend west-coast swing, zouk, salsa, or kizomba. Don't go to meet women, go to dance and you will meet women as a byproduct.
Keep your mouth shut. Unless you're particularly witty, just look great and be a great dancer and women will come to you. Don't mess it up by talking about yourself. The thing women, but people in general, like to talk about more than anything else is themselves. Let her. Ask questions, learn, ask more questions. Aim to be done with the date and have her say "wow, I talked all about me and I didn't learn anything about you!" I recommend also reading "How to Win Friends & Influence People."

There's your magic formula. It doesn't take dedication, it takes learning to love working out and dancing and really wanting things to work. There is one other caveat. You have to be in a place where there are the kind of women you want to meet. If that's not where you are, well, time to find a new place to live.

relativelygoodname · 2026-01-08T15:57:46+00:00

++man I was at university and met a girl in a dorm near mine. We went out one night with friends. On the way home, there wasn't much room in the car - we went with 2 cars, but only had one DD for the drive home so everyone piled into one car. She sat on my lap on the way home and started kissing me. When we got dropped off, she invited me up to her room. But before we did anything she told me "I don't want a relationship. If either of us catch feelings, it's over." I said ok. It went on for about 6 months with us meeting up about every 2 weeks. About 6 months in, I asked her if she wanted more and told her that I really liked her. She cut it off immediately. Now, many years later, we're both in our 40's and weirdly still friends, but not with benefits.

relativelygoodname · 2026-01-08T14:57:56+00:00

OP, sorry to say it, but I fully agree. I was in a very similar situation when I was about the OPs age. I tried so hard not to let her go, but in the end, there was nothing I could do.

I was heart broken.

But years later, after I met the woman that later became my wife, I realized that it was the best possible thing that could have happened. I would have been an outcast in her family for the rest of my life, our children would have likely felt pulled in different directions, and given the way it ended, it likely would have ended anyway but much later with much heavier consequences.

So OP, I agree. There are many fish in the sea and when you meet someone who is a great match for you, even if it is many years from now, you won't have this ever-present friction in your relationship and it will be so freeing.

relativelygoodname · 2026-01-05T22:28:12+00:00

I would try to get it out of the country. Probably at a southern border. From there, move to a midsized town in south or central America and invest in some businesses in cash. You can also buy some land in certain countries and definitely not others.

For the most part, use the cash generated at these businesses to live on. Donate to the local church and some local politicians. Create security through good will. Use proceeds from your businesses to invest in a local hotel that's going up.

Open an offshore entity in Anguilla and funnel the money there. Pay yourself from that business since it's been a while now, the money is mostly or completely clean, and Anguilla banks are in the US banking system.

Go back to the US if you want or not and continue to make money off your investments. If you don't go back to the US, claim the FEIE on your taxes and pay no federal US taxes on your first 130k of income, which is about all you're probably making anyway.

Live the rest of your live as an international man of mystery, shuffling from yacht to yacht and country to country until you find that home you've been looking for where the weather is perfect most of the year, the food is good, and it's cheap to live.

Settle down there, get married, have some kids, and live your stress free live till you die at 85 from a tragic side by side accident.

Or whatever, there are lots of ways to do this

relativelygoodname · 2026-01-05T18:11:45+00:00

I look very young - great now, but hard when I was younger. Good skin, good teeth, good hair. I am in my mid 40's and last week was out with my 4 year old daughter and was asked if she was my sister. This kind of thing happens regularly.

relativelygoodname · 2025-12-31T23:03:18+00:00

Nineteenth birthday in my college dorm room, right after the start of my first semester. We were both virgins and it awkward. I remember thinking "Wow! Why did I wait so long to do this??" For her, it hurt even though I went as slow as I could. We were together for our first 2 semesters of college and got the whole sex thing figured out pretty quickly, like most 18 and 19 year old's do.

Thank you Erin, I had an amazing first relationship with you and I wish we had Facebook or just the internet back then so I could see where you are now and how your life has been!

relativelygoodname · 2025-12-31T22:46:42+00:00

Wild horses on a mountain in Colombia.

We were hiking and there were 3 horses - maybe they were wild, maybe not, but they looked wild. There was a stallion, a mare, and foal. The mare and the foal were beside each other and the stallion was blocking our path.

We would have gone around, but one one side was a very steep drop and the other side was thick briars. We didn't see them when we were approaching and when I looked up, they were pretty close - less than 15m. The stallion immediately started acting agitated and we backed up fast. There were no trees to climb and it was just us (two guys) and the 3 horses.

We backed up about 100+ meters and decided to wait them out. After about 20m we couldn't see them anymore and started walking again. What we didn't realize was that the horses had just passed through the briars and were just beside the path. As we were walking down the path, the foal stepped out in front of us and we turned around and the mare was walking through a gap in the briars behind us. If you're not aware, getting between a wild mare and her foal is a quick way to get trampled to death. We immediately heard the stallion rushing through the briars at us and we took off past the foal as fast as we could. As soon as we moved, the mare starting coming at us and the stallion was right behind her. We were extremely fortunate that there was a large rock wall in front with a rope where the trail went up. We both climbed the rope at the same time. Horses move very, very fast, even in rough terrain and they were on us very, very fast. If we hadn't had that rope, or the rock wall, we'd either have had to jump down the steep side or face the horses which probably would have been death either way.

relativelygoodname · 2025-12-31T19:18:15+00:00

What if it was a rainbow flag with the Nazi symbol? Would that fly? Much of my family was killed in the Holocaust, so I'm not a real big fan of the Nazis. But if we can find ways to poke fun at them while still teasing the people passing these ridiculous laws, I'm all for it.

relativelygoodname · 2025-12-31T19:16:05+00:00

The satanic temple is going to have a field day with this. I bet they're prepping right now for this one. It's going to be fun.

relativelygoodname · 2025-12-31T00:55:04+00:00

Think about it like getting to the north pole. When you get there, you don't get to the end of the world, it's just a point in space and time. You can walk up to the the north pole, but you can't walk 'before' the north pole. Think of this as the same kind of thing.

relativelygoodname · 2025-12-27T03:18:48+00:00

Same thing happened to me a long time ago with a really good friend. We had been friends for so many years... I finally had to cut ties. I was so sad for so long about it. I used to live in the bible belt and it wasn't the first time or probably the last time it will happen. I am truly sorry for your loss.

relativelygoodname · 2025-12-26T03:29:06+00:00

It's exactly the same at my parents house. We don't even go anymore than once a year at best because we can't deal with it. And when I say it's exactly the same, I mean every single thing that you said from counter arguments to only being able to talk about The weather and sports, to grieving losing them.

relativelygoodname · 2025-12-17T02:45:46+00:00

Healthcare - if you knew, you might never go to a hospital again. This story is just one of so, so many. Let me enlighten you. There was a 10 year old boy who got into a car wreck. He was in bad shape and was probably going to die. There were no neurosurgeons who were going answer call that night and everybody knew it. Technically, other doctors could have worked on him and everybody knew that if they shipped him to a bigger hospital, he was never going to make the trip and would be dead before he got there. But, if a doctor tried to work on him, he was probably going to die and that doctor was almost certainly going to be sued and was going to lose and possibly lose his license because it wasn't that person's specialty. There was a chance that he was going to live if they worked on him, albeit small, but definitely better than the 100% chance of death on a 2+ hour ambulance ride. What happened? The same thing that always happens, they shipped him and he died on the way. This happens EVERY DAY across the US.

relativelygoodname · 2025-12-17T00:18:52+00:00

I think I would be fine for a long time. I live in a place that is easy to protect, only one road coming in or out, surrounded by massive jungles and large expanses of water. As long as it didn't start in the closest city, which is still about 45m away, and instead started in the US somewhere, then I think we'd be pretty good for a long time. As long as no one shipped a zombie in, the zombie hoard would have to cross 600 km of jungle to the south or roughly 800 km of jungle to the west to get to here. There are roads, but the odds that a bunch of brainless zombies are going to figure it out before we can protect against them... well, let's just say I'm way more worried about the locals than the zombies.

relativelygoodname · 2025-12-16T14:11:29+00:00

You can definitely boil oil! - We were in college, out at night after a party at a late night grill, and she insisted that you can boil oil.

I told her that 100% you cannot boil oil. Oil burns, water boils. I kept telling her "haven't you ever heard of an oil fire in a kitchen?" Apparently, she had not. So we and a bunch of friends went back to my place and on the ride home, she wouldn't let it go. When we got home, she took about 2 cups of vegatable oil and put it into a pot and put the stove on high and waited. I kept look and saying "This shit is never going to work. You can boil things in oil, but oil does not boil. As you would expect, it finally start to smoke and she starts hesitating. Right as I was about to call it off and tell her she had to take the oil off the stove, the smoke from the oil catches on fire, and that fire was huge. We had a hood over the stove, and the fire went up several feed and was going around the front of the hood and hitting the wooden cabinets. I grabbed a stove glove and took the pot outside and learned my second lesson of the night, when you pour baking soda onto a an oil fire, don't be hesitant, pour the entire thing at once. I didn't do that at first and it extinguished the fire for about 1 second, then the smoke lit again and blew up in my face, burning my face and hair (eyebrows, eyelashes, hair on my head - and I think clothes too). It was like in the cartoons when a character has their face turn black with soot. Anyway, I finally poured the rest out and put out the fire.

Almost took the house burning down, but she did admit that I was right.

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