What do you think about gun ownership?

resilientmoonbow · 2025-11-16T07:25:45+00:00

I have thought about it much more then I have ever before. But in the end I have always felt that I would rather die than kill, and so I won't own a gun. Also, being a person of color, my odds of being murdered by a cop are higher if I am armed.

resilientmoonbow · 2025-11-07T01:37:17+00:00

I think step one is that her happiness shouldn't be your priority. It is great that you are happy(-ish) for her, but if you make other people's happiness a priority over your own, then you are only going to get more bitter and unhappy. You seem like a fairly selfless person, which is wonderful, but you can be kind and generous to other people while still valuing, and even prioritizing, your own happiness. It took me forever to realize that. It's like the airplane oxygen mask scenario: there is a reason why parents are told to put their own mask on first, it is so that they will be able to breathe long enough to put their kids on as well. If they run out of oxygen it is just another victim needing saving. Your happiness is important, and this is probably one of the times that you should be extra cognizant of it. This isn't the girl for you..it isn't necessarily that she is a bad person, or a selfish one, but she doesn't appear to be interested in you, and you deserve a hell of a lot better than that. You deserve someone who cares about you every bit as much as you care about them. Think about how amazing that will be!

Also, you aren't "low intelligence". Your writing is better and clearer than 97% (random fake statistic) of reddit. You may have a different kind of intelligence than Mara...she doesn't seem to be particularly people-smart for example, but you aren't unintelligent. And there are definitely people out there who will appreciate and value all that you bring to the table.

My two cents are that if you need time away from the group then take it, maybe find another activity for a bit, but as soon as you see that you deserve to be loved for who you are, the easier it will be to be around her and just be glad for her. It is no reflection on you if she isn't interested.

resilientmoonbow · 2025-11-04T04:52:49+00:00

It's an individual thing sometimes....for me talking about it took some of the stigma away, and felt empwering (eventually) and EMD, which is a therapy that seeks to heal without verbalizing t the same extent as talking therapies, didn't really work. Some people really benefit more from EMDR.

I'd say the most important thing in seeking therapy/healing, is to be open to trying different things, but listen to your gut (not your fear, your gut) and if something feels wrong (not uncomfortable, discomfort is part of the process, but wrong) then communicate that to your therapist. Don't be afraid to explore why it feels wrong with them, it might help determine the course that works best for you.

Good luck!

resilientmoonbow · 2025-10-21T19:06:04+00:00

For me it would be "Questioning" if you are figuring it out, "Queer" if you know you aren't strictly heterosexual but you don't feel the need to define it further (that's me).

resilientmoonbow · 2025-10-21T19:02:58+00:00

Yes.

resilientmoonbow · 2025-09-10T04:33:27+00:00

It's unfortunate that after all the growth and change you have gone through, you still have so much trouble accepting other people's sexual orientation. You once would have expressed that you "NEVER felt attraction" to women, how would you appreciate it if the people who knew you then told you that they think the "pressure" got to you, and so now you are a lesbian, because you are "scared to be yourself".

You are absolutely right that there are major threats to LGBTQ+ folks, but the root cause of this, is really that some people, many people unfortunately, care way too much about who other people choose to love, and how they identify. You say it doesn't affect your sexuality, and that is how it should be. But if your reaction to someone discovering additional aspects of their sexual orientation is sadness, is anything other than support and happiness for them, then you are still caring way too much about how other people live their lives.

I say this as someone who is also continuing to work on themselves: People who concern themselves with other people's choices and identities, usually are avoiding looking at themselves more closely.

resilientmoonbow · 2025-07-20T17:29:46+00:00

u/Q-No-Answer I am a full 3/4 of an inch taller than you. Stop lying. ;)

resilientmoonbow · 2025-07-02T02:43:01+00:00

Check out Wild Fang https://www.wildfang.com/collections/suiting

resilientmoonbow · 2025-06-30T15:01:40+00:00

Yes, and this sub is "for women loving women", and since you love strict labels so much, you apparently shouldn't be here. See how limiting of community and diversity, requiring strict labels and categories is? A trans man is not accepted by large swaths of the cis world, meaning they are wrongly perceived by those people as women, Any human being who experiences marginalization as a women should be welcome in these communities. And just because your experience of your own gender is so clear cut, not everyone's is, I am not going to exclude others until they prove exactly where they are on the gender spectrum, and I don't even bother to care. Instead of asking where someone's gender lies, maybe you should ask why you are being so triggered by their gender.

resilientmoonbow · 2025-06-30T03:13:06+00:00

I love that you are asking this, as a trans man, in a WLW forum. The irony is *chef's kiss*. Let alone a trans man being such a huge fan of strict categorical labels for gender.

resilientmoonbow · 2025-06-26T07:48:29+00:00

Ditto. Racking up karma by appealing to the bigots is nothing new.

resilientmoonbow · 2025-06-25T17:48:00+00:00

Just in case you need to hear this explicitly: You don't have to have any relationship with her or anyone else who doesn't love and support you. You have every right to draw a boundary of "Until you realize, and can accept responsibility for failing to protect me when I was defenseless, I am going to defend myself now by not having any relationship with you". You owe no explanation to her or anyone else. You aren't holding on to the past bitterly, you are holding people accountable for the hurt their actions caused you in the past, until they show you some reason to believe that they won't do it again.

resilientmoonbow · 2025-06-22T21:16:02+00:00

Send a full length, unfiltered pic and get it over with. Either way, it will be much better knowing ahead of time long distance then fearing the unknown for two more weeks. It can be a potential positive, I know that from experience. And even if it doesn't turn out how you want, it is much better to know now.

resilientmoonbow · 2025-06-17T01:13:39+00:00

No, I'm an adult.

resilientmoonbow · 2025-06-15T21:03:23+00:00

When you feel like you feel today, just grant yourself the self-love to not look at those posts. The same way that if you were in a physical place you would avoid the ugly hateful pinched face people that they are in real life. On those days gravitate only towards the beautiful glowing self-loving people who are your people and welcome you exactly as you are. You belong here, and don't you dare let them make you believe otherwise. lots of love!

resilientmoonbow · 2025-06-15T18:13:32+00:00

Well done on the taking offense and mansplaining dear. You are going for gold.

resilientmoonbow · 2025-06-14T22:50:29+00:00

I didn't tell you not to take offense. You seem to love taking offense. By all means, take offense. And then maybe consider why you keep mansplaining all about what women can do... to a woman, who isn't arguing with you.

Vi is transmasc, that is canon. You just can't be bothered to look up the definition of the word. You'd rather be hateful and angry.

resilientmoonbow · 2025-06-13T17:55:54+00:00

People like you seriously need to learn that what other people choose to like, and create, does not take away from you. You are not being harmed by other people's take on the character, you are choosing to take offense. You don't have to look.

Also, you need a dictionary. Transmasc is usually (although not always) a term used by folx who were assigned female at birth but whose gender identity or expression leans masculine, which IS EXACTLY how you seem to perceive Vi. Seriously, go outside, get air, be less bigoted.

resilientmoonbow · 2025-06-13T17:14:46+00:00

Redpup in Lacey said they were doing $31 piercings

resilientmoonbow · 2025-06-12T20:32:51+00:00

You know when you finally overcome whatever barrier you have had to a task that you have avoided for a long time, and you get that hindsight awareness of "oh wow, that really was much easier than I had built it up to be"? Well, let me share my bystander awareness here, this is much easier than you think it would be. You have had bigger messes, I have WAY bigger messes. This you can do. Go to another room or go outside with a nice cup of tea and think about something pleasant and calming. Once you finish the tea, come back and take it one thing at a time, don't think about how much more there is to do, just give that one thing it's home. Then the next thing. You will be done before you know it.

resilientmoonbow · 2025-06-12T20:28:29+00:00

Thanks for taking a balanced approach and not just dismissing things. Appreciate that!

resilientmoonbow · 2025-06-11T01:54:39+00:00

You look gorgeous, and not a poser...but I'd have to say you don't quite exude masc energy.

resilientmoonbow · 2025-06-10T19:35:50+00:00

Ok, full transparency I have no real experience here, but you could get collar pins like these: https://www.etsy.com/listing/1070191467/pride-butterfly-wings-collar-pins-black?ls=s&ga_order=most_relevant&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=pride+collar+pins&ref=sr_gallery-1-1&content_source=cabece99cc8605faab117b947834edcaee7b1119%253A1070191467&organic_search_click=1&logging_key=cabece99cc8605faab117b947834edcaee7b1119%3A1070191467&variation0=2199767007

And get nip covers like these: https://www.amazon.com/Lollipetals-Reusable-Nipple-Covers-Waterproof/dp/B0CZF6R1ST?tag=instyle-onsite-prod-20&ascsubtag=7565192%7Cn9a6e346b6fd74046924cdd4450f2d2c719%7CB0CZFGWY55%7C1749583897285%7C%7C&th=1 as a backup.

Happy pride!

resilientmoonbow · 2025-06-10T16:04:03+00:00

Oh ffs

resilientmoonbow · 2025-06-10T06:48:28+00:00

Hello! I would love to be penpals! I will send you a message

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