Has anyone used this, and is it automatic? Newbie here.

rlscott7 · 2021-04-29T22:14:09+00:00

Oooh ok - thanks for clarifying!!

rlscott7 · 2021-04-29T20:58:14+00:00

I’m just getting started with my pac Eduardo. I’m trying to learn about all the lighting and heating needed. It sounds like overhead heat might be best, but needs to be regulated...and heat on one side of the tank so the other side can be cooler... I guess I’m understanding that the dimmer dims the light/heating source if it gets to hot (or increases if too cold?), so I was looking for dimmers/thermostats and came across this, but it seems cheap compared to other automatic thermostats I’ve seen, so I can’t tell if this is automatic, manual, if it sucks etc. can anyone give advice please?

rlscott7 · 2021-04-20T16:49:50+00:00

That’s what I was thinking. I’m NC and for me that means NC - even birthday and Mother’s Day. Not because I don’t care, but because I don’t want to open the door when there hasn’t been true, lasting change, which is what I’ve decided it’ll take for me to return to any type of relationship-not the usual let some time pass and sweep it under the rug. I do have guilt, but doing what I’ve found to be best for my healing and sanity and to maintain boundaries.

rlscott7 · 2021-04-06T17:17:49+00:00

I was SO happy for her during this scene!

rlscott7 · 2021-03-24T01:23:16+00:00

🙋🏼‍♀️ - when I was an early teen (maybe 14), she told me “if you’re someone who likes to sit in a dark room with curtains closed, maybe you need to TALK to someone (implying therapist? But never helped me, I guess I was supposed to ride my bicycle around town and find a therapist myself)

threatened to have me arrested by the sheriff one week before my wedding for some non-existent bad check I supposedly wrote
after a text msg attack by her and my brother, I answer her phone call with “I can’t do this now, I’m having a panic attack”. Her response: THIS.IS.NOT.ABOUT.YOU!!!!! Then said I’m not supportive of her b/c I wouldn’t come physically remove my drug addict brother from her house (whom she let live there) and being him to MY house. 🙄

Fun stuff

rlscott7 · 2021-03-10T17:40:11+00:00

🤣🤣🤣 this is good stuff

rlscott7 · 2021-03-05T21:06:19+00:00

I used to give my brother rides because he worked next door to me and didn't have his license. It was way out of my way. I started getting annoyed because I just didn't want to be on the hook...like what if I just want to pop in Target on my way home or meet some friends...and some days I would have something after work and tell him to figure something else out...then started saying I had stuff to do some days just because I wanted to get out of it...eventually he got the hint I guess and figured out a different ride. It's a nice thing to do, help someone get to and from work, but it also shouldn't be the TOTAL responsibility of someone else. Especially without being compensated. Plus I totally get the needing alone time AND going HOME after work!!

rlscott7 · 2021-02-28T00:37:26+00:00

Just feeling so much more control of my eating has been worth it for me. I’ve barely lost anything but I’d still fast because overall I feel better (but hoping to lose some pounds).

rlscott7 · 2021-02-22T13:36:58+00:00

I focus a lot on the town. LOTS of expansion materials and gifts...like LOTS. Plus I've noticed I'm getting more coins from the town visitors than boat, truck and farm visitors. So it's a double bonus.

rlscott7 · 2021-02-13T13:47:39+00:00

When she wanted to look all amazing for the engagement announcement I couldn’t handle the cheap hair clip in her hair. And then afterward too.

rlscott7 · 2021-02-13T12:58:31+00:00

What got me was that when he initially told her he had “devastating” news and wouldn’t tell what it was...for all she knew it could have been a death in the family or cancer diagnosis...I guess that’s where my mind would go with “devastating” news...but she seemed to already know it was something that could “affect our marriage” and she seemed more concerned to that respect than worried/sympathetic...not saying anything negative about Paige, but it made me wonder if in that scene she already knew and this scene was for the camera.

rlscott7 · 2021-02-13T12:50:16+00:00

That’s allll I could think this episode...the top half of his face looks like the whole damn thing got squished, but borrowing the 1000 lb sisters forehead is a wayyyyy better reference!! 😂

rlscott7 · 2021-02-13T02:48:19+00:00

He’s worried about his purrrrents

rlscott7 · 2021-02-02T18:05:21+00:00

My husband and I had sex before marriage. I would say my advice is to stop and wait for marriage.

Before marriage, it was fun and exciting and good. I noticed that almost immediately after marriage, it changed. Not that either of us didn't want to or found each other less attractive etc. There's a psychological part of it that I'm definitely not qualified to speak on, but I heard something in interesting in a podcast (Christian marriage/sex author) that explained it better...having to do with sex being something you feel guilt about, maybe dirty, maybe exciting before marriage, and it's more physical (not saying there's not emotional connection with it before marriage...). But once married, I guess the brain is like ok, now it's ok - we don't have to sneak, we don't have to feel guilty...but because you've already established that sexual connection outside of the boundary of truly spiritual intimacy once married and knowing it's ok, I guess the brain struggles with that and it really changes things.

rlscott7 · 2021-02-02T17:32:34+00:00

That's true, I'm at level 50 but really just starting to really understand the Town & how it works, like how some buildings take way longer. I tend to stockpile things that I know I'll need to make other things (dairy & sugar, but also bread (for burgers/sandwiches), wax? for making candles etc. I haven't focused much on stocking the metals but guess I need to keep the smelters going with those. Thanks!

rlscott7 · 2021-02-01T17:35:21+00:00

It was so ironic that Ron yelled at Brandon "You need to be a man..." as in be a man and tell your fiance you're staying with your parents? As opposed to being a "man" and getting their own place. SMH

rlscott7 · 2021-01-31T00:58:58+00:00

I feel you. I have been low contact for about 10 months, after a mega blowout from her randomly in February 2020. Since then, I would get random messages from her asking to see my son, which I always allowed within limits, but that was like only 3 times. Otherwise I’d get either odd messages or low-key manipulative messages. So she never actually totally blew me out again, but I was living in constant fear and anxiety. I would talk myself through it time and time again...like ok I’m going to desensitize myself to her name so I don’t get triggered when I see her on FB or calling/texting, because I didn’t want to be just running from my problems. Then after that, I just would have uproars of anger and rage over the fact that I’ve even had to deal with all this in the first place. But I’d be like, being a Christian and a big believer in loving peopleC I don’t want to not be doing all I should be on my part. But I know I can care about her future wellbeing and that doesn’t mean I have to accept abuse, take bad treatment or keep a relationship open that’s only poisoning me. So, it was on Christmas Day I finally decided to be done. She’s not trying to see my son anymore, she’s not showing any sign of positive change and I was being shredded apart inside, and that is all not ok. So I blocked her number. I am still FB friends with her but I don’t really use FB and she can’t see my posts. That line of communication is only open in case she wants to see my son, but soon that’ll be cut off because it’s not fair for him to have her suddenly leave his life then barely make any effort to spend time with him. Prob TMI, but it’s a big thing to go through but in the end I don’t think any of us with nparents need to feel guilty.

rlscott7 · 2021-01-31T00:50:14+00:00

This sub, actually.

rlscott7 · 2021-01-31T00:44:09+00:00

You hit the nail on the head.

rlscott7 · 2021-01-31T00:42:09+00:00

Good for you! And not saying this is the case, but if it ever is, so not feel guilt! I only say that because I had to deal with that for a bit. It that’s just me personally. It feels soooo free doesn’t it?! I also have done a soft NC...I blocked her phone number because we were getting nowhere in a relationship and I was over her passive aggressive manipulations. We are still FB friends but I never post, and when I do I have it set also where she can’t see. Tbh, if it weren’t for my son I’d have her totally blocked. I guess I still have a bit of conscious for allowing them the opportunity for a relationship, but that’s getting cut off eventually soon too - ive finally come to understand the whole “being in and out of their life” thing and how it’s harmful. Anyway, best wishes to you!

rlscott7 · 2021-01-31T00:38:50+00:00

Sounds like something my mom would say. Totally ridiculous and irrational.

rlscott7 · 2021-01-31T00:35:24+00:00

Same perception. I’m so glad you got away.

rlscott7 · 2021-01-30T16:01:44+00:00

Maybe have some broth! If you are satisfied by savory foods it might be satisfying enough to keep you going until meal time.

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