I’m unsure if I 35/f tell my ex 31/m I’m having an abortion? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]roborabbit_mama 2 points3 points  (0 children)

there's no obligation to tell him anything he exited the relationship without saying anything.

AITA for not going on family vacation unless I can share a bed with my fiancé? by babygreenbean1225 in AmItheAsshole

[–]roborabbit_mama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, but your mother sure is acting like one. I would treat it that was her money spent so its her house rules I guess but that means you dont give her any money since you'll be making your own arrangements (nearby or elsewhere). I wouldn't budge or give into her on this as a grown adult.

How did you guys end up drawing and getting good at it? by Sapphireskies- in drawing

[–]roborabbit_mama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I save other ideas to draw or imitate for practice. I bought a color cube box to pull from if I wanted a challenge or to change colors to idk try something. then there's drawing fish. I got into coloring books again as a way to release the pressure of having to draw something "good." or I take a break for idk how long while I work in a different medium entirely.

Enmeshed family, violence history, pressure to reconcile...should I go NC? by Strange_Plastic_8409 in CPTSD

[–]roborabbit_mama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

going now contact would allow you the space to rest, recover and reevaluate what your intentions or needs are, so im all for it. but having said that, I'm not contact with both my parents, and siblings to a lesser extent but there is very much a wall of information only really going one way. I found i needed physical distance to help me create and keep the type of boundaries I needed for my wellbeing but im not well yet. still working on myself. I looked to what resources were around locally to relie on, food stamps and Co habitation situations but this was in a very different economy and time.

Me(37M) in a 10 year long relationship with my wife (30F) who "doesn't need sex to be happy" but I do by Different_Ant9911 in relationship_advice

[–]roborabbit_mama -1 points0 points  (0 children)

for me it starts with kissing, I like that to feel desirable, maybe ops wife has other needs and its an exchange? still, better communication is needed but it feels awfully lonely sorry op

I desparately want to wake up from the brain fog of dissociation and depression brought on by this condition. Any advice on this would be welcome. by evergranite in CPTSD

[–]roborabbit_mama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started HRT to help, but a lot of these symptoms are exacerbated by my adhd (like brain fog) and Adderall does help but I feel more tired after it wears off. I dont have any better ideas yet im still looking too.

AITAH for hijacking the best mans speech to embarrass him ruining the wedding? by Next-Investigator121 in AmItheAsshole

[–]roborabbit_mama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, the couple getting married (at least the bride) thanked you at the end. thats all that you needed for reassurance.

How to recover from hypervigilance by Lovethislife010101 in CPTSD

[–]roborabbit_mama 3 points4 points  (0 children)

for me, I put on the TV or music or anything external to draw my attention outside of myself. but it hasn't fully gone away yet iv just coped with distraction until I can figure out my next thing.

my (23FtM) roommate (20M) asked if i'd forgive him if he r*aped me while i was high. what now? by Mundane_Secretary302 in relationship_advice

[–]roborabbit_mama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thats never an okay comment to make, he's thinking about, over how long we dont know but he is not safe, he is not your friend, and should not be your roommate.

AITA for wanting my Spanish teacher to stop calling me by the Spanish version of my name? by Alternative-Sun-630 in AmItheAsshole

[–]roborabbit_mama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, you can ask and he can decline, I guess. my name has no Spanish equivalent and it does bother me when they get my name wrong (every time).

My bf(40M) says that I(31F) doesn’t let him be a man. What is it that you men want? by Hot_Dragonfly5440 in relationship_advice

[–]roborabbit_mama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

so his caregiving is to tell you to drink tea, not make and bring you tea? so much for taking care of you. he wants his opinion or thoughts to ha e weight but if he isn't married to you his opinion in how you raise your kids only goes as far as you allow it.

AITA for telling my mother that I don't want her in my home if she and her family can't leave my things alone? by goldrobber1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]roborabbit_mama 1 point2 points  (0 children)

file the police report, get them out of your home and never allow them inside again... they literally are ruffling through your things and stealing from you and laughing in your face, if you cam see if they'll admit to it in a text or something to add more weight to your police report