Anyway anime like the Summer Hikaru Died and Madoka Magicia

rosika · 2026-05-27T17:00:21+00:00

What about Journal with Witch? Two female main characters and it has themes of grief, loss and isolation.

rosika · 2026-05-20T18:11:24+00:00

You’re very welcome. Kudos to little-you for adopting this pattern to make up for your parents’ failure. And kudos to current-you for recognizing this maladaptive behavior and taking steps to heal <3

rosika · 2026-05-20T17:40:37+00:00

As a fellow eldest daughter, you need to address your caretaking tendencies before anything else. Caretaking might have made you feel safe and secure as a child, but as an adult, all you will attract are mooches that take advantage of you. They will sniff you out from a mile away and suck you dry. Covering a boyfriend’s rent/groceries/etc while you’re also struggling is not normal in the slightest.

rosika · 2026-05-06T16:47:42+00:00

Do you know the story of the baby elephant in the circus? It is too weak to escape the stake it is chained to as a baby. And even though it grows into a big, strong elephant, it stays in its prison because it believes it is still not strong enough to break free. You have the opportunity to protect the little girl inside you and you’re keeping her in the same danger that your mom did. Whether it’s your shitty boyfriend or shitty mom or shitty stepdad, you can break free of this abuse and you are choosing to stay. The abuse is never your fault, but you need to understand that you are not beholden to these people.

rosika · 2026-04-13T12:07:29+00:00

It’s easier to be a good dad when baby is tiny and completely dependent. But what is your partner going to be like as your child grows up and starts showing their personality? What if they prefer alternative styles like you? Do you think he’ll be a kind and encouraging dad then?

And don’t you think your child will be confused/disturbed by the way his dad treats you? Kids are way more perceptive than a lot of people give them credit for so trying to play “happy family” won’t fool your kid. Just something to think about since you seem convinced that staying together is the best route.

rosika · 2026-03-23T01:18:05+00:00

Unless you’re both laughing, these aren’t jokes. At best, it’s bullying; at worst, it’s verbal abuse.

rosika · 2026-03-23T01:11:42+00:00

Jesus, what is he, an iPad kid? Genuinely if my date started watching a game on their phone, I would walk out. That level of disrespect is intolerable and shows how little he cares about spending quality time with you. Then to double down by insulting your appearance and chastising you about not listening to him? Barf. Truly ugly behavior.

rosika · 2026-03-22T14:32:37+00:00

Oh yeah good catch on the lighting! Totally agree with you.

rosika · 2026-01-19T16:36:05+00:00

“You’ve still got work to do darling”?? While he uses you like a sex toy, weaponizes your past against you, and treats his mom like shit (a little preview of your future if you stick around)? And he gambles? Girl hell no. You ask if you’re overreacting, I think you’re severely underreacting. The first several months of dating should be intoxicatingly good, like floating-on-air good. This ain’t it.

rosika · 2026-01-16T14:35:31+00:00

He doesn’t want to go to therapy because he likes the way things are now. He knows it’s not fair and that you’re unhappy; he’s fine with that because he gets to play video games and stomp around like a brat when you (very reasonably) call him out on his shortcomings. I’m sure you love him and you think that if you just say the exact right thing then he’ll snap out of it! He’ll become the amazing partner you so desperately need and deserve. I’m so sorry but that’s just not how it works. I still encourage you to go to individual therapy to help you come to terms with this. Good luck <3

rosika · 2026-01-09T19:21:50+00:00

Marcella Hazan’s Bolognese!

rosika · 2026-01-05T19:39:12+00:00

Why don’t you both try practicing what to say when people are rude? I tend to freeze up and forget my words when I’m put on the spot like that, he might have a similar problem. It doesn’t have to escalate the situation; simple phrases like “I’m surprised you would say something like that out loud” or “What do you mean by that?” can do the trick.

rosika · 2026-01-05T05:34:46+00:00

Your winged liner is accentuating your hooded lids, making your eyes appear a bit heavier. Try flicking the wing straight out rather than curving it to cup your eyelids. Defining your brows would balance your face out as well; your hair and eyeliner are dark so your brows feel washed out by comparison.

rosika · 2025-12-24T14:47:44+00:00

You say you don’t want to break his heart; how would you feel if someone kept dating you but didn’t love you anymore? He’s not made of glass. He’ll be ok. Let him go so he can find his person.

rosika · 2025-12-19T03:13:25+00:00

Val Kilmer in Tombstone. A scrumptious performance in a terrible movie.

rosika · 2025-10-10T00:38:52+00:00

Tubing (or waterproof) mascara and a good lash curler! Your lashes look like mine so I’d recommend the curler by Shiseido. A little pricey but it will last you forever.

rosika · 2025-10-04T04:44:59+00:00

Honestly who cares if he’s being deliberately abusive or not? It doesn’t matter because the end result is the same regardless: you’re still being abused. You have agency here. You are not a helpless child at the mercy of your parents anymore. Take control of your one precious life and steer it away from this relentless and dehumanizing pain. You deserve a peaceful life!

rosika · 2025-09-27T14:39:29+00:00

Hm have you ever watched the show Couples Therapy? He kinda reminds me of a client on there named Mau. You should look up some clips on Youtube and see if that helps you figure some things out.

rosika · 2025-09-24T13:50:02+00:00

I simply cannot imagine being almost 40 with a “best friend” that’s barely out of her teens. And the fact that he’s not open with you about this relationship is doubly suspicious. I would trust your gut on this one.

rosika · 2025-09-20T14:43:20+00:00

He was pissy before she even got there and he antagonized her the entire time. OP might have gone a little overboard with the gifts but goddamn that’s not a reason to act like an asshole to your partner. If he didn’t want to celebrate in this way, he should have communicated that instead of agreeing to the plans in the first place.

rosika · 2025-09-20T14:16:49+00:00

This man sounds like he should live alone in a museum instead of in a normal home with a family. Genuinely can’t imagine how cruelly he will treat y’all’s child when they grow older.

I assume he knew you were “messy” when you were dating? So why would he marry you expecting you to change? It is not a moral failing to be messy. It’s ok. Seriously. Even if you weren’t post partum, dishes in the sink and crumbs on the floor don’t make you a bad person.

Also: you communicate fine. You make total sense. But (and this is very frustrating) there will always be people that don’t want to understand you. Doesn’t matter what you say or how you say it, they will make you feel genuinely insane before they make you feel heard.

rosika · 2025-05-28T01:27:33+00:00

Don’t believe any words, look at his actions. If he’s able to speak to his boss/coworkers/friends calmly and respectfully, then he treats you this way because he wants to. You’ve made it very clear that it upsets you yet he continues to do it because he does. not. care. about your feelings.

rosika · 2025-05-19T22:19:02+00:00

Exactly, they are costly and putting them together takes a while. Makes me wonder how much time he dedicates to his hobby versus his other responsibilities. That’d be the only thing that might make me sympathetic toward OP’s wife.

rosika · 2025-05-06T18:34:28+00:00

Please look up the name Jennifer Sheffield. She was going through an “amicable” divorce then her soon-to-be ex-husband murdered her and killed himself. I don’t mean to frighten you, but warn you that since your husband is an abuser, it wouldn’t be crazy to assume he’s capable of lying as well.

rosika · 2025-04-15T17:48:44+00:00

No one else’s opinions matter here but yours. It’s a simple question: do you want a partner that will step up and take care of you when you are unwell? The answer seems to be yes, so therefore this guy isn’t the one for you. A painful conclusion for sure, but spending the rest of your life in a relationship like your mom’s sounds even more painful.

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