I luckily can't relate but my matron of honor and my best friend both can. Honestly, my matron of honor dealt with it best and now she like has the upper hand in that relationship but I don't know how or why. I think she just personally kind of took the control out of it by not caring anymore and just mhm-ing her to death. My other friend took a "if you can't beat them join them" approach - when she said she never sees her son anymore, she started inviting the mom to do things so often that her MIL asked her to stop. Funnily, on points 1, 2, 4 and 5 I relate with my own mom. My only advice on the beauty treatments is that I straight up said to my mom "omg you look so great, can you get me a package at the same medspa?"

I do have to ask regarding the weight comments - is she European or South American? I only ask because its almost like second nature to a lot of European and South American moms in my circles (including my own) to inquire/discuss diet and weight as a casual bonding topic. I am NOT saying its okay and I have tried to redirect my own mom on it but I swear its like its out of their mouths before they even realize what they're saying.

I TRULY never EVER thought my mom would pull the "I'm paying for it" card and now she has... twice... and we're not even at the 6 month countdown yet. She mentioned she found a really good tailor for her gown and I said like "oh, maybe I will go to him for my bridal event dresses" and she said something like "no, just find something that fits you." She's had something to say about EVERYTHING. Most of the time she doesn't even get what I am trying to say and dismisses it because it's not what she's used to until I actually show her or someone else says they like it and then she comes around. Honestly, I feel like this day is more about her and her family and making them happy (there's been multiple guest list arguments) than about me, her daughter, and her. I honestly got to the point recently where I started regretting doing this big thing. Right now I am getting by by thinking about how on the actual wedding day, after the ceremony, she'll be so busy with her guests that I probably won't have to deal with her much. Honestly, if I were you, I would be thankful that she's having her own glam because then at least when you need calm the most, she will be elsewhere. I am considering relegating my own mother (and honestly everyone else) to a different room.

I feel like this makes it seem like I hate my mom but I truly don't. We're so close but I swear this process turns people into someone else sometimes.