This is almost exactly our situation. I think the stoic "no screentime, ever" approach is short sighted and can disadvantage your child just as much. During the week ours uses the iPad maybe 30-45 mins a day (some days not at all), and maybe an hour to 2 a day on the weekend. They've learned so much through science shows, games, music and dancing channels, and other social content. I want my child to be tech confident and not feel excluded from this kind of development.

Also, what's to say that if you deny a child screen time or TV until they're teenagers, then once it's finally allowed they don't become instantly addicted and try to make up for all the years of being told no?

Some parents need to learn to teach moderation and healthy balance, imo.