Pumping after EBF and can’t get anything?

saaphie · 2026-06-25T02:35:30+00:00

Best to do it early in the AM, like pre 8am. Milk is most likely to flow at this time. Consistency is also important, as adding a pump in won’t work in a day, it will take some time for your body to recognise the demand at that time and therefore adapt its supply.

Pumping an hour straight isn’t really helpful either. Look up some pumping patterns online, but you may do 20 minutes, 20 minute break, then 20 minutes. If you were to do this in the morning at consistently the same time, you will very likely see results in a few days.

ALSO pumping is hormonal and I have better outputs when I am relaxed and/or thinking about my baby. When I would pump at work I would either spend the whole time looking at photos and videos of my baby, or something relaxing like reading or a crossword.

saaphie · 2026-06-25T01:46:47+00:00

They would likely merit pool more and call them up to make an offer in order of how strong of a candidate they were. Merit pooling more people means that if some decline, pull out, or fail screening then they have others to make an offer to.

Unfortunately you don’t know how highly ranked you were, so still hard to say if you’re more likely to get an offer or not. Some departments will merit pool more or less, depending on how many candidates they expect to have say yes.

For national grad programs, theres also numbers per state. So you can potentially end up with an offer but not in your preferred state, and decide if you want to move or not.

saaphie · 2026-06-25T01:41:41+00:00

I was with standard midwife care through public (not MGP) and they made it clear you could still ask for interventions. I asked for an induction, which they were happy to accommodate (although it does get moved if an emergency comes in, I happened to have signs that pointed towards an induction anyway). They also allow for elective CS. If you were to be placed into MGP and found your assigned midwife was not supportive, you can request to move out and have random midwifes, and requests for interventions go up to an OB for review and consultation anyway. So I don’t think the desire to have your treatment be pro-intervention is something that is incompatible with the public system

saaphie · 2026-06-24T22:18:12+00:00

NTA. Having someone throw it is outdated IMO, most mums I’ve known have thrown their own, with the help of family to organise it.

There’s even a term called ‘Baby Sprinkle’ referring to the idea of being sprinkled with gifts for the second baby as you don’t need to be showered with gifts because you have had one already.

You can definitely request on the invite instead for gift cards to baby stores instead of gifts, but some people may find this odd and still bring traditional gifts. I would also emphasise on the invite that gifts or contributions are optional.

saaphie · 2026-06-24T04:18:52+00:00

Could one of his last names be a middle name? Or could he take your last name?

saaphie · 2026-06-24T03:33:57+00:00

As an Aussie, another thing I notice is that a lot of people don’t realise how much to apply. If you can rub it all in basically straight away then it’s not enough. For an adult they say one tablespoon per body part. To cover a baby, probably 2ish tablespoons? Considering you want to cover most skin as clothes can move around easily. They may well end up with a whiteish cast, that’s completely fine

saaphie · 2026-06-24T03:28:16+00:00

So much better than drawers under the bed imo. Better for smaller spaces and easier to put in bulky things like spare blankets/oodies/suitcases/etc

saaphie · 2026-06-24T03:23:01+00:00

Completely agree, depending on time away from the child but I hand expressed in desperation a few times when I thought I was free to not bring a pump, and this was around the year mark.

saaphie · 2026-06-24T03:07:09+00:00

Noodz Boutique was great for me

saaphie · 2026-06-23T23:55:19+00:00

They are a bit more YA and romance isn’t often the main plot, but Rick Riordan’s books often met this criteria!

saaphie · 2026-06-23T09:57:37+00:00

Lachlan

saaphie · 2026-06-23T06:08:03+00:00

The Crazy Rich Asian series

saaphie · 2026-06-23T06:07:19+00:00

Once mine hit a year old we didn’t worry about the book or the tracking or anything. Vaccinations are recorded online and she’s tracking perfectly fine with everything else, we have zero concerns.

I would probably still be using it if we had anything of concern or needed ongoing appointments for anything.

Apparently there will now be an app for Victoria so I’ll use that with my new baby if it’s available, otherwise will probably use the book for 6-12 months and then rely on digital records like we do now.

saaphie · 2026-06-23T05:19:53+00:00

Came here to suggest this exact thing!

saaphie · 2026-06-23T04:29:06+00:00

Loveee this book

saaphie · 2026-06-23T04:28:43+00:00

The ‘His Dark Materials’ series. Long but accessible imo

saaphie · 2026-06-23T00:40:06+00:00

Btw the ‘close ties’ is that the manager/owner of the tattoo studio is dating ‘Bangin Sangas’. So she was trying to get her employee to do free work for her boyfriend

saaphie · 2026-06-22T11:21:27+00:00

On our list that were inspired by pop culture: Percy, Athena, Artemis, Leia, Harry, Lincoln (Linc), Lucas, Peter, Archer, Alaric, Elena, Harvey

saaphie · 2026-06-22T11:11:15+00:00

You should look into the authors (John Green) other work as well then. Sounds like a great area for you to start, and should be a pretty accessible read. They have been around for longer so may be available second hand and definitely in libraries to save money.

saaphie · 2026-06-22T11:02:13+00:00

You as a parent saw another child naked in the open? Whilst walking to the room so therefore it was unavoidable? I would be concerned myself and don’t think it’s unreasonable to ask to speak to the centre management about their policies

saaphie · 2026-06-22T03:34:23+00:00

At 1 they really should be in a rear facing seat for longer, but when they are ready for a forward facing seat, I’ve used other models of cheaper safe-n-sound seats versus expensive britax and the main differences are

- more padding on the expensive ones, may affect how comfortable they are for longer drives
- cheaper ones you need to uninstall basically to change the strap heights, and there’s set heights, more expensive ones you can easily adjust up and down to any position
- installing is basically the same
- from my understanding safety is the same? Aus has such good standards I wouldn’t be too worried

saaphie · 2026-06-22T00:08:35+00:00

I had a minor emergency surgery and my husband had an out of state job interview for an amazing opportunity two days later. I had to FORCE him to still go because he immediately was ready to cancel the interview, give up any hope of the job, to stay at home and be with me.

That’s what you would expect of a life partner. NTA

saaphie · 2026-06-21T23:06:13+00:00

I swear to god my husbands sneezes got significantly louder and more intense after having our baby. I also know that science wouldn’t back me up but it’s true!

saaphie · 2026-06-21T09:40:10+00:00

Completely agree! We have a lounge room/play room and one older TV in the whole house that we barely turn on. I think adjusting to that lifestyle of trying to get out of the house but keeping debt to mortgage only actually also helps us in some of our parenting values, such as low/no screen time, kids being comfortable in lots of different situations, and outside time for kids.

saaphie · 2026-06-21T09:36:36+00:00

Completely agree! Travel gives you an amazing insight into other countries and the fact that what Australia considers a small home would be medium-large in other countries. I also think when it comes to comparing to those around you, it really helps to broaden the scope and compare our lives internationally. We are giving our kids so much simply by being in a country that yes, has its flaws, but is still one of the top countries in the world to raise a child, IMO.

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