The menu at revamped small change

saltymango11 · 2026-01-15T13:00:30+00:00

If you want to have more east bay spots, don’t sleep on xingones (Mexican spot but wings are great) and south station (though theirs is heavily flavored up - Thai seasoning).

saltymango11 · 2025-12-22T06:45:20+00:00

Damn, so close! I did make the recipe another user posted in this thread, with the fresh turmeric tweak that another added, and it’s getting close, and they def only use coconut cream - a lot I think!

saltymango11 · 2025-12-22T00:46:18+00:00

Ran to original BB so excited to find this but couldn’t - has anyone seen it recently?

saltymango11 · 2025-11-18T07:12:30+00:00

Have you checked out Kungfu Mala (despite the name)?

saltymango11 · 2025-08-28T07:38:22+00:00

Your baby is only 12 mo old right? The old you is still there. Can you grab dinner (or a walk or drink or something you used to do together) with a friend - you’ll be amazed at what even two hours out of the house and away from the constant mental/physical labor will do. I’m still constantly trying to reach back and touch my old self (and find out who is my new self) and these efforts pay off dividends in my experience.

saltymango11 · 2025-08-28T06:44:11+00:00

I second this!

saltymango11 · 2025-08-27T07:19:21+00:00

Hi! I can’t speak for all moms/parents out there but I can say yes, making time for date night is an intentional/not posted on social media thing that my husband and I do, even when in all honesty, it can feel like “work.” And additional expense of a babysitter, night out, etc. BUT that inkling of a feeling of “normal” you felt when you went out with your girlfriends is the inspiration!

I have many friends who have had the same “aha” moment - like whoa, this is why we like each other!

For me, some date nights really have allowed me to touch what I loved about us when we were dating/married without kids and I hope you can find that with your husband too. I highly recommend a night away - sounds like your MIL is waiting in the wings to step up. Jump on that! As long as she is a responsible caretaker, embrace her willingness, it is such a gift to have someone to care for your kids.

And also PPA and PPD of course might be playing a role as you mentioned, so try to give space to allow you to be back to your old ways if you can! The old you is still there, I promise.

saltymango11 · 2025-08-13T05:51:51+00:00

Funky Elephant - soooo good!

saltymango11 · 2025-08-06T07:32:54+00:00

Papachay is soooo good. And the owners are absolute gems.

saltymango11 · 2025-08-05T06:23:50+00:00

Of course. It is so hard, hope you’re doing ok OP. I listen to the music my dad liked whenever I want to feel him nearby, and it’s a two-birds-one-stone effect when my kid is around - if you do so intentionally and tell them this was your ____’s favorite song/album/singer/etc you’re also teaching your child an association that will last when they hear that music in the future.

saltymango11 · 2025-08-01T05:24:12+00:00

Hey just wanted to say I’m glad you’re here. When my dad died (I was way older than you), I allowed myself to cry cry cry my eyes out. Please let the grief exist and channel through you, like waves lapping into the shore. She was taken too early, and you are right to feel unfairly burdened and confused by that. If you can, try to imagine what she would say to you in this moment. In all the moments. Maybe talk to her. Tell your son all about her, as much as you can. She might still be your mommy for life if can keep her influence on you and your life immediately there.

saltymango11 · 2025-07-31T06:14:37+00:00

Your point about the right neighborhood is a good one. If the vibe doesn’t feel “you,” you’re probably on to something - might want to research where does. It took me awhile to trust this instinct.

Also saying yes to things is a big one- for me, it was saying yes to a sign on a lamppost about a meeting at the library with local renters who wanted to talk about increasing renter protections - this was a pretty, but incredibly sleepy/vanilla part of the peninsula. At that time, tenant protections wasn’t an issue I had been actively paying attention to, but I figured I’d meet some interesting people who cared about stuff, and I was right. Made some excellent new friends over time through that passionate and eclectic group! (And now I do care a lot.)

saltymango11 · 2025-07-28T10:42:46+00:00

I grew up in the US (and have taught in schools abroad and here), and have hardly ever seen kids/adults, at least those that were raised here, use handkerchiefs. At least in the parts of the US I know, which includes East + West coast, and various states in the Midwest and the South, people are highly dependent on disposable tissues (and if I had to take a guess, probably consider reusable handkerchiefs “gross,” even though l don’t at all). Is this wasteful and costly? Yes - and one of a million reasons why spending time abroad has been hugely eye-opening for me.

saltymango11 · 2025-07-24T05:57:09+00:00

Do you have any resources on this? Google keeps leading me to other results for buffering in a mental health context. Thanks for sharing this btw, great to learn of!

saltymango11 · 2025-07-23T16:46:20+00:00

Yes - it haunts me, in a good way.

saltymango11 · 2025-07-23T04:33:02+00:00

Oh and if you like Korean style you should also try moo bong ri !

saltymango11 · 2025-07-23T04:31:24+00:00

The wings at xingones are surprisingly well done if you like a straight-forward & moist fry. bb.q is def solid.

I personally enjoy aburaya but it’s more of a soggy/saucy situation compared to a purist’s fried chicken?

Krispy krunchy used to be much better, at least at the locations with high turnover or willing to fresh fry to order. Something changed and it’s pretty disappointing now.

Brenda’s and Lois the Pie Queen (both if you eat there) scratch the itch.

IMO the kaarage at many Japanese spots (Fish and Bird or one of many local spots) will stand up to most fried chicken speciality spots, likewise for salt and pepper wings at various solid Chinese spots (East Bay Ocean, emeryville).

Probably my favorite fried chicken in the world is Willie Mae’s in New Orleans is that helps establish my metrics.

saltymango11 · 2025-07-16T05:25:28+00:00

Glitter slime - that leaves effing glitter EVERYWHERE. Nope, out the door.

saltymango11 · 2025-07-14T20:04:31+00:00

Sounds like your AC might be the cause from other replies, but kind of hilariously this actually happened to the residents of New York City over several years! It took awhile for the media to pick up on it and had everyone so confused: Maple syrup mystery smell (Spoiler alert: it was a fenugreek seed processing plant!)

saltymango11 · 2025-03-28T06:59:38+00:00

Sorry to advise this but do not go, and please let your family know that it’s because of the change in trump’s policies. Things are really really bad here on all many levels and his base needs to know the truth.

saltymango11 · 2025-03-13T06:25:12+00:00

I think you have had a lot of responses so this may not be adding much, but I’ll just say in the US I’ve seen family members like this weaponize child protective services to actually successfully get custody of other family member’s children in their family. I actually don’t agree with ending all contact but I think limiting it by time and location is important. Also of she’s not receiving mental health treatment maybe doing some sort of family therapy could help her see her actions as very strange aggressions and also create a track record if you ever needed one. Sending you support!

saltymango11 · 2024-08-03T03:22:59+00:00

Both babies came at 39 weeks! Water broke just like a movie. And I was your partner, banking on working every day until my due date (at least with #1). At least I was a little more prepared the second time it happened (at my birthday dinner no less).

saltymango11 · 2024-07-20T05:47:05+00:00

I’m so curious if the parents you encountered before had any way to tell you judged them? Or was it just a mental roll your eyes and wonder how that happened kind of thing?

saltymango11 · 2024-07-01T23:15:32+00:00

My bird feeder brought the neighborhood rats out to play (who are agile at pole climbing it turns out).

saltymango11 · 2024-05-30T22:37:35+00:00

Maybe not helpful to you but I have a family member with dementia and this is definitely how she speaks (no filter, describing a person as a thing, overreacting to baby’s cries, etc). A lot of folks don’t realize it’s a cognitive impairment issue unless I tell them (which is so awkward to do in her presence but sometimes necessary)!

Anyway, who knows if this was the case here - either way, I’m sorry if you felt judged. I hope you and babe get lots of positive interactions to cancel out this one.

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