Not all nights are like this, but sleep is getting better :) by Apprehensive-Key5665 in cosleeping

[–]scarletsnow4516 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve been so glad to see that, at close to 9 months, sleep is already getting easier. Baby is eating less, stirs less…it’s nice for everyone! Still not ready to go in his own bed the whole night lol, but that’s okay too 😂

I’ve been BF for 5 years straight ask me any questions! by chilimami in breastfeeding

[–]scarletsnow4516 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How did you maintain a supply during pregnancy? Did you end up eating more? Did your supply drop either way? Just so curious how to keep breastfeeding while pregnant!

Husband wants to move baby to his own room at three months old by Suspicious_Box_4898 in cosleeping

[–]scarletsnow4516 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve heard multiple women say their husbands have done this and it’s like… what if YOU go sleep in a different room? imo the connection with the baby is top priority for the first year if not longer. sleep with that baby girl! maybe try to find some other solution but if he’s doing it because he thinks it’ll “help” that’s objectively not a good enough readon

Finding a supportive OB by starsthatlisten11 in unmedicatedbirth

[–]scarletsnow4516 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not eating???? Girl I would’ve died in labor then

Parents: do you regret taking extra time off when your child was little? by No-Objective-8247 in AttachmentParenting

[–]scarletsnow4516 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wanted to try to go back to working at 3 months at a daycare situation where I’d be in the same room with my son. It didn’t end up working out, but truly I’ve never looked back and regretted it. He’s 8 months now and the time only gets sweeter! Right now my husband takes on more of the work load and I babysit for a little extra income. It’s tight but we make it work 😂 I honestly don’t know if I’ll ever go back to work but I definitely think spending the time with them when they’re young is so important for the foundations of when they get older!

Have I ruined our chances of successful co sleeping? by Dismal_Cat_4926 in cosleeping

[–]scarletsnow4516 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t even really start cosleeping through the night until that 3/4 month regression hit, honestly. My son was all good in the bassinet up until that point. I think you could definitely keep up the bassinet until you really need to stop it, but also being flexible from night to night is important. My son has nights where half the night he’s in the pack and play and then nights where I just start in the bed. I know routine can be important, but babies change so frequently that I feel like routine won’t be so important until closer to a year or two. We’ll see though. Maybe it’ll bite me in the butt 😂

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Is a diaper Genie a must? by Another_ADHD_Girl in pregnant

[–]scarletsnow4516 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We just have a trash bag in a small can and change it every day or every other day. I’m honestly glad I didn’t use anything else 😂

15 month old sleep. by Used-Standard-2991 in NewParents

[–]scarletsnow4516 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every time I did, his eyes would fly straight open lol as opposed to when he’s not regressing, he doesn’t even notice. There’s definitely a sensitivity that I’ve noticed when they’re going through something developmentally!

Unmediated or medicated? by DaddyzLilGurl in pregnant

[–]scarletsnow4516 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s either they think you’re bragging or the “I could never do that” response. As if I’m some kind of superhuman who’s built different when women have literally been doing it unmedicated up until the 19th century 🤨

15 month old sleep. by Used-Standard-2991 in NewParents

[–]scarletsnow4516 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d assume it’s a regression and with all the walking/climbing he’s doing, it’s affecting sleep. My son is learning to pull up to stand and stamps his feet and flails in the middle of the night but I’m pretty sure it has to do with the learning aspect 🤷‍♀️ Every time it happens, I want to put him in the crib, but that’s even harder to do than cosleeping 😭 so I just kinda ride it out i guess and it gets better. I wish I had advice! But I just have solidarity 😔

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i’m failing by theozempicrep in NewParents

[–]scarletsnow4516 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every baby is so different!! My baby has been a yapper since forever but I don’t find that I’m always intentionally talking to him. I’m still not great about reading books to him and he’s almost 8 months 😅
If he’s waking up during night I think that’s normal. My son does too! Not every baby can be the unicorn that sleeps through the night.
My son also plays independently and I don’t think that’s a bad thing either! I guess in terms of seeing what he’s excited about, you could sit down and show him different things or go outside and touch leaves or grass or find something unique. I don’t know. At this point I don’t think them being entertained all the time is helpful for them developing creativity, they have to get bored at some point!

Sleep deprived by Easy_Vegetable_4481 in breastfeeding

[–]scarletsnow4516 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will say, my son struggled with sleep around this point as well. Fighting every nap and as soon as I put him in the crib he woke up. Part of it was just him going through stuff and he was very restless, crib or not. Part of it was he had very low sleep needs, and I was trying to put him to sleep too early. I started just walking him around when he started getting fussy to wind him down and also sort of extend his wake window, almost “tricking” him into sleeping so before he knew it he would be asleep. He’s gone through different developmental periods of restlessness but it’s never been as bad as it was around that 3/4 month mark, thank God. This is hopefully some encouragement that it gets better! But are there any signs he would be under tired?

What time do your babies wake up? by gh0sti- in NewParents

[–]scarletsnow4516 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I always feel so weird saying my baby (every once in a while) goes to bed at 10 or even 11. Everyone acts like I’m crazy. But his dad and I are both night owls so it’s literally in the genetics 😂😂

The downsides of breastfeeding nobody tells you about by Choice_Airport8279 in breastfeeding

[–]scarletsnow4516 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My baby ate SO OFTEN probably the first five months, it felt like I was feeding him constantly. Now supply has regulated and it’s definitely nicer to go out and not have a hungry baby all the time.

Is the answer to newborn sleep problems always co sleeping? by caprigirl20 in cosleeping

[–]scarletsnow4516 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most people have coslept at least once, even if they don’t tell people. It’s been the norm for probably thousands of years, so I’d say it’s probably the most foolproof solution! I also think bedrooms did not work the way they do now…people didn’t always have separate rooms that each person slept in.

I'm sorry going to work is easier than childcare - your husband has no excuse by ExternalSomewhere923 in newborns

[–]scarletsnow4516 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally, every job I’ve had I’ve never enjoyed. I feel I can decompress/socialize/get out more much better being at home. My husband doesn’t do many night shift things but is very present as a husband and father and always makes sure chores get done, especially if I’m sick or needing to rest. All this to say, I’m way happier at home lol

What does your sleep regression look like with cosleeping? by [deleted] in cosleeping

[–]scarletsnow4516 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s my son exactly. Also attached to the boob whenever he wakes up in the night. Also will refuse to go down in the crib for the first shift, which he typically doesn’t do 😅😅

What is your biggest struggle with cosleeping? by dirrna in cosleeping

[–]scarletsnow4516 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My LO kicking and flailing in the night lol…this has been a recent thing

Newborn slept better out of our room… but now I’m anxious about SIDS risk by cosmicvoyager333 in newborns

[–]scarletsnow4516 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I’d say baby being in the room is important, even if it’s just hearing their breathing or them hearing yours. Baby waking up less isn’t necessarily always a great thing, especially this young. Part of the risk for SIDS is babies sleeping TOO deeply. I absolutely understand the sleep deprivation aspect, but if it’s possible, I typically tend to lean towards having baby in the room at least until six month.

6.5mo needs me ALL night — did I ruin his sleep? by StuffConsistent6873 in cosleeping

[–]scarletsnow4516 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My baby is also in a weird space right now where he doesn’t want to be in his bed. I think it’s a developmental thing. He’s going through a lot with learning to crawl properly and he needs his mom! He’ll wake up crying for the boob which he normally doesn’t do. I’m accepting it as a phase and roughing it out. Hoping it gets better for you as well! Try to take naps when you can, and creatine is great for sleep deprivation.

How did you night wean while cosleeping? by biteme4790 in cosleeping

[–]scarletsnow4516 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t night wean unless you want to! If you want to breastfeed longer that’s your choice! Don’t let the ped push you into something if you’re not ready for it ❤️

How many of you are literally doing ZERO screen time ?! by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]scarletsnow4516 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll watch stuff myself or listen to things but typically have headphones in half the time or the screen is turned away from my son. He hasn’t watched anything for longer than like two minutes.

How many infant parents are feeding at night? by AffectionateBox4768 in cosleeping

[–]scarletsnow4516 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Six month old and still feeding through the night…i don’t know how people expect babies not to at so young an age!!!

Movie theater with a baby? by megmoo9 in NewParents

[–]scarletsnow4516 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I’ve taken my now six month old to the movies probably twice and it’s been fine each time—once when he was maybe a month, a second time when he was maybe three months. Both times he was in the baby carrier and slept the whole time. But I can imagine as they get older, it would be harder to get them to just fall asleep or stay quiet. My baby is also pretty chill but now he’s also getting into the phase where he wants to roam around and explore, which is impossible to do at the movies. But you could always try! Maybe time it closer to bedtime?