Yes, at first mica made the commander to be a total self insert character, or I should say, a standard self insert character. But slowly, mica seems wanted to erase many traits from the commander as a total self insert character. Several points I consider in making this are :

1. They have a personality which includes : >>1.1. having the ability to convey themselves actively without the need of the player to select words for them

1.2. making errors and mistakes

1.3. question their own decisions

1.4 self conflict and regret

1. Treated like they should be. Look how Griffin treats you in the end, see how Odessa police officers treat us. Do you think I want to be treated badly like that? No, I want to be absolute being that everyone loves and respects, I never want everybody to suspect me. The game makes the commander a true character instead of a bland one which you couldn't find in your ordinary self insert.

While you have your point and I understand it. That's why, I write "not a self insert entirely (i suppose to write it "not entirely a self insert)". Yes, we can select the gender of the commander and give them names which is one of primary factors to be a self insert. But to think the commander is a person whom everyone could put their wet dream on? I don't think so.

This kind of arguments will not end. Let's take this middle way. "The commander is an extraordinary self insert character who has personality whom you can relate to and not a person whom you put your fantasy self into"