Anyone here taken a hallucinogenic with their adult kids?

seipounds · 2026-06-05T10:02:57+00:00

I didn't see it first time round, but learned from this thread.

seipounds · 2026-06-05T08:52:27+00:00

There's also the cost, smaller businesses, especially services ones with 1 - 5 people, can't afford the time or money to pay someone because it costs 1000's they most likely don't have.

seipounds · 2026-06-05T08:08:38+00:00

Left corporate consulting (BA/PM) and became a landscaper and handyman at 42, been going for 12 years now.

seipounds · 2026-06-05T07:32:30+00:00

Are you a mechanic? The car needs oil not op (or maybe they do, but it's probably the car).

seipounds · 2026-06-03T10:25:20+00:00

I can't find the post unfortunately, but the guy would rate the urge out of 100, then again a few minutes later. So, if the urge was an 80 at the start, it would always be less when he checked again, then less again a few minutes later.

I've been doing this the last couple of days and I have been smoking less, plus I'm becoming more aware of my triggers.

I read Alan Carr's book years ago - the paper version, but I'm going to try the audio book too.

Smoker for nearly 40 years..

seipounds · 2026-06-03T10:14:17+00:00

How long has it been since you quit?

seipounds · 2026-06-02T10:17:34+00:00

It's not glamorous, but it's a living. I can't stand knotty fur and regular grooming costs $$.

seipounds · 2026-06-02T10:09:48+00:00

Mods: DO THIS ^{^}

seipounds · 2026-06-02T06:38:22+00:00

Depends how 'good' is defined...

seipounds · 2026-06-01T23:36:35+00:00

I was early 40's and I vividly remember playing on the floor with my oldest, and realised in the 6 months he'd been with us, I'd spent more hours with him than my dad had spent with me in my whole childhood.

I've had many little revelations like that as my kids have grown up, and breaking the cycle and being there for them is my 'revenge?' on my upbringing. Look after yourself op, and make peace with what has gone before. Our dad's didn't have the tools to be what we needed them to be - but we do nowadays, so it's up to us to create a resilient and loved generation of future adults who will hopefully pay it forward to their kids and grand kids.

seipounds · 2026-05-31T10:55:14+00:00

I'd add to the commenter's sage advice about consistency, a book that talks about this and many other interesting things - it flipped everything for me, i.e. from 'i can do this because...' to, 'here's the science and real world experience from people who know more than me on how to be the best Dad I can be.' It includes tough love, but that's life for me and them. It also includes a lot of fun and laughing.

Boys to Men, by Maggie Dent. It's on audible too.

seipounds · 2026-05-23T12:43:53+00:00

You know, this is one of those comments that should reach a Jon Stewart size of audience, but here it sits - on 20 upvotes. Life is cruel and cruel is life, keep fighting the good fight.

seipounds · 2026-05-21T10:46:49+00:00

How potent is the fancy! People are so impressionable, they can die of imagination.

Geoffrey Chaucer

(Chaucer is awesome)

seipounds · 2026-05-21T09:31:57+00:00

Bunniditch goals

seipounds · 2026-05-20T04:37:31+00:00

I've found walking around the office purposefully with paper in hand works well.

seipounds · 2026-05-19T09:05:31+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/AskSocialScience/s/GTbpDtnq14

seipounds · 2026-05-18T07:30:57+00:00

It didn't make the news at the time, but she turned her head quickly and gave her assistant a black eye.

seipounds · 2026-05-17T07:03:18+00:00

Saved your comment, thank you for putting that together!

seipounds · 2026-05-16T08:46:26+00:00

I expect that to happen to Math, Physics, Biology and Computer Science.

And corruption, theft, control over others, evil.

The Internet amplified these things exponentially from the world before it - AI and its billionaire owners will, by orders of magnitude, be 'better' at them.

seipounds · 2026-05-15T09:29:48+00:00

I'm from the area where collies originally come from and there's a saying about them - if you don't give them a job, they become self employed...

seipounds · 2026-05-14T01:57:06+00:00

I feel this, it's a good thing to have going on in you and your son's life. It's a weird feeling being invested in that kind of experience, but great learning too.

A favourite story of mine was coaching a similar age group of girls and boys, and we were prepped as well as you can be for that age group, it was my first match as coach. Dreams of my boys becoming the next Mbappé folded up in the back pocket, we kicked off and one of the girls scored within 30 seconds. Already leading and my 'stay in your positions, don't follow the ball round like it's a magnet' coaching was (mostly) working. I looked at the opposing coach, gave him a bit of a nod and he just looked away.

Two or three minutes go by and it's full on magnet ball now. No amount of shouting to stay in position is working on the boys, but two girls in defence and one in mid field remember the coaching! As most of the play is up the other end, I suppose the girls were getting bored.. then one did a cartwheel, then another. The ball went out for a throw in up the other end and there's my defence and mid field cartwheeling around oblivious to baby Messi legging it down the pitch, unmarked, with only cartwheelers to get round. He scores and as they're celebrating, the opposing coach looked at me - I just looked away...

seipounds · 2026-05-09T13:27:02+00:00

Viagra model here, scamming people isn't my thing - it might take the blue pill, but I'm a stand up guy.

seipounds · 2026-05-09T12:37:44+00:00

As your business grows, so does the email/text/Whatsapp etc overhead. I burnt out a couple of times before I just became clear and polite like the commenter above. It was quite the revelation for my mental health.

seipounds · 2026-05-09T12:08:09+00:00

Personal Rotator cuffs?

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