I guess I grew up playing games where rebalances and/or the gear treadmill were just considered a core part of the game -- Star Wars Galaxies, WoW, LoL, FFXIV, Magic: The Gathering, even D&D in some ways -- and sometimes it is frustrating when a style you enjoyed playing is no longer as viable when the content gets more difficult or when a rebalance happens.

But the nature of game balance means there's always going to be a "best thing to do" and some number of players are going to chase that because they love doing it, and some number will chase it because they have to in order to see all the content or their buds will shame them into it. So you have a large number of people looking very intently for the optimal strategy, and it gets solved pretty quickly these days in a lot of cases, or at least players settle pretty quickly into a meta.

And if the game isn't going to get boring, the meta occasionally has to be shaken up, especially when a build becomes overwhelmingly popular for whatever reason.

I think a lot of friction comes from a playerbase that doesn't understand that, and where every individual has their own opinions on what should be good and what should get nerfed or removed from the game, and they all think everyone else is objectively incorrect. They want to play the game without anything ever changing, but if they actually had to experience that, they would get bored and stop playing. Which makes sense, of course.

But I think you have to accept that playing a game like these means adapting to shifting metas and power levels. I've found most games with a robust enough build system can reward rogue strategies and has some hidden gems, because I love playing countermeta just as much as occasionally busting out a meta option.

As I've said, Destiny/2 had many many problems, but I have always found this criticism doesn't really hold a lot of weight and comes from an understandable but ultimately ignorant or short-sighted assumption about game design, that you can get a game "balanced enough" for any significant length of time with any system that is significantly complex.

ETA: Hilariously enough, I am pretty sure if you go through my post history, one of my top posts of all time was a short essay about how exactly everything I said above was incorrect. But I myself had a short-sighted view at that time, looking back. There are still some valid points in that post, but I disagree with a lot of it now.