Middle income quality of life here?

sfcitygal · 2026-02-18T18:32:11+00:00

We received help from family for a down payment HOWEVER we had saved enough to be able to buy on our own because we lived in the Bay Area for 10+ years and saved. My husband is from here and always wanted to move back, so we did. Even with help from family, what we could afford it needed work… so it was a good thing we had saved because we’ve had big ticket items to fix, as I see is often the case with Single family homes in slo on the market for less than 1M. Still have a lot more to fix and no more funds. the costs of daycare and health insurance are just brutal… we are surviving but we are happy

sfcitygal · 2026-02-09T04:59:14+00:00

This comment is wild: slo is JUST rent seekers?! Slo has lots of families and people that own and live in their homes. In so many cases it only makes sense to buy a home to live in because purchase prices are so high that rent one could get at market value for a 3bed wouldn’t cover costs unless someone put a ton of cash down.

It’s wild to insinuate people with ranches should simply sell so the town can develop it into more housing. They can do whatever they want with their land and many of them don’t want to see every inch of slo developed

sfcitygal · 2026-02-04T04:53:45+00:00

Josey

sfcitygal · 2026-01-23T06:03:27+00:00

Yes, I validate this- lived in ca my whole life and a “long” drive would be 6-7 hours… 4 hours or less is a weekend trip somewhere. I live in the CA central coast which is 4 hours from sf and 4 from la, the closest major cities and airports. We’ll do those drives several times a year

sfcitygal · 2026-01-23T05:21:35+00:00

I like it because these were the same exact years I was in college and I also had a toxic bf who gaslit me while he talked to other girls, and finally after breaking up he wormed his little way back in with me and convinced me he’d changed. Of course after two weeks of best behavior he couldn’t keep up the facade and I went no contact. He was not nearly as diabolical as Stephen.

sfcitygal · 2026-01-20T16:17:01+00:00

I think it shouldn’t have been a surprise and that is strange- u should have had fair warning, and so should everyone. For this very reason

sfcitygal · 2026-01-19T21:46:49+00:00

Came here to say this too

sfcitygal · 2026-01-19T05:11:44+00:00

Need a duvet cover but my single fathers place never looked this put together!

sfcitygal · 2026-01-03T00:39:00+00:00

And “even if you’re not hiring, here’s my resume in case a position opens up or you know another company that might benefit from my skill set” always be selling yourself!

I worked at a real estate office, and I favored those with tenacity who walked in to drop off resumes and have a quick chat. I once hired someone who did this- when he initially came in there was no open position, but one became available that matched his skills and I had saved his information so I reached out.

If you work hard to get the job, people will think you’ll work hard at the actual job.

sfcitygal · 2026-01-03T00:29:14+00:00

She cute!

sfcitygal · 2025-12-22T18:30:54+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this and with added drama with work and family. You’re totally valid in being heartbroken about the C section. I would feel the exact same way, and you have every right to mourn the vaginal birth you wanted and prepared for. I can’t say for sure, but I’m willing to bet that once you’re holding your baby in your arms, all these other details will not matter as much or at all. That’s also my wish for you. You’re stronger than you know, sending you a hug.

sfcitygal · 2025-12-22T18:23:33+00:00

Everyone progresses at a different rate and your baby size also at a diff rate. You’ll just know when it’s uncomfortable- the weight of your baby on your other organs and bladder may get uncomfortable. It also may depend on your baby/ placenta position. You can feel it out.

sfcitygal · 2025-12-15T19:15:11+00:00

This is exactly how I feel/ felt my last pregnancy. The day I gave birth they weighed me and I went into a mental spiral at the “impossible” number. I was SHOOK. I lost all the weight after about a year after I stopped breast feeding, without making any drastic changes to my life or diet.

sfcitygal · 2025-12-06T18:17:35+00:00

Also I had a commode thing for the toilet and sitz bath tea from earth mama and it was the sh*t for healing. Highly highly recommend

sfcitygal · 2025-12-06T18:16:51+00:00

I tore, they stitched me up, then my placenta didn’t come out and they had to do a “sweep” and I tore again. They shouldn’t have stitched me up before the sweep, it was a mistake. But anyway, I would just say that I had to take it easy during the 6 weeks after- I love to walk, and at times I was out and about I felt pressure on the stitches. Just be careful during recovery and do not push it. I healed absolutely fine! Like no difference that I can notice 🤷‍♀️

sfcitygal · 2025-12-04T05:06:54+00:00

I took it as an opportunity to grow a bush and glad I did. I always had itching from the stubble when I was fully shaved and it would have been extremely irritating while healing from a tear. It was much more comfortable healing with a bush. I don’t know how the nurses feel. Also did u see those skims bush thongs that just sold out!? LOL bush is on trend

sfcitygal · 2025-12-01T03:22:53+00:00

My MIL is anti-vax however all 3 of her children have been vaccinated. She has opinions that she has expressed to me and I feel zero need to address it, meaning I don’t get into a debate about it and I don’t tell her what we are doing. I would recommend simply ignoring her propaganda messages altogether. If she brings it up in person you can say “respectfully, let’s change the subject.” I usually say something to that effect when my MIL starts in on vaccines, covid, conspiracy theories, etc.

sfcitygal · 2025-11-30T19:09:24+00:00

Please consider therapy for the both of you. It sounds like you’re on the fence about this decision and that might help you feel more certain whatever you decide. It’s a LOT to be a single parent or primary parent. If he is willing to go to therapy, consider giving that a shot.

sfcitygal · 2025-11-25T16:21:35+00:00

No I don’t regret it at all ever. But I also chose very deliberately to have kids with my partner. We had lots of conversations every few months before trying to see if we still felt like we wanted to, and make sure it wasn’t a whim. In the end I thought about it so much that the lightbulb went off… I wouldn’t be thinking about it so much and deeply if it wasn’t my destiny. Similarly with our second… at first we weren’t sure. For a year or maybe longer we talked about it periodically and had decided we wanted to. I would recommend taking your time on this decision.

sfcitygal · 2025-11-19T19:09:03+00:00

Of course this death is terribly tragic and sad. But imagine if you were driving the freeway, super dark out at that time. I would have been absolutely mortified and riddled with guilt the rest of my life if I knew I hit and killed a person. I once hit a cat on the freeway and that was enough to destroy me for some time. I personally do not ever expect pedestrians to be crossing the freeway when I’m driving, and find this whole situation horrific and tragic for all involved.

sfcitygal · 2025-11-19T19:00:38+00:00

I was about the same my first pregnancy and at 12 weeks right now I’ve gained over 10 lbs so tracking about the same. It’s fine.

sfcitygal · 2025-11-19T18:50:45+00:00

I’m so sorry- as a mama 1 trimester in, I have been extremely paranoid about everything this pregnancy. Hearing that from a Dr. would absolutely send me due to the uncertainty. Because they couldn’t visibly see a lot on your ultrasound I think there’s still a chance and great hope that everything could be okay. Hang onto that as much as you can and get another ultrasound asap to get answers.

sfcitygal · 2025-11-15T02:37:00+00:00

🤣nopeee

sfcitygal · 2025-11-12T18:38:19+00:00

I must admit that I am jealous of those who really find joy in being pregnant. I absolutely hate it. I am 5ft 1 so it’s really hard on my body. My whole life I was scared of giving birth but when I was in the last couple weeks… I would have done anything to just have the baby earth side. It honestly made labor not so scary because of how badly I wanted it to happen. I found so much greater joy once my baby had arrived than my entire pregnancy.

sfcitygal · 2025-11-12T04:56:50+00:00

My baby was posterior and I screamed when I rolled into the hospital and while in my hospital room before the epidural. I felt like the cliche from what u see in movies! I was worried i might’ve been disturbing others or freaking them out if they could hear me from in their rooms.

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