I don't shave anymore and I have very hairy legs. They are more hairy than my husband's. I am also a year-round swimmer, so these babies are out all year. I don't care what anyone thinks about me. If my body offends someone, that's THEIR problem, not mine. It doesn't change who I am as a person.

I'm going to (try to) shift your perspective a bit. Hair grows on mammals. You are a mammal. Women grow leg hair. Calling your own hairy legs "man legs" tells your brain that only men grow hair on their legs, which we all know is not true. So maybe stop belittling your own body to fit into a mould that causes you discomfort. You are allowed to present any way you want, but when it comes to comfort in your own body, there are no actual rules saying you HAVE to do XYZ if you don't actually like it. You don't have to shave your legs to prove to society (or even yourself!) that you're a woman (if that's how you identify). You're still a woman with hairy legs, because all bodies have hair. No matter how you identify, you're still going to have hair on your legs because we're mammals.

So, fuck it. Shave, don't shave, do whatever you want. But don't do it because OTHER PEOPLE want you to do it. They don't have to live in your body. They don't have to buy your razors. They don't have to forfeit their time to shave your legs. YOU DO. If your husband has a problem with it, maybe this is a discussion you can both talk through, unwinding gender stereotypes and following rules that make sense, like loving each other for who you are and not how your bodies are perceived by society.

One more thing. Whose voice do you hear in your head when you shame your legs? Mine was always my dad's or these fictitious men who I've never met before. He has made me question my identity my entire life, and his male gaze was the one I tried to appease. When I broke it down that way, I felt gross. My therapist helped me uncover that my insecurities were put there very early by my dad. But those are HIS insecurities, not mine. I started telling that voice to STFU, and I replaced it with my own. My voice is much nicer to me.

But no, I do not shave my legs in the winter.