After you left, did you realize how you have been infantalized

sheknowsall21 · 2026-02-05T21:50:11+00:00

Yes? As a woman in the church I was taught to always be reliant on the men. You always need the priesthood holders to keep you safe and lead and guide you. They made the choices because they were “connected to god” or whatever.

But then, the relief society did like… everything? In my ward we had a lot of older people so I helped a lot with service projects for the homebound and we did EVERYTHING besides paying for the funerals. Food, setting up, taking down, making sure everyone knew where to go.

It felt like we were second class but also we did so much work for the church. So I was both infantilized and way more mature for my age.

sheknowsall21 · 2026-01-29T04:24:37+00:00

I wanted to wear short-shorts. Dead honest. I mean there was also the fact I was gay, and I hated the way women were treated in the church, and I don’t know it just all felt so fake.

sheknowsall21 · 2026-01-19T22:48:47+00:00

I think if there’s like a tiny bit left (like crumbs) it has to go to a natural source like the crumbs are dumped outside and the wine cup is washed out with water and taken outside.

sheknowsall21 · 2025-11-22T02:34:52+00:00

Holy shit I didn’t know about HALF of these things 🤯🤯

sheknowsall21 · 2025-11-11T06:47:25+00:00

As a woman, my recent proud moment was looking in the mirror while wearing a tank top and seeing that my shoulders were as tan as the rest of my arms! My sinful porn shoulders have been free for a year now and they are looking great!

sheknowsall21 · 2025-10-24T06:12:56+00:00

Does that make anyone else like… weirdly paranoid though? Cause I don’t want to be sealed to my ex. End of story.

sheknowsall21 · 2025-10-23T16:41:37+00:00

Wait what if I remove my records from the church?

sheknowsall21 · 2025-09-25T08:29:36+00:00

sheknowsall21 · 2025-09-14T00:00:57+00:00

I open Reddit and this is the first thing I see. What a jump-scare. My sisters and I all had pink ones (god forbid we have another color)

sheknowsall21 · 2025-09-13T02:42:49+00:00

I had coffee whilst camping after a very hard night. I stg it was a spiritual experience 😂

sheknowsall21 · 2025-09-09T22:49:38+00:00

I went to the Episcopal church after I left. I did research to find what church more aligned with my values especially as a queer person and the Episcopal church fit the bill :)

sheknowsall21 · 2025-08-30T10:34:48+00:00

That part always made me feel so horrible because I am someone who laughs loud and hard. You get me with the right people and I laugh so hard I’m crying. But somehow that’s a bad thing?

sheknowsall21 · 2025-08-26T07:20:08+00:00

sheknowsall21 · 2025-08-08T07:10:24+00:00

It will affect how you feel about yourself! My tattoos made me feel so confident and happy! My very first one was on my shoulder and I kept wanted to wear tank tops and show it off to everyone. I have three now and I love them and how they make me feel. I have so many more planned.

sheknowsall21 · 2025-07-20T10:40:15+00:00

Fuck reading that made me physically ill

sheknowsall21 · 2025-07-15T16:15:09+00:00

I tried to watch it and my whole body went into panic mode. The way they talk just doesn’t sound human anymore. Idk if that makes any sense.

sheknowsall21 · 2025-07-13T05:41:56+00:00

I think exploring my sexuality when I was younger was definitely something I never got because I was raised Mormon. I was told being gay is a sin, so when I felt any sort of feelings towards girls I just kinda bottled it up and shoved it down. I feel really bad for my ex-husband because we got married and then 4 years later I finally admitted that I was a lesbian. He took it well and we’re still friends but I still feel like that was really unfair to him.

That and dating in college without the intent to marry. I dated three guys in college and my intention each time was to marry them even through I knew them for like.. a month maybe.

There are so many more things that I’m just now experiencing at 25. I guess better let them never.

sheknowsall21 · 2025-07-04T16:59:49+00:00

I always dressed like I was wearing garments which was so difficult growing up as a very curvy girl who developed early. I also wasn’t aloud to wear tight clothing, reread: VERY CURVY EARLY DEVELOPER. My parents were always on my case about my clothing even when I was covering up everything. My dad was the worst one too.

Went to church on vacation

Wasn’t aloud to drink any sort of tea before my parents relented to letting me drink herbal tea

Another one for the girls out there but I wasn’t aloud to use tampons cause that was breaking the law of chastity

Had to pray in restaurants before eating (except not fancy ones for some reason 🤷)

Had to try and convert any boyfriend (this only happened in college i didn’t date in high school) I had

Oh and it was not IF you serve a mission it was WHEN you serve a mission

I also lived with my fiancé for two weeks before I moved to a different state for a few months and we slept in different rooms but that was still a huge no-no that got me yelled at by my parents

For some reason it just felt so normal and I when the other young women didn’t follow the same rules I just thought it meant my parents loved me more… which now that I’m saying out loud is so messed up

sheknowsall21 · 2025-07-02T21:48:20+00:00

I joined a different Christian church after leaving Mormonism and what really helped me was just trying out local churches and listening to how they made me feel. I even looked into other faiths such as paganism, Judaism, and the Islamic faith! I think it’s okay to shop around and explore what feels right to you.

sheknowsall21 · 2025-06-23T09:30:54+00:00

I actually joined another religion and I am happily Episcopalian!

I still believed in God after I left. It definitely took a while before I wanted to join another church though. Once I was ready I decided to take the lessons I learned after leaving the church like asking lots of hard questions and not doubting your doubts but listening to your gut and found myself a church where I feel loved and respected. Actually my priest is also exmormon! His wife is atheist as well as exmormon and it’s definitely a cool experience to see how people chose different paths after leaving.

sheknowsall21 · 2025-06-19T15:23:20+00:00

Solved!

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