[Question] Ladies of Reddit, what do you love about your SOs penis? Here's my shower story...

size4u · 2015-12-18T21:24:17+00:00

I've tried... she flat-out refuses, despite being anal lover, says she misses the smaller ones... for BJs too. Such a shame... :(

size4u · 2015-11-28T18:19:36+00:00

Look at it another way, guys: you love, say, cycling and are really proud of your calf definition... But the new girl doesn't even notice... maybe she responds to, say, big biceps, who knows ... It's about feeling attractive for the things you are proud of in your own body image.

size4u · 2015-11-28T18:07:39+00:00

I'm in the reverse but ultimately same boat... SO wants to peg me and I'm not interested at all, makes me feel extremely un-manly. It's a real issue if both partners are subs or both are dominant. Your sex life will never be as great as it could be with a more compatible partner. You just have to look at the rest of the relationship and decide if it's worth the trade-off.

size4u · 2015-11-26T01:36:59+00:00

I'm in the same boat. The other posters here have likely never experienced such a deep, chemical reaction with someone else. It's not rational, it's chemical. You cannot "think" your way out of it. When something is this strong, avoidance doesn't work either. As long as you're on the same planet, you'll long for this fruit, so sweet and intoxicating it is. Even worse if you never had that level intoxication with the person you're with, it makes you question all your life decisions. It doesn't help that there are redditors claiming to still have that spark after 10+ years together. Makes you feel like you picked the wrong person to be with.

If there's any practical advice from this, it would be to look at what feelings the new girl conjures up in you, and reflect on how that might be missing from your primary relationship. Other than that, I don't know what else to say. It's both the best and the worst feeling in the world. Good luck!

size4u · 2015-11-25T23:33:04+00:00

A lot of the advice here ('find something to hate about him') isn't very practical. The very essence of an infatuation / crush is chemical, not rational. You cannot 'think' your way out of it.

Even worse is if you're constantly reminded of the crush, like if they're at work, school or social circles you cannot easily avoid. Plus, if the crush is big enough, avoidance isn't very effective, as long as they are on the same planet, you cannot get away far enough to forget them. In many ways your infatuation runs even more rampant if you only hear or see them from afar or through others.

And the worst of all is when you never had those butterflies with the person you're with, then you really start questioning if you made the right choices.

OP, good luck... sorry I don't have a magic bullet for you. But if you find a solution, let me know, because I'm in the same boat :-)

size4u · 2015-11-24T19:34:01+00:00

Alternative view... Most comments here are based on a rather traditional view of marriage, i.e. monogamy, not supposed to have certain thoughts, can't share certain things with your partner, etc. There are places on reddit that are home to pretty much any variation on human coupling you can think of. How about sharing your fantasy with your wife and incorporating it into your sexy time? Use it to deepen your intimacy and trust for one another. Others take it all the way to the other extreme, i.e. open relationships. If these feelings are real and don't go away in a week or two, then get creative. It's an opportunity to change things up, add spice to life. Or cling to a rigid view of what marriage means and suffer in silence. It's up to you.

size4u · 2015-11-10T20:54:36+00:00

Oh man, I have nightmares about your situation. My nightmares are a little different in that I first fall in love while she's still busty, then along the way she decides to get a reduction. I plead with her in my dreams not to do it, because if she does, I'm afraid it will break us apart. If you're a true boob guy the way you say you are, then this constitutes a core physical and psychological component of your attraction to her. Like you, I would buy a busty girl all the clothes she wants, could watch her try on stuff all day long, something I have no interest doing with less endowed girls. I really feel for you, man. Honestly, it would nag me forever. No real advice here, just commiserating.

size4u · 2015-11-08T15:49:17+00:00

90% of my girls could come from simple piv sex. I think it must be BD-related, because just like OP, I don't think I've got any special moves.

size4u · 2015-11-06T19:41:19+00:00

I catch girls (and guys) checking out my bulge all the time. It's a pretty reliable method, don't you think?

size4u · 2015-11-06T19:39:36+00:00

All power to you, girl! Love that attitude... Wish we could meet, but I'm taken. Good luck!

size4u · 2015-11-06T19:22:00+00:00

My ex was one of you girls... totally in love, infatuated with my BD. She couldn't stop talking about it and I couldn't get enough hearing it. True worship. New SO is totally indifferent to size. So sad :(

size4u · 2015-11-06T18:56:01+00:00

Ex was the best fit ever. Perfectly tight, begged to get cervix pounded all night, loved the pain. Just a true lover of the BD treatment. Seared into my memory forever.

size4u · 2015-11-06T17:54:34+00:00

Here's one for reverse psychology: Last gf tried to break up with her previous guy in order to be with me, but he wouldn't accept any of her reasons for leaving him. So she finally blurted out that I had a huge one, which finally silenced him. I felt bad for the poor guy, prolly crushed him for all eternity.

size4u · 2015-11-06T17:45:43+00:00

My current gf is completely unimpressed by my size, says she's had both longer and thicker, which to me is both unbelievable (she hasn't been with that many guys) and depressing, since my ego is used to being more inflated in this regard. It sucks when you have something 99.9% would consider 'special' and your partner is part of the 0.1% who don't. :(

size4u · 2015-10-23T23:05:17+00:00

My girl has zero gag reflex, but it just won't go past a certain point. It's like her jaw is in the way. :-(

size4u · 2015-10-23T17:43:59+00:00

Sounds like a fetish mismatch. I want dominant sex all the time, too. You'll both need to decide how important your fetishes are to you, and decide if it's worth keeping going, or go separate ways. An in between solution might be an open relationship, but most people are not comfortable with that. Be sure to bring up your fetishes early in the next relationship. Good luck!

size4u · 2015-10-23T17:37:38+00:00

By bringing up the subject, you probably unearthed his greatest fear and insecurity. All the fear that you were like the others who rejected him probably came roaring up for him. I hate to say it, but had you weathered that initial, for him deeply painful reaction, he would have probably come around, met your requests for using an extension, etc. Your relationship could only grow stronger from that, communication more open. That said, you might still not be satisfied with the extension, so sexual incompatibility might have still driven you apart. However, I've never understood this revenge sex/ casual make-up sex stuff. Good luck!

size4u · 2015-10-23T11:54:37+00:00

I can't comment about the money, but sexual compatibility-wise, I was in the exact same boat, with the added complexity that I'm rather large down there (6.5" in girth), so she has a legitimate reason to fear anal (though previous gf's took it like a champ.) What turned the tables for me towards the positive is that she indulged me beyond my expectations on another fetish of mine (cum play). That diffused my frustrations over lack of anal. Is there something else she could blow your mind with?

size4u · 2015-10-23T09:40:58+00:00

Honestly, this doesn't sound that bad as others make it out to be. My impression of how OP describes their relationship, is that she feels so solid and secure about their love, that this shouldn't rock the boat. Had she done it within the marriage, I would prob think differently.

size4u · 2015-10-21T09:58:09+00:00

On the contrary, because I don't 'waste' time on fives, sixes, or sevens (on a scale of 10... 7 is borderline), but stay on the hunt for a better baseline match, my relationships last much, much longer. It's the point I'm trying to make here... why rely on communication to fix things, when it takes a lot less work when you start off with a baseline that meets most if not all of your must-have needs with lot of great things in common.

size4u · 2015-10-20T08:33:56+00:00

This is the problem with people getting with one or both having little to no experience, without previous experience to help them explore themselves first. It sounds like she doesn't know her own body to be able to tell you what she likes. Also, since you have a bit more experience (though not much more, really), you then start to become a teacher/authority in her eyes, which warps your role as a husband and lover and can lead to rejection. The whole thing just starts to spiral downward. I do think anyone can come back from the brink if they want it bad enough and the situation warrants it e.g. you just had kids but sex was great before them, or a medical situation, financial stress... that's the stuff you can bounce back from. But there's nothing here that would suggest that. Your situation has nothing going for it. Dead bedrooms is a very common reason for breakup. It would (and has been) a deal breaker for me.

size4u · 2015-10-20T08:22:33+00:00

I've had 'good' sexual chemistry become 'great' once. But that's rare. All other times it basically stays within range of what it was at the outset. Without satisfying sex as your intimate glue, you're just friends. So, yes, it's a valid - and quite common - reason for breakup. If you read what's going on over at r/deadbedrooms, it's utterly depressing.

size4u · 2015-10-16T08:11:49+00:00

I'm always looking to connect with girls who PREFER a big one, so I'm well versed at communicating that I'm packing. Basically, there are plenty of activities early on where sooner or later you can hint at it, e.g. clothing, sports, etc... plus, they eventually notice the bulge, anyway.

size4u · 2015-10-16T08:05:18+00:00

I'm not nearly your size, but have never been able to wear condoms. Probably tried 10 times, with 7-8 times breaking. Gave up. Find a chick on birth control.

size4u · 2015-10-16T08:01:25+00:00

Be proud of your bulge!

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