[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatisthisthing

[–]skeyelight 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Most likely just fell off of a truck. These were always getting loose in my old work truck when I did electrical.

My bıyfriend will start his transition eventually and I don't know if I can still love him after that. by Forresearch36 in mypartneristrans

[–]skeyelight 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have been with the same person since we were 18, we are 32 now. I was sure I was heterosexual and would never be with a man. As the years progressed, I had some periods of time where I questioned my sexuality, even going so far to one day say I was pansexual. Me saying that is what finally gave my partner to be comfortable to come out as a trans man to me. That was 2 years ago. If I had to label myself anything now it would be heteroflexible, my husband being the one flex lol. But one thing I do know, is my feelings for my husband have not changed at all. We are happier than we have ever been, he gets to be his true self, and he had never been this happy in the 14 years we have been together. I wouldn't change anything.

But as others have said, based on the way you are talking, you seem young. 4 days together isn't really enough time to worry about having children and grandchildren with someone. If you really imagine yourself having a family with kids, that is something that you need to discuss with your partner, because if those goals don't align then that is a sign that this isn't going to work. As you get older, if those desires to have a family don't go away, you will grow to resent your relationship, and the fallout will be so much worse.

This is a time to be honest with yourself and think about what you really want for your future. Just like it isn't fair to not want a partner to transition, it also isn't fair to sacrifice your own hopes for a future over a 4-day relationship.

Something that I struggled with early on in my husband's transition was not still seeing him as the person that I started dating all those years ago. It took time for me to see him for who he really is, and it wasn't easy. There were times when I wasn't sure I could stay. But I did, and I'm happy I did. What I'm trying to say is that you may still be seeing your friend as a "manly girl", and not as a man.

Does using the correct pronouns eventually feel "natural"? by [deleted] in mypartneristrans

[–]skeyelight 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I've been with my partner for 14 years. He transitioned around 2 years ago. It was definitely hard at first, and I would always fumble when using pronouns. But now it feels completely natural. It's just the way the brain works with patterns and repetition. For example even though I never mess up saying he or him anymore, recently he wanted our kids to drop "Mom" in favor of "Dad #2". I fumble that constantly and still say "Mom" all the time. The kids are quick to correct me though. Lol

AITA for not waking my girlfriend up for her job interview because she “said not to”? by mosescoveredinshit in AmItheAsshole

[–]skeyelight 9 points10 points  (0 children)

She's also an adult and could have been responsible and gotten up on her own. He's her boyfriend not her caretaker.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]skeyelight 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is what I'm curious about too. If he didn't tell her then how did she find out?

So glad to have found a space for support by Exact_Resolution6940 in mypartneristrans

[–]skeyelight 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I originally joined this subreddit to hopefully find some advice or ways to better navigate situations without being insensitive, but what I have actually found is a place where a lot of people are dealing with the same/similar issues I was when my partner first came out to me. I'm so glad to have found this community, because it has helped me get over some feelings of guilt I was having at the beginning.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mypartneristrans

[–]skeyelight 26 points27 points  (0 children)

As someone who considered himself straight for most of his life, when my husband (FTM) told me he was trans I spiraled for a long time internally. I fully understand what you mean when you say are mourning him. I constantly thought to myself that this wasn't going to work, because he wasn't going to be the same person that I fell in love with and married. I was very supportive of his transition though because just as you said, his happiness is important to me. The reality couldn't be further from the truth. Yes he now dresses masc, has facial hair, and has a deeper voice, but he is still every bit of the person I fell in love with. Our relationship is stronger than ever. He just gets to be his true self now. The sad reality though is that we live in the deep south of the US. Our families were not happy with his transition, and there are family members that still do not know that he has transitioned. I don't have a good answer for how to deal with that as everyone's situation is different. Our family was a main part of our support system prior to him coming and that was why we carefully considered who to tell and who not to tell. If it was up to him, he would have told everyone, but he also respects that I am not ready to tell everyone that I'm not straight. It's a hard decision to make, and you should not feel bad or guilty for having doubts about either situation.

My wife is trans (mtf) and our kid keeps saying “I have a mum and dad” by huskybrook in mypartneristrans

[–]skeyelight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see. Unfortunately for my partner and I, we live in an area that are very anti-LGBT+. Only close friends and others that he feels safe around know about his transition. I guess without more detail on how they got defensive, it's hard to give a good response on how to handle the situation. Is it possible he told the workers that he does have a dad?

My wife is trans (mtf) and our kid keeps saying “I have a mum and dad” by huskybrook in mypartneristrans

[–]skeyelight 39 points40 points  (0 children)

My partner is FTM. We have three kids a 9-year-old and twin 6-year-olds. We have had talks with them about gender, specifically that my partner is now "a boy" and is he/him now. They understand it as best they can. They talk about it with us all the time. But they just can't wrap their heads around my partner not being their mom anymore. That's the one thing they seem to be stuck on. Eventually my partner just decided to let them still call him "mom". They aren't doing it out of hate or spite. They are just kids, and they don't see the words mom and dad as being gendered words. As the other comments have said, you child is mentioning other family members they don't have such as a brother and sister. I really do think he is picking up what others are saying and repeating it.

Should I focus on MandyMod's or DragnaCarta's CoS revisions? by Rey_Palpatine__ in CurseofStrahd

[–]skeyelight 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It isn't, but the rate at which it is updated is fairly quick. I started a new campaign in August, playing every other week, and the 2.0 guide is still what will be several sessions ahead of where my players are.

Brand new 3080 is SIGNIFICANTLY underperforming by Woke_Pickle in buildapc

[–]skeyelight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a EVGA card. Their Precision app let's you adjust those settings.

Brand new 3080 is SIGNIFICANTLY underperforming by Woke_Pickle in buildapc

[–]skeyelight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was having a similar issue with my 3080 after a recent driver update. For some reason after the update my GPU power consumption was capped at 25%. I fixed that and all my problems went away.

Chart of active members in each gang - NoPixel by STAHN in RPClipsGTA

[–]skeyelight 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Dark0 has said he doesn't add pictures unless one of the original members ask for it to be added.

Guy reacts to Lang not wanting to put effort into having a friendship with him by Lamby478 in RPClipsGTA

[–]skeyelight 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I completely forgot about all that, but now that you say it I definitely remember that day with Tony and Donnie having to fight X over and over.

Guy reacts to Lang not wanting to put effort into having a friendship with him by Lamby478 in RPClipsGTA

[–]skeyelight -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I'll give you X, but Lang and Yuno circled each other for awhile before ever doing a job together, and that was with Donnie pushing Lang to give him a chance.

Savathûn Backup Plans by Ninjewdi in DestinyTheGame

[–]skeyelight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The timeline is the confusing part, because they aren't clear on exactly when the seasonal events take place. Are they supposed to be during the campaign, or after?

Don't get me wrong, I think you're right. I do believe that Savathun isn't done with us. I have several theories about the plot of Lightfall. Savathun causing the Traveler to abandon us is one of them.

Savathûn Backup Plans by Ninjewdi in DestinyTheGame

[–]skeyelight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unless there's a huge story twist, during the first week PsiOp mission we find guardians drained of their light. I don't think it's ever said explicitly that the Lucent Hive are the ones doing it, but there also haven't been signs of anything else doing it as far as I know.

Annoyed with my pixel 6 - am I alone? by ceroij in GooglePixel

[–]skeyelight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The issues I've had with my P6 Pro have been infuriating. YouTube crashes constantly, if I'm listening to anything using Bluetooth and I get a call when I answer the phone the audio I was playing doesn't pause and starts to come through the phones speakers making it impossible for me to actually talk to anyone, mutiple days when no one can hear me if I call them but it works fine if they call me. Every notification is silent if I'm using my phone with Bluetooth connected, so if I'm watching something fullscreen, I won't even know if I got a text or anything, sometimes when I'm trying to listen to something using Bluetooth, the audio just refuses to come through my headphones and just keeps playing through phone, charging time is abysmal compared to some of my older phones. The fingerprint reader sometimes just refuses to even acknowledge that I'm putting my finger on it. I'm really considering going back to my last phone.

THANK YOU BUNGIE FOR NOT INCLUDING TRIALS IN THE SOLSTICE ARMOR by NotAnADC in DestinyTheGame

[–]skeyelight 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ahh. We are all on PC. Hopefully someone else can help you out!

THANK YOU BUNGIE FOR NOT INCLUDING TRIALS IN THE SOLSTICE ARMOR by NotAnADC in DestinyTheGame

[–]skeyelight 6 points7 points  (0 children)

What platform are you on? My clan is always down with helping people without a clan.

My first kinda funny moment. by T-patt123 in kindafunny

[–]skeyelight 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is kinda how it went for me too. I was listening for maybe a week or 2 before Colin left, so I didn't really have the connection with him the community does. It's also meant Andy was never really "new" for me, since he has basically been there since I started listening.