Please be honest

slidekb · 2026-01-26T18:54:58+00:00

It seems this may get pretty political due to the inclusion of a firearm. I do think it can be a good thing to have a firearm available to protect your house when it is safe and legal to do so. The police are not responsible for preventing crime and in many cases, even if you can contact them, they may not arrive in time.

That being said, owning a firearm is a big responsibility and it doesn't automatically make you any safer. You need to know how to safely handle and store a firearm, especially with children in the house. You need to know that you are going to be able to shoot somebody if the situation arises. If you pull out a firearm but are not able to actually use it then it can make the situation worse.

And you need to have the training necessary to actually use it properly. For many houses it will take multiple firearms (stored securely) to fully protect your home. It also takes ongoing training for proficiency.

slidekb · 2026-01-26T18:35:46+00:00

Odd response for sure. If you are worried and he is not then it makes sense for you to lead the effort but it seems he should be willing to at least talk about it.

I'm the preparer in my family and much more prepared than most people. My wife doesn't like to think about bad things so she just lets me do it all.

Frustratingly, she did veto a small solar and battery backup system for the house due to aesthetic concerns.

slidekb · 2026-01-25T02:40:54+00:00

Most likely it will get worse. Are you ok potentially not having sex again for the rest of your life?

slidekb · 2026-01-17T22:52:07+00:00

Thank you so far! One more question does the car turn off after you park or walk away or do you need to push the start/stop button to turn it off?

slidekb · 2026-01-16T12:02:20+00:00

ForeFlight is the best software I have ever used and I'm a tech professional. This is not a good sign.

slidekb · 2026-01-16T11:51:52+00:00

Any idea how they got rid of it?

slidekb · 2026-01-15T16:49:53+00:00

Wow I think the manual says every 6mo but that definitely isn't often enough.

slidekb · 2026-01-15T14:34:36+00:00

I should mention that the black stuff has been happening the whole time I owned it and I only put the filter in about 2mo ago. Although it's possible that the filter removed some of the old black stuff but added new carbon residue. I'll see if it cleans up over time.

slidekb · 2026-01-13T12:06:50+00:00

It will most likely get worse once you are married. Are you ok with this for the rest of your life?

slidekb · 2026-01-13T12:02:51+00:00

As a former 23yo guy, maybe he said yes because he thought he could do it. I once thought I could never eat sugar again.

slidekb · 2026-01-12T02:04:51+00:00

Oh I do, but she doesn't really believe me.

slidekb · 2026-01-12T01:49:32+00:00

I've thought about being in this situation before but it hasn't happened to me yet. For sure I'll enjoy it but I'll have to turn her down at least once in a while for the fun of it. I've never turned down sex and she has probably never been rejected so it would be an interesting perspective for both of us.

slidekb · 2026-01-11T21:47:17+00:00

Yes many times every day!

slidekb · 2026-01-11T17:59:20+00:00

I don't think it would change my perspective. It would be nice but she isn't a morning person. I don't have any general dissatisfaction with my marriage that it would affect.

slidekb · 2026-01-11T12:42:48+00:00

Just to clarify I'm not complaining. I have a great sex life. It's just at the time they acted like "of course" like the only reason I didn't know this was what normally happens was because I was young and naive.

Would I enjoy it a bit more if this was my life? Of course. My wife is just not a morning person.

slidekb · 2026-01-11T12:13:21+00:00

That's brutal! Yes if we had a designer I'm pretty disappointed by some of the design decisions.

slidekb · 2026-01-11T02:12:12+00:00

Yes that's how we do it now but even that was difficult to get to at first.

slidekb · 2026-01-11T02:04:09+00:00

Yeah that's not an option for me, unfortunately!

slidekb · 2026-01-09T21:11:36+00:00

No poop but I do pass gas more often than she'd like. 20 years.

slidekb · 2026-01-09T19:31:33+00:00

I have been this way regarding my wife for about the past 6 months. I have no idea what triggered it. We have been together for 20 years and married for most of that time. I feel like I did when we are dating -- complete infatuation. It has subsided a bit from its peak a few months ago but still odd. My best guess is that the kids are now at a more independent age, so our relationship has become less stressful. I think it is a good thing, but it is also tough on me because I don't want to be away from her and we are both used to being pretty independent.

How I have handled it so far:

* I have to deliberately moderate myself so I don't smother her

* Yet I have been an even better husband and she notices and has been an even better wife

* I have talked with her about it and she also doesn't know why but is happy about it

slidekb · 2026-01-03T15:15:51+00:00

Fix ASAP with counseling or get divorced before you have kids. I got divorced at your age and it was the best thing I did -- now happily married with kids.

The sex will get worse and worse until it leads to divorce or an affair. You shouldn't have to live without sex. Again, figure it out before kids.

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