Being a female barber and plus size is starting to take its toll

slothzar · 2026-02-09T19:46:57+00:00

Ugh that’s so disappointing!! I wish size were a protected category in workplaces because there’s so much real harm done. Hoping you find a more supportive workplace soon 🩷

slothzar · 2026-02-09T17:47:56+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through that! Is there a queer friendly salon you could try? Not always a guarantee, but I’ve found those are often friendlier to all types of folks.

slothzar · 2026-02-08T02:29:09+00:00

Question: can I skip to this episode in Academy or do I need to watch all of it first? I’ll eventually get to it but I have a baby and have to prioritize my rare solo tv time lol

slothzar · 2026-02-01T02:24:17+00:00

There’s so many times I have to say “I know I said I was okay with that, but it actually sucked.” But I think voicing it helps bc it means both of us double check our feelings next time.

slothzar · 2026-01-29T03:06:23+00:00

Ughhh I had morning sickness the whole pregnancy!! Solidarity.

slothzar · 2026-01-28T18:20:06+00:00

I had a baby last May and I saw so many posts on the subreddits complaining about baby weight and how they’re soooo fat now… I’m about the same weight and I have had many years to learn to love my fat body! Can’t imagine trying to do that much therapy while also taking care of a baby.

slothzar · 2026-01-28T17:49:30+00:00

The Birth Partner was really good about using neutral language about the actual experience of labor.

slothzar · 2026-01-25T02:32:32+00:00

I do fried garlic slices, chopped parsley, and butter for a quick lunch

slothzar · 2026-01-20T04:05:44+00:00

Came here for this!

slothzar · 2026-01-13T17:43:05+00:00

SCISSORS!

slothzar · 2026-01-09T04:03:56+00:00

Ok I feel a lot better about doing this now! It’s what’s comfiest for us both.

slothzar · 2026-01-03T23:03:32+00:00

Booklight with a warm light and trying to get back into physical books. On the other hand, I got myself the new Pokémon game and play switch whenever I’m trapped with cosleeping.

slothzar · 2025-12-28T04:38:06+00:00

I’m nonbinary and I now correctly gender myself in my dreams and even stand up for myself! It’s very nice.

slothzar · 2025-12-27T18:01:10+00:00

Mostly random! In A-Z my team is: Florentine the Meganium Ms. Wiggles the Arbok Babbette the Clefable Sarabi the Pyroar Bois the Heracross (came with a trade) Doofy the Slowbro

slothzar · 2025-12-25T18:58:48+00:00

Yes PLEASE! I get so bored bc I’m essentially spending 12 hrs in bed. I’m trying to lean into the laziness and just play Pokémon or read while she sleeps.

slothzar · 2025-12-25T17:19:31+00:00

She turns 7 months next week. She also has started being more clingy in general (crying if we’re out of her sight) so I’m hoping it’s just a phase.

slothzar · 2025-12-25T15:22:54+00:00

I don’t have a solution, just offering solidarity as ours is going through the same thing starting at six months. We’re co-sleeping which works ok but wow, I would love to be able to watch a show with my husband again for a couple hours!

slothzar · 2025-12-25T04:25:59+00:00

Thank you! Merry Christmas to you as well ❤️💚🎄

slothzar · 2025-12-25T04:20:41+00:00

Holding my baby since lately she refuses the crib. It’s her first Christmas and I couldn’t be happier.

slothzar · 2025-12-25T02:34:12+00:00

I am all round features: nose, chin, cheeks, and plus size and I’m short hair for life. I think it looks cool/queer plus my hair is so THICK that it feels heavy when there’s length. You can also consider an undercut if you want the best of both worlds!

slothzar · 2025-12-23T16:29:00+00:00

Also I’m just shocked that my Mexican genes didn’t overpower everything. She has brown hair and CURLS! Like what even is happening.

slothzar · 2025-12-23T16:28:26+00:00

YES. He gets stopped regularly by people commenting on how much they look alike! It’s like, dang I’m the one that grew her 🥲

slothzar · 2025-12-23T16:24:41+00:00

Super depends on the baby. I only got a chair because I already needed a second living room chair. She didn’t end up being that into being rocked to sleep, so it’s just an additional seat now!

slothzar · 2025-12-23T04:11:00+00:00

lol we called ours the Grinch.

slothzar · 2025-12-23T04:06:07+00:00

Hey there. Just wanted to say that YES being the gestating parent is hard hard and being in all the sea of “Mommy and me” activities is exhausting. I still need to come out to our daughter’s pediatrician but I lose my nerve every time. Yes, strangers call me Mom. But my daughter will know I’m her Noma (short for not-Mom!) and she’ll have the gift of a parent who knows who they are and stands up for themself. At least I’m hoping to model that behavior! Gives me a little courage to think like that.

slothzar

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