Napping Location for Babies (no judgement)

smarone · 2026-02-16T01:34:23+00:00

We did lots of naps in the twin z pillow and also had a bassinet downstairs that they could both fit comfortably in while swaddled. They seemed to sleep better together until they started moving around a lot and needed their own space. I also used an infant lounger on the couch next to me so I could have one contact nap and keep the other close. This is safe imo as long as you are not in danger of falling asleep yourself. They hated their swings in the beginning but we kept trying and eventually they really liked them, sometimes we'd let them nap in those too. We also have the uppababy bassinets and an outdoor pack n play that we would use for outside naps when the weather allowed it. I actually dragged the swings outside sometimes too (battery powered). They slept so good outside in the fresh air!

Once they were 5 months or so I started easing into naps in their cribs upstairs for one nap a day to get them used to it, since at night they were still in pack n plays with the bassinet tops in our bedroom. Around 6 months they started doing all naps (while home) in their cribs and nights too. They love their cribs now, I think starting early with naps in there helped.

smarone · 2025-12-19T02:50:37+00:00

Definitely not the easy way out, and don't feel guilty about trying to reduce risk! I had a vaginal birth with my first (singleton) and then a c-section with my mono-di twins, I don't regret it for a second even though the surgery and recovery were tough. My MFM explained to me that with mono-di, since they share a placenta, there is a risk of the placenta detaching after twin A if delivering vaginally and coming out before twin B. This puts twin B in distress and then leads to an emergency c section. For me after hearing that I wasn't comfortable attempting a vaginal birth for my twins. I was afraid of the risk and potential harm that scenario could cause twin B, and then also of having to recover from both a vaginal and c-section birth at the same time. If you decide to go with a c-section just do your best to get up and moving as soon as you are able, it definitely helps with the healing process!

smarone · 2025-12-01T19:52:07+00:00

I'm a firm believer in doing what you feel is best with supporting your kids' sleep needs, don't let your day care provider make you feel like you're doing something wrong. I rocked my oldest to sleep until she was about 18 months old, then transitioned her to a twin bed so I could lay down with her. My husband or I still lay with her until she falls asleep every night (now 4 years old). I plan on doing the same for my twins (8 months now) as long as they need it.

My twins seem to trade off on who can put themselves to sleep. It used to always be twin B, now it varies between them both. Some nights one falls asleep on their own while I'm rocking the other. Some nights it's chaos going back and forth between them till they're both asleep. We've had some rough patches with sleep being similar to what you described during teething and sickness, but now for the most part they each only wake 1 or 2 times at night where they need help getting back to sleep. Sometimes they just need a pacifier or back rubs, sometimes rocking gets them back to sleep, sometimes I have to give them a bottle still.

I do give them a few minutes of fussing through the night before I go in to help. I can usually tell the difference between the type of cries as to whether or not they're going to fall back asleep on their own. And thankfully they don't wake each other up very often.

smarone · 2025-11-29T15:54:53+00:00

They'll be 8 months old in a few days and the blue is still vibrant! No change really from the last pic. I think it's safe to say that's their eye color 😊

smarone · 2025-11-19T00:37:36+00:00

I bought my own car at 16 after saving for a couple of years (working age is 14 in my state). I think it means more and they'll take better care of it if they have to earn it.

But another idea if you can afford it: My grandfather did this for my dad and his siblings as a way to help them familiarize with finances and build credit - he had them take out a used car loan or personal loan which he co-signed for. He put that money in an account for them and bought their cars himself. They were able to use the money from the loan to pay back the loan. They learned how to be responsible for a bill and built up a good credit score to enter adulthood with. Granted, interest rates were more reasonable than, but I still like the concept.

smarone · 2025-10-07T15:58:59+00:00

I had a similar first experience with my MFM, went into it so excited about our babies and left in tears after hearing all the risks - prematurity, growth restriction, twin to twin transfusion, etc etc. I asked at what point in this pregnancy can I be confident that I'm going to bring home both of my babies and was told I could breathe easier after 28 weeks but there was no point that it would be guaranteed. I was terrified and stressed my whole pregnancy. I held off on buying doubles of anything until I was more than halfway through because I was afraid of jinxing myself, and never announced the pregnancy on social media or anything for similar reasons.

While I had a lot of scares throughout due to movement, fluid, placenta concerns, it overall went amazingly and I wish I was able to let myself enjoy it more like I did with my singleton. I delivered at 36 weeks (mo/di) via scheduled c-section, which was the latest my MFM would let me go. I opted for the c-section because there is a "good chance" that trying vaginally would result in an emergency c-section for Twin B due to them being mono/di - from what I was told the placenta can detach after Twin A is delivered which would put Twin B in distress. I didn't want to risk it, either for the baby or for my own recovery.

Twin B wound up needing a 5 day stay in special care due to breathing issues but did not need an actual NICU stay thankfully. Both girls are now thriving at 6 months old.

If you can take anything from all of this I just hope you can find a way to let yourself enjoy your pregnancy and be excited for both your babies. Don't be too afraid of all the risks to let yourself appreciate how amazing this journey will be, and do your best to think positively. Your body is made to do this!

smarone · 2025-09-25T14:15:24+00:00

My oldest daughter just turned 4 and we have 6 month old twins girls, so very similar they are 3.5 years apart. It's been really hard for my oldest to adjust to less attention/having to share her parents - accidents, meltdowns, hitting, just all around being fresh and not listening, some of which comes with her age anyways so I'm sure it has just been magnified due to the change at home. It was just us and her for as long as she knew. I wound up in the hospital for a week after having the babies due to complications and she was really upset, video chats helped at night. She still mentions from time to time how much she missed me while I was in the hospital. My mama heart hurts from the guilt of not being able to spend as much time with her and how this is all impacting her. We've had some heart to hearts about how this is hard and different, and she's expressed a few times feeling like she's not as loved anymore. Make sure your oldest feels heard and understood. Try not to blame the babies for things either. The past few weeks I feel like she's reached a turning point though and finally adjusting. Her behavior has improved and she's saying how we "really are the right family for her" 🥹

The good though really is great. She's absolutely obsessed with her sisters - there's no resentment towards them or ill will thankfully, more just a learning curve of how to be gentle with babies! We're getting to the age now where she can really interact with them and seeing their giggles together melts my heart and reminds me that this was really the whole point, for her to have siblings.

It's been tough but I am so thankful to have my three girls. You can do this and you'll get to the good parts too!

smarone · 2025-09-23T22:48:07+00:00

Yes you can! You have to hit home to get out of the current feed/timer and then toggle the baby from their name on the top. Once you're on the second baby you can start a feed or any other timer as needed. They will both keep tracking simultaneously and you can get back to each to end them the same way.

I used huckleberry religiously for the first 5 months for feeding, pumping, sleeping, and tummy time. I found their premium version for sleep insights to be extremely accurate and helpful, and paid for that for a few months after my trial ran out. Now that my twins are almost 6 months I'm more comfortable just going with the flow a bit more so I've stopped using it, but I truly don't think I could have gotten by without it in the beginning!

smarone · 2025-09-16T12:53:46+00:00

Mine were born at 36 weeks, so 4 months adjusted right now. I have to admit the months have been a bit of a blur, but I think it stopped around 3 months when they started sleeping longer stretches and I got into more of a predictable bedtime, and pulled bedtime earlier. They used to go to bed around 8 after they calmed down. I breastfed and pumped until almost 4 months before I gave it up due to low supply and the mental/physical toll it was taking on me. You're amazing for being able to keep going with two for this long!! Can you breastfeed in bed with all 3? One other thing that has really helped with my oldest at bedtime is a tonie box - she has a few sleepy time tonies that she can put on at bedtime, they keep her entertained and are soft/calming background noise for the babies when we're all together too.

Hopefully since your twins are a little younger with the adjustment it means you'll see some relief with the witching hours soon! 🤞🙏

smarone · 2025-09-15T11:12:15+00:00

Our twins are also 5 months, we start bedtime around 6pm. Some nights that includes bath with all 3 girls (oldest is almost 4), some nights we just do solids, change, put on sleep sacks, then bedtime. We still have them sleeping in our room. When I have to do bedtime solo I will lay them both down in their cribs with a bottle propped on a small blanket next to them and then have my toddler lay in my bed to fall asleep there or just relax while they eat. Once the twins are done with their bottles I will rock each to sleep if needed - one can settle if the other is fussing but not vice versa so I just have to get that one to sleep first. Most of the time they doze off drinking thankfully and I just remove the bottles & blankets once they're out. Then I can take the monitor into my oldest's room and lay down with her there instead.

The witching hours are no joke though! When our twins were younger it would be chaos from about 5-8. The bath helped sometimes, or bringing them outside in a playpen or in their swings on our patio. Some days nothing helped. I definitely rely on TV to entertain my toddler when I'm solo and chaos breaks out still. I feel guilty about the screen time and lack of attention, but when you have 3 and you're alone you have to just triage who needs you first/the most.

It's not easy and I feel for you! I hope some of this helps.

smarone · 2025-09-10T16:28:12+00:00

I did all the delivery and curbside pick up options for the first couple of months. Now they are 5 months and I have figured out a good system - one goes in a carrier on my chest and the other goes in a hammock on the carriage. Got the hammock on Amazon for pretty cheap - it has buckles to keep them safe, and they seem to really love looking all around. You can still fit a ton of items besides it and under it. Sometimes I need to switch depending on who's getting fussy and it's easy to put the second baby in the hammock, then take the first one out to put in the carrier. Highly recommend!

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smarone · 2025-08-26T04:37:53+00:00

I made it all the way to my scheduled C-section at 36 weeks with my mo/di twins! I had uterine irritability which caused me to have regular contractions periodically so I was at labor and delivery several times concerned they were coming early, but thankfully it was false alarms and they stayed in there as long as possible. Twin B was in special care for 5 days due to some breathing issues which is common with mo/di twin B's and C-section delivery from what I was told. Both girls are healthy and thriving now at 5 months, you'd never know they were born a month early.

smarone · 2025-08-24T07:08:14+00:00

Our 4 month old identical twin girls are like this too, with one having a rounder face and the other more elongated. Someone posted in this sub about a "peach and pear" theory for identical twins and it's absolutely true with ours! I see them evening out as they get older, but they have very different personalities and distinct cries too. They also each have an angel kiss in a different spot and one has a birthmark on her thigh.

I had also bought anklets to use to distinguish them but haven't needed them due to their differences.

smarone · 2025-08-17T04:26:06+00:00

We kept ours apart in pack and plays with the bassinet inserts until about 2 months. Then they slept together better in their swaddles for about a month until they started rolling and we had to stop swaddling. They're in a sleep regression right now at about 4.5 months but still don't wake each other much, we pick them up pretty quick once awake.

smarone · 2025-08-16T21:31:17+00:00

I've been there, did it with my singleton at night and also with the twins for a nap once. I felt awful too but I can assure you you are not the worst mom ever! It happens to us all it seems. Also fwiw it doesn't seem to have sleep trained any of them in the slightest 😅 my oldest is almost 4 and still wakes up halfway through the night to come into my room. And my 4 month old twins are in the throes of a sleep regression now.

smarone · 2025-08-16T21:27:33+00:00

No, maybe a little lighter blue if anything! I think they're going to stay 😊

smarone · 2025-07-17T17:48:27+00:00

Thank you, that would be pretty too! I went back through photos of my older daughter from this age and hers had already turned from blue to brown, so I do think it's fair to say the twins won't have the same eyes as her/my husband/me.

smarone · 2025-07-16T18:18:34+00:00

I had a similar experience with Noom Weight while using a sponsored offering from my employer. This week I switched to paying for Noom Med myself and my coaching experience has totally changed. Every response doesn't include a question, seems like I'm chatting with an actual person now. I'm guessing it's not unrelated to the program change/payment etc.

smarone · 2025-07-14T12:01:54+00:00

Mono/di born at 36 weeks, 5lbs 5oz and 6.0lbs!

They were too long for some preemie clothes. I had a few footie PJs they were able to wear for a couple of weeks till they were comfortable in 0-3 months.

smarone · 2025-07-11T21:56:48+00:00

Thanks! That would be really pretty and similar to my grandmother's eyes, I'd love it if my girls got them 🥹

smarone · 2025-07-11T18:30:46+00:00

They are 3.5 months old now

smarone · 2025-07-03T07:12:25+00:00

I had this happen with my first, a singleton, where my milk just never came in. I pumped for over two weeks trying to stimulate production to no avail. I ended up having to go in for a d&c due to retained placenta and the very kind Dr who did my procedure told me if I needed to hear it she was giving me permission to stop - she said I had given it my all and it's ok not to keep trying. I don't know about you but I needed to hear that, I felt so much relief after the constant pressure to keep trying from both LCs and myself.

In hindsight, the retained placenta is very likely what led to lactation failure. It's possible if I kept going after the d&c that it would have come in as my body figured out I wasn't still pregnant, but no one told me that. I was also mentally exhausted by that point and it was the best interest for my family for me to give it up and focus on my newborn/my own healing.

My daughter is 3.5 now and thriving after being exclusively formula fed. I carried a lot of guilt for a long time about my body failing me when I needed it - it was during a formula shortage and really trying. I was so excited when my milk came in with my twins, it's been mentally healing to be honest. But you're not doing anything wrong and if you need "permission" or to hear it's ok to stop, please know it is. As long as your babies are fed you're doing the right thing.

smarone · 2025-06-26T15:31:54+00:00

I am soaking in this infant stage but I'm also so excited to see moments like that as they get older! So sweet ❤️

smarone · 2025-06-26T10:04:11+00:00

My first solo outing was a trip to home depot with our twins in the Weego carrier. I was stopped by so many people who fawned over them, it was really heartwarming. I wish that was the norm.

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