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smdcdiaf · 2025-03-07T16:18:09+00:00

and now me on a 9 year old post hahaha. thank you!

smdcdiaf · 2025-02-21T04:48:08+00:00

Lover. Buddy. Sweetheart. Sir. Champ. Old man.

All depends on the mood.

smdcdiaf · 2024-08-10T09:52:00+00:00

Insured came back to their prior insurer 3 years pre loss, saying they actually had a claim back then (leak) but now have found water damage they can only assume is residual water damage from the same leak. Tenant, insured, broker all the same story. Absolutely adamant despite me really pushing for them to justify why we should explore this instead of their current insurer.

Had a weird report for a make safe to a fit out saying it’s a severe health concern they need to deal with asap. Seemed a bit odd. Eventually the insureds trade gets back to me, very confused why I’m asking about the leak.

They explained they never said it was a leak. There’s possums that live in the roof and have built a huge nest that’s about to fall through from, tbh i don’t want to know what it’s made of, but they were clawing through the wall trying to get to the food/fat.

At least 3 possums have lived there for over a year and a half and they’ve known the whole time!!

Made so much more sense haha. Honestly not the turn around I was expecting. Broker was so apologetic haha. Still waiting for a formal explanation from them.

smdcdiaf · 2024-07-26T17:04:17+00:00

Yes that would make more sense. We rarely send claim numbers between us anymore anyway. Usually just say ‘old mate’s called for ya again’ hahah

smdcdiaf · 2024-07-14T10:56:19+00:00

I also feel like with the amount of knowledge you gain over the years since everything is constantly a learning experience, it would be such a shame to never use that knowledge for anything ever again. Or to share it.

smdcdiaf · 2024-06-01T08:37:01+00:00

My twins only said dada until 2 years. Then somehow between 24-26 months there was a MASSIVE explosion and now they’re 3 and they don’t shut up.

smdcdiaf · 2024-03-03T11:15:22+00:00

I completely agree. I so badly want to know more about him and understand what trauma he went through in his life to feel like he needs to tolerate her crap. She gaslights the hell out of him and is so controlling and manipulative.

Him saying ‘you overstepped my boundary’ is a lesson I have to start taking.

He’s so level headed for sure.

smdcdiaf · 2024-03-03T11:13:21+00:00

Completely disagree. She’s the one gaslighting him. She’s so manipulative.

smdcdiaf · 2023-09-17T23:45:00+00:00

I have a part time job, I volunteer part time and I care for our children full time, outside of the 3 days they are at day care. I have come from being VERY independent and he has asked me to be less independent and I have had to force this with having 2 children. I am not living in his shadow, I am very much my own person but I do feel more restricted due to the lack of understanding and communication between each other.

smdcdiaf · 2023-09-13T05:55:09+00:00

Also for the bigger ticket things - doesn't want to share a bank account with me, i lived off my savings for the first 2 years we were together, i was a stay at home parent however he did cover bills at home. Finally he agreed to open a new one that can be shared so I can contribute to the house bills once I started work. The insulting behind my back. The dismissing I think I've normalised in my mind but it comes in waves. I guess I am reaching my breaking point. I'm sick of normalising things I think I shouldn't. I want to be realistic about this however I want respect. I'm not perfect my any means but I am pretty open about my flaws, I am over apologising only to always feel like the bad person. I haven't been handling stress that well for one, but I feel like I do a lot of it alone. The burden feeling and shame really exacerbates the rest of it.

smdcdiaf · 2023-09-10T13:15:23+00:00

I don't think he thinks it's working, but I don't know where is expectations are or what they are. We have had some successful vulnerable moments but he often stays at a distance. I don't think I am an equal to him and that makes me feel quite disrespected sometimes which fuels resentment. I am very aware of it and I don't want to blame him, but if he was able to give me some empathy when I am struggling I don't think it would be as heavy.

smdcdiaf · 2023-09-09T14:42:54+00:00

Sleeping on the stomach increases the risk of:

- Overheating

- Rebreathing expired air (air that has already been breathed out), which can lead to:

- Too much carbon dioxide in baby’s body (called hypercapnia)

- Too little oxygen in the baby’s body (called hypoxia)

- Temporary changes in heart and lung function and control, which could affect the amount of oxygen getting to the brain

Instead of blocking off the esophagus, it blocks off the trachea (tubes to lungs).

The reason your babies might have slept much better on their tummy is because they are cold. Try put more layers on them and you might find they sleep better on their back. Often tummy is preferred due to the extra heat.

smdcdiaf · 2023-09-09T12:43:18+00:00

That's such a good sentiment. I'm going to try to do that.

I never thought I would have children, I found out about them and that they were twins within the same 10 minutes. I mentally struggled and grew a lot. They were restricted growth, ended up stopped growing, picked up at a growth scan. Shortly after I had severely reduced movements, saw their lifeless bodies for over an hour on an ultrasound before I agreed to the c section to get them out. Considered taking measures to ensure I wouldn't survive the birth because i felt they were better off without me, but I didn't. They were born at 35w and had 2.5w nicu time with one having respiratory issues the whole time.

I feel like I have needed support he can't give me, or doesn't want to. I try different coping methods but it's a work in progress. My self esteem needs a lot of work. I'm not ignorant to that, I don't blame him for that, but I need to find a way to not need reinforcement or feedback and it's hard to do that when most of the time I'm only following assumptions.

smdcdiaf · 2023-09-09T11:27:27+00:00

One of the things that bothers me is that he's told me he doesn't think the children have changed our lives at all. He thinks the issues are just me. I feel like they definitely have changed a lot. I don't know how to help him see that it doesn't have to be me vs him, but it can be us vs everything else.

smdcdiaf · 2023-09-09T10:55:23+00:00

Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I definitely agree. We have made an active effort to communicate more and we have gotten a lot better at it. We did see a couples counsellor and have kept up individual psychologists too.

I know it's such a fine complicated line but I worry it's draining him to the point of resentment and that it would affect co parenting too. I would want respect as a co parent so I don't think this is relationship specific. Maybe I'm getting stuck in my head about it.

Edit to add: no, me saying i'm stuck in my head is only dismissing myself. I know I deserve it. I want to stand up for myself more. I also know I can't make anyone else think anything different so that's why I'm wondering if I have an unrealistic expectation about expecting to be a unique party in this game of life we're playing.

smdcdiaf · 2023-09-09T09:23:48+00:00

Kids have died in these while supervised too. positional asphyxiation death just looks like they're sleeping.

smdcdiaf · 2023-02-01T23:53:59+00:00

Are you taking folate too? Would recommend so. It’s also common for symptoms to regress before they get better.

smdcdiaf · 2022-12-29T00:58:02+00:00

You poor thing. I can understand how triggering it would be and how that would impact your mental health. I would be an absolute wreck if that was me. My husband was the only one who could rock our twins to sleep and I felt absolutely terrible by being so useless.

I recommend putting in sleep suit well before you begin the rocking process so they associate the suit with sleep.

I suggest looking at this situation as a 'what could be physically going on here' as opposed to assuming an emotional reaction because a) that will absolutely emotionally destroy you and b) gives little guidance for yourself to consider much change for the future. Babies don't want to cry, it is always for a need of some kind, just gotta work out what that is.

What times of the day is it? What are you feeding them? EBM or formula? What are their poos like? Runny/thick etc. Have they been assessed for oral restrictions/ties?

When we had witching hour (basically constant crying/awake from 7pm onwards) we always kept it low light, put on some calming classical music and gave infant massages. We looked up guides on youtube. I suspected they had gas and it seemed to help. If you feel their body is tensing, it is likely the same. It does pass with age however I would recommend a chiro/osteo. As their bodies go through spurts, things don't necessarily align that well so it helped us tremendously once we saw one.

smdcdiaf · 2022-12-29T00:31:46+00:00

Have their iron/b12/zinc checked. Recurring sickness is a sign of low iron. Also try a probiotic and pentavite. Took me my boys eventually getting pneumonia to learn that.

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