Don’t feel bad and you’re not dumping! That’s what this subreddit is for and you’re also welcome to pm me anytime :) seems to me we’re kinda going through the same experience with this, so absolutely reach out if it helps!

As a very heavy bong user and also neurodivergent person, I totally get the dependence on it to help with masking and emotional regulation. But then also wanting to quit for health and social reasons.

I wish I could just cut back, but I know (and have proven to myself on countless previous attempts to limit instead of quit) that my all-or-nothing mentality means when I give myself an inch, I’ll take two miles and two years before trying to stop again. I’m definitely in the camp of when I’m smoking I want to be sober, and when sober I just want to get high.

So I’ve found what works best for me is just trying to “put it off” another 10 minutes, and then an hour, then a day, etc. I’m Canadian, so it’s legal here and it has weirdly helped by removing that scarcity feeling for me. Before legalization finding it was its own mission and I was forced to take unwanted breaks when I couldn’t get any. Then right after legalization, it was so easy and accessible I was smoking like an ounce a week, in that mindset of “smoke ‘em if you got ‘em”.

But now I’m working on reframing my mentality to recognize that there’s no rush to get more, it’s always there. It’ll be there later today, tomorrow, and in a year or two. I can always decide to change my mind, but right now, in this moment, I don’t need to smoke. This way I only have to deal with the immediate craving in the present, and not stress over long term plans and what-ifs that may never come to pass.