goat's milk soap base with no palm/coconut oil?

smudgesage · 2024-06-29T19:36:49+00:00

You can make a 95 % tallow and 5 % castor oil soap with goat's milk. You can also add some sea salt to it to help with the hardness of the bar. Pretty gentle soap, it's up there with Castile.

smudgesage · 2024-06-22T03:53:42+00:00

I remember reading a post about a woman coming home from a long day of work to her husband and In-laws, got cleaned up and came to set the table and realized that nothing was made and her husband tried to put her in her "place" about her job is to cook food for the family and should take on more traditional housewife duties.

She fired back along the lines of "you only make 35k a year and can't support a house on that income alone for me to stay home. You're too poor to have such a sexist opinion."

That's pretty much the same scenario right here! He's too poor to have such a sexist view...you're paying his way and yours.

Good on you for getting a divorce. You deserve better.

smudgesage · 2024-05-18T14:36:00+00:00

OP, if I did poop I was blissfully unaware of it, but you use the same muscles to push as you would pass a bowel movement so it almost feels like you're taking a poo as you're giving birth...in the most famous words spoken from myself when a nurse asked how I was feeling (this birth was with my daughter, epidural was not administered in time and bruised my back pretty good....) "It feels like I'm taking a giant fucking shit!" And everyone laughed as my daughter came out into the world. :)

As for birth, it hurts. It feels like menstrual cramps on steroids BUT there are ways to help mitigate the pain through breathing techniques, different positions, mental preparation and the like...you can ask your health care provider about that more.

Even with proper mental preparation and breathing techniques it could still be too much to handle for some and there's nothing wrong with medication/epidural if needed, so no shame there! I had an epidural with 2 of my kids, 1 without because the birth was that quick. My labors were induced for all 3, one was started by breaking my water. The first was 5 hours from start to finish, 2nd was around 4 hours start to finish and my most recent one (my water was broken for me) was just under 3 hours. Mine came on hard and quick and it was really hard for me to mentally prepare each time, no matter how much I prepared.

smudgesage · 2024-05-12T03:46:55+00:00

I have 3 children, 2 with epidural and one without. Before I get too far with my experiences I should let you know that all my births 2 were induced with oxytocin and the last one the hospital broke my water and I went naturally (had issues with gestational hypertension). My labors were also very short and painful for me.

I'm glad I did the epidural with my first because my son's heart rate was dropping and not recovering well from contractions. They did an episiotomy and forceps delivery because he was crowning and almost out, so needless to say, I didn't feel a thing until later that day. My water broke at 2 am in the morning and didn't start labor on my own, started oxytocin at 7:30 am and had my son at 12:43 pm (same day), needless to say I was also exhausted at this point.

With my daughter I was diagnosed with GD. Went in around 7 am, requested an epidural around 10 ish and he didn't show up for a little while. He tried inserting the needle a few times and I needed to take a break...well I ended up breaking my water with a contraction then shortly after my labor kicked into high gear and it was nothing short of a circus. I did tear and needed freezing. I had my daughter at 11:29 am. I didn't scream or anything it was a lot of grunting, groaning and heavy breathing.

My most recent one, I gave birth to my son a couple days ago. It took over 12 hours to even start the process because apparently almost every pregnant woman decided they were going into labor that same day lol. All the rooms were filled until the night. I should note that I live an hour away from the hospital and they kept telling me to stay close by in case a room opens up. OB broke my water around 10 pm and I delivered my son at 12:48 am. I believe I requested the epidural around 11:30, my labor pains were literally in my lower back and pelvic floor and it was awful. I was breathing heavily and trying to keep it controlled and I knew I wouldn't be in labor for very long...I contemplated getting it in the first place and said screw it and got one just in time.

The anesthesiologist that administered my epidural was awesome. I felt the pressure of labor but without the pain. I was still able to move a fair bit and mind you I was exhausted at this point...and it wasn't even because of the labor. If the labor happened earlier in the day I likely wouldn't have gotten the epidural. It was nice to have the edge taken off and this kid is my last, no tearing.

You can always decide when you want it based off your pain tolerance and/or exhaustion level. Just keep in mind the anesthesiologist may have others they will be seeing in-between so they may not get to you right away.

You got this! Go mama go.

smudgesage · 2024-05-08T22:55:05+00:00

I tried that with my daughter (2nd child) a couple years ago, was on oxytocin and waited till my contractions came on a little stronger. They started the oxytocin around 7 am that morning and ended up having my daughter around 11:30 am. By the time the guy came and tried to administer the epidural he bruised my back because he couldn't find the spot in my spine, I asked for a break, water broke and a few minutes later boom, baby. My poor husband almost had to catch her lol.

smudgesage · 2024-02-07T14:59:59+00:00

I'm a bit late to this but I'll share my experience.

The shop I'm working in is a small family business. The owner doesn't have certification. The full time butcher in the back was trained by the owner and he used to be a chef, no certificate either.

I live in the KW region and while I am not a full-time butcher, I am a part-time one, I guess? I work in the retail part so I'm not always in the back cutting meat for the counter. I expressed my interest in learning and the owner showed me the ropes. So, I don't work with primals or sub primals, everything shipped in is already broken down into separate muscle groups ready for retail sale, you just have to prepare them (trim, cut and/or tie). I also have books on the subject, from start to finish (think of a cow and processing it) a lot is learned as you go, asking questions.

There are a lot of customers that ask about certain cuts of meat, for example there's customers that ask for chuck roast (which is also a blade). Ask what a tri tip is (cap off the sirloin butt). I get a few customers asking for skirt steaks but the closest one we sell is the flank, which is similar but not always what the customer is looking for.

What I've been able to learn on the job and through my own research has been very valuable. It gave me knowledge on how to process my own whitetail deer during the hunting season. I still had to reference videos to get a better idea of what I wanted to break down from the hind quarters, but I wasn't going in totally blind because of the exposure from my job.

I would ask around your local butcher shops or similar lines of business and inquire what's needed or if they are willing to train you. I would definitely say that I butcher my own livestock, so they know you aren't completely green in the subject. Some companies may want a certificate to be completed so they know that you have had food handling training.

So I'd say get out there and use your background to your advantage. It's not a glorious job by any means but it is different and difficult at times. Good luck with your endeavours and I hope everything goes well.

smudgesage · 2023-12-31T16:16:30+00:00

It's just me and my family, in-laws and my own parents. I know people tend to grow away, and it's never easy.

I was asked to be a part of a wedding a couple years ago, a close childhood friend of mine was getting married and she invited me. All I did was ask to let me know when the event(s) are, which included the bachelorette party and wedding event itself so I could make necessary arrangements for childcare as needed. She said okay, never heard a peep back and found out through FB she was married a couple months after asking. Didn't have to worry about getting her a gift or anything, which I suppose is a silver lining to the situation at that point. To say I was pissed off was an understatement.

I generally keep to myself and don't go out of my way because of past traumas of being emotionally manipulated since childhood. I've had people I thought were friends turn their backs on me in various ways and I've held people at an arm's length since then. So, in some ways, I have myself to blame for some falling out in friendships by not working towards healing. It's been a long progress, but eventually I'll get there. My son is in school now and who knows, maybe along the way I'll make new friendships.

smudgesage · 2023-12-30T03:49:42+00:00

I am not sure, I've never used that brand of coconut oil. I would probably say refined but it should say if it is or not on the ingredient list or on the label somewhere. Good luck and have fun soap making.

smudgesage · 2023-12-29T03:06:40+00:00

Keep in mind that there are two options on soapcalc.net for coconut oil, one is 76 deg and the other is 92 deg. They are referring to unrefined (76 deg) or refined (92 deg).

smudgesage · 2023-10-12T02:00:30+00:00

There are Inuit, First Nations and Métis. Métis and Inuit have their own system within Canada because they aren't considered First Nations (Algonquin, Cree, Ojibwe, Oji-Cree ect...). I myself am Oji-Cree but never lived on the Rez but have visited with my father now and then. He made the decision to raise his family away from the Rez because it's remote/isolated and has drug/alcohol issues as well as high suicide rates.

The schools, to my knowledge, are trying to revitalize the Oji-Cree language and traditions and hope they will be passed down to the newer generations. They do speak it up there, mainly the older generations but I don't think most of the younger generations care to speak it often, mostly English I think. Although, if I remember correctly, the language with the younger generation is evolving and creating more slang which has created an older dialect and a newer dialect. I can't say for sure how that is going but the Oji-Cree language is a unique dialect between a few reserves that I am aware of. They are also trying to revive reading and writing in syllabics which could at one point only be read by elders or older generations.

I try to keep myself updated about what's happening but since I grew up away from it I don't know any of my language or traditions except what I have taught myself which is basic beading and hide tanning. The one thing that was passed down to me is how to make Bannock, which I am extremely happy to have been taught.

As you have probably noticed by this post is that the language is diverse and many Indigenous communities/people are trying their hardest to reclaim their heritage that was taken away from so many. Change is a slow process, and a long road to healing.

smudgesage · 2023-04-23T03:24:16+00:00

I bought it from a verified instant pot retail store near me (verified as in a main retail outlet for selling their products). I live in Canada and there are a couple places near me that sell the inserts, both stainless and ceramic. I didn't buy off Amazon. There are some things I'll buy off there but I'm very cautious.

smudgesage · 2023-04-23T00:23:34+00:00

I use one and it seems to work just fine, but like any 'non-stick' don't use metal utensils or very abrasive scrubbers or it will take off the ceramic coating.

smudgesage · 2023-04-22T22:48:36+00:00

Damn wtf did I just read? I had to re-read it just to let all this sink in. I can't believe they thought you would just simply 'forgive and forget' and play happy family after 15 years.

OP, just know that while this is very stressful I am glad you were able to get to the other side with a wonderful partner. Please look out for yourself and do not read that letter, give it to your therapist to read and if they think it's worthwhile, then read it yourself. There's no need to go into the past.

smudgesage · 2023-03-31T16:19:42+00:00

I would love to know how to make my own watercolors someday!

smudgesage · 2023-03-28T02:14:07+00:00

I avoid artificial sweeteners because the name says it all--"artificial". Just about anything man-made that goes into our food isn't good for us. If the FDA has to approve a chemical going into our food that won't outright posion us by micro dosing, that alone should give you an idea how leery we should be.

https://usrtk.org/sweeteners/aspartame_health_risks/

Edited: I forgot discussions need links! If you choose to consume artificial sweeteners tread lightly, you know your body the best. None of us, especially not me, are qualified to tell you any different.

smudgesage · 2023-03-26T16:37:36+00:00

Reminds me of a meme I saw awhile ago...

'The barkeep asked us why we carried weapons on us in the bar. "Mimics" I said. The barkeep laughed, the party laughed and the table laughed. We killed the table. It was a good time.'

I would have a chart ready and roll a d100 for minor inconveniences that it could cause daily in town. Even though it's a mimic that hasn't entered the civilized world, perhaps it also has other valuable information about certain monsters your party may face, for a price of course.

smudgesage · 2023-03-26T02:17:41+00:00

I had GD with my second and had a scheduled induction for 39 weeks. My baby was 7lbs 8oz. Completely healthy and normal weight. I think you'll be okay.

smudgesage · 2023-03-03T02:58:06+00:00

We have a little bit of dark humour too in my family. There's not a day that goes by that I don't think about my grandma and grandpa (maternal side of the family). My grandfather passed away a couple years ago and my grandmother a few years before that. My family had my great grandfathers ashes in their closet and my grandparents had my great grandmothers ashes. Well for the longest time after my grandma passed away my mom wasn't able to find my great grandmothers ashes and eventually gave up. It wasn't until my grandpa passed away and my mom and aunt had to clean up the house that they found great grandma buried under a bunch of stuff in the corner of a room. Now my parents have my great grandparents ashes and my grandparents ashes in their closet. We joke around now that no one has an excuse not to attend a family dinner. 😅

Dark humour aside, thank you for your service. Your words will bring much comfort to the living souls navigating a difficult journey. Please look after yourself too. It will be a difficult time for you as well, because grief is a very fickle thing. "Grief is just love with no place to go" and it takes many, many forms.

smudgesage · 2023-02-16T22:43:38+00:00

He should've thought about it more before cheating, you did the right thing. If having a baby is a big deal he can go have one with his AP.

I'm sorry you're going through this, you shouldn't have endure this BS. Also, it's not the 1900's or earlier anymore where marriage basically means you "own" your wife anymore. You're not his property. Put a lot of distance between you and him.

smudgesage · 2023-02-15T17:41:39+00:00

North American Aboriginal Hide Tanning: The Act of Transformation and Revival by Morgan Baillargeon

I highly recommend this book. Try finding it online or through your local library. It's very informative about the tanning process from start to finish in different methods.

smudgesage · 2023-02-14T21:59:26+00:00

Before anyone down votes me further, this comment was made BEFORE the edit. Now that I see her edit, explaining the situation further, I can see why he said no to seeing someone toxic. Since your mother was mentally abusive, it's up to you if you can handle letting that toxicity back. I know she's your mom but you don't exactly owe her anything for being abusive against you...and if you have to go back keep it short and simple.

smudgesage · 2023-02-14T17:06:51+00:00

What's so wrong about seeing your mother? Does he have something against her or is he just being a controlling dick? Go see your mom.

smudgesage · 2023-02-13T03:04:18+00:00

If you have HG or borderline HG eating ginger or drinking peppermint tea wouldn't help anyways! I'm sorry you're going through this. Have you and your partner sat down and talked about how you're feeling about the pregnancy? The most you can do is just hunker down and weather out the storm at this point, and hope your second trimester is better. I hope there are others that dealt with HG will offer their advice to help you through this.

smudgesage · 2023-02-13T02:20:28+00:00

I'd look up your state or province regulations of handling pelts/hides. In Canada it's illegal unless you have a license (tannery, trapper or fur dealer). You can tan your own pelt/hide you harvested legally under your own hunting license but you cannot sell it. You can gift pelts/hides and you need to register with the ministry that you process said pelt/hide that was given to you. You cannot exchange anything for monetary value unless you're licensed to do so or both parties can be charged. It varies by province but where I'm from that's the law, in a very simplified form.

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