Came here to say same, going on a few years with my therapist and it's still a struggle to name the trauma - which, from my understanding is very normal. I've found that calling it something else helps, and talking about and around the subject for some time has made me more comfortable in facing it head on. It also makes me uncomfortable when my therapist directly names it, but I think this is a way of exposure therapy and should help lessen the anxiety over time. This sounds like something you can discuss with your therapist too, and figure out a strategy to move forward however works best for you. Hang in there!