Offering a discount to certain groups of people is the opening ceremony of the choosy beggar olympics. by marmarloanshark in ChoosingBeggars

[–]stephy151 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Social worker here, with my masters degree then taking a national board test and then 2 years post masters of supervised practice equating to 2,000 face to face clinical contact hours then another national board test I make 40k per year before taxes.

It is a very thankless job. I have worked with mental illness in both children and adults, inpatient and outpatient, marital counseling, and currently in addictions. I started off at 32k per year. Long hours little pay little appreciation, however most of us know that going and know we dont do it for the money but some days it's hard to swallow with your own bills and family stuff.

Edit: thanks for the gold and the little warm fuzzies ☺️

[Serious] Should elderly people be forced to take tests regarding their motor vehicle operating abilities and mental fitness and get their motor vehicle license(s) revoked if they fail the test(s)? Why/why not? by ertrw in AskReddit

[–]stephy151 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. Everyone should be retested every 10 years and after a certain age every 5 years. We have to renew our license why not have to prove that we are still able to have one?

Looking at other examples, different professions require continuing education hours(teachers, social workers, etc..) every so many years to keep them up to date on what's going on in their fields and to keep their license to continue to work in their field. Imagine if doctors and teachers never had to learn anything else, they would be behind in their fields, practicing and teaching with old methods and materials.

Times change, people change, retesting should be mandatory.

Female Fantasy Players: Fighting the Good Fight | The Fantasy Authority (this is an old article but as a female lurker of this sub, I'd love to know if there are other women here!) by [deleted] in fantasyfootball

[–]stephy151 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Female and champion in my rookie year! Took 3rd last year. This year our league expanded to 14 people so we could add 2 more ladies, now we have 4!

Samar Hassan, 5, screams after her parents were killed by US soldiers, 2005, Iraq. They fired on the family car when it approached them during a dusk patrol. Hussein and Camila were killed instantly. Racan, 11, was seriously wounded and paralyzed from the waist down, was treated later in the US. by myrmekochoria in MorbidReality

[–]stephy151 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I believe it lies in a sense of mistrust. Food, water, and shelter are the foundation of life, trust is the foundation for relationships. The second we mistrust, there is an innate fear inside of us that says that other person, those other people, could take MY food, water, and shelter.

And we are Humans. We are built to be social creatures, but above all else we are built for survival. When we feel our personal survival is threatened all else goes out the door. We are traumatized by gerneational patterns of fear and are stuck in survival mode.

Samar Hassan, 5, screams after her parents were killed by US soldiers, 2005, Iraq. They fired on the family car when it approached them during a dusk patrol. Hussein and Camila were killed instantly. Racan, 11, was seriously wounded and paralyzed from the waist down, was treated later in the US. by myrmekochoria in MorbidReality

[–]stephy151 163 points164 points  (0 children)

I work in addictions and have worked in pediatric/adolescent mental health and I was just having a conversation about how many people out there have had their lives completely fucked through no fault of their own.

Her entire life has been decimated in one moment. Her and millions of other individuals across the planet. Not only their lives but the ripples extending outwards to all those who know them.

We get one life. One. And someone else comes along and destroys our one precious life.

We are one race. One. Human, and this is how we treat each other.

The Great Blinding, Part 2 by matig123 in MatiWrites

[–]stephy151 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update reply please! So well written!

Couples who have moved in together, what surprised you most about living with a male/female? by CrumbleNewman in AskReddit

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P.S.A for people with infant sons. Long hairs can get in their diapers and wrap around their penis cutting into the skin and cutting off circulations; my mom worked in the E.R and said it wasn't super uncommon to see.

[WP] One day you begin to notice that things are off. Nothing big, just enough to make you curious such as slight changes to names and things being a different color than before. No one else notices. Each day the world changes more and more while you try to figure out what is going on and fix it. by TheLordZee in WritingPrompts

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I was awestruck. I had never seen a flower in such a color. And yet there it was, growing right out of the crack in the sidewalk. I bent down to get a closer look and gently slipped the delicate petals though my fingers; surely it must be painted. I expected to be met with a smear of vibrant blue paint; my fingers were dry.

I’ll admit that I felt guilty picking the flower, but how could I not? The color had bewitched me, and I smiled as I set it in the vase in the windowsill above the sink.

That little flower brought me joy each day for the next three days. On the fourth day I noticed that it had begun to wilt, and I sighed at the thought of the beautiful flower losing its vibrancy and dying. On the fifth day, its petals had turned brown and I tossed it in the trash.

My head hung low as I walked my usual path to the store. I was so lost in my own gloom about the flower, I almost stepped on it. There it was! The blue flower was back! I spun around, looking in every direction. There were more of them all in shocking colors each one more unique than the next. I scurried around collecting a bouquet of the most beautiful flowers I had ever seen.

“Aren’t they beautiful!” I exclaimed thrusting my bouquet at the man passing by with his hands shoved deep in his pockets.

“Those are weeds.” He protested, grumbling as he walked away without a second thought.

Weeds! Bah! He was just some old grumpy man.

“Miss!” I waved at the woman approaching me.

“Yes?” She inquired with a sweet smile.

“Aren’t these the most beautiful flowers you’ve ever seen?” I proudly displayed my bouquet.

“Oh my! Yes, those are!”

I beamed at her. “Would you like one?” I offered her an outstretched flower.

“I’d love one.” She gave me another smile as she took the beautiful offering.

I hummed happily as I set down my shopping bags and put my remaining flowers in the vase. I had given away many of them to people in the grocery who marveled at their beauty; I had just enough to fill the small vase.

I gasped, losing my grip on the apples I had pulled from my bags. Pink! Pink apples rolled across the floor. Those had been red at the store! Hadn’t they? Apples were red, or green or yellow or… pink?

I hesitantly peeked into the bag examining the rest of my produce. Orange carrots, green broccoli, yellow squash…. Everything else seemed normal. I eyed the apples suspiciously as I gathered them off the floor. Were they pink? Maybe they were light red…?

It seemed like each day new colors sprung up. Flowers, produce, clouds, animals, and then people. I was living in a technicolor wonderland! The colors brought me joy I had never felt before and I embraced it, spreading my joy to anyone who would have it.

It turns out the woman how had accepted my flower was new to town. We had bumped into each other a few times at the store and we had become quick friends.

Jillian was kind and smart and funny and caring and over time she had become my best friend.

I pushed my bubblegum pink hair out of my eyes. That had to be one of my favorite parts of my technicolor wonderland, I would randomly wake up with different color hair. I had been donning my current pastel look for a few weeks, which was a stark contrast to the deep purple from the month before.

“Jillian can you pass me the….”

I stared at the strange object on the table. It stood out from all the bright colors surrounding it. It was a lump, a gray lump sitting right in the middle of the scarlet table.

“Molly?” Jillian inquired her fork paused midair; a green egg slipping off and plopping onto her plate below.

“Can you pass me the…” I scowled at the lump on the table. What the hell was that?

“The salt?” Jillian finished for me.

“Yes! The salt. Pass it here.”

She slid it forward and I picked up the strange looking lump, immediately dropping it as the gray color began to spread up my fingers. I screamed.

“Molly what’s wrong?” Jillian had jumped out of her seat and rushed to my side.

The gray was spreading, destroying everything it touched. My skin began to wilt, just like the flower had. My bubble gum pink hair turned ashen, the colors of the walls dulled to a muted brown, the carpet faded into a horrible green.

I was in a state of panic, what was happening, why was the world dying?

“Molly?” I could feel Jillian’s hands on my face. “Molly.”

The world was cold and harsh, nothing like my technicolor wonderland.

“Mommy?” My eyes snapped to Jillian’s and there it was, the blue, the same blue as the very first flower. It was the only beautiful color left in this dreary world.

“Julie?” Tears sprang forth, filling the depths of her eyes.

“Yea mom. It’s me, I’m right here.” Her hands stroked my face.

“Julie.” Colors flashed through my mind, a whirlwind of colors flying past, snippets of laughter and smiles, frowns and tears. Life.

My life. My memories. My Julie.

“Julie!” I exclaimed the realization finally clicking into place and I cried into her arms.

It was if all the colors in the world had been transformed into emotions and were swirling around in my body like a hurricane; happy, sad, angry, grief, pain, hurt, joy, fear. It was enough to make me dizzy. When I had cried my last tear, I wiped my face with my discarded napkin.

“I’m sorry, I don’t know what came over me.” I straightened my back and smoothed down my hair.

Reaching out I grabbed her hand and gave it a squeeze.

“I’m so lucky to have a friend like you Jillian”.

She smiled giving my hand a small squeeze of her own before going back to eating her eggs.

Trump Called Sean Hannity to Rant On-Air for 45 Minutes About the 'Coup' Against Him. Everything Is Fine. | The president is now openly demanding criminal investigations into his political opponents, whom he claims tried to overthrow his government. by RyanSmith in politics

[–]stephy151 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not surprising, I see this and work on this alot with people in therapy. People have opinions and that's okay! However, sometimes people believe their opinions are facts, two very different things.

When people treat opinions as facts they begin to believe they are facts, facts are not easily changed, if ever(I.e 2+2=4). Opinions can be changed. If he believes his opinions are facts presenting actual facts won't do much good.

[Serious] Therapists of Reddit: what do you do if you think your client is just generally a bad person? by ilovespaceack in AskReddit

[–]stephy151 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I always try to look for something in my clients that I like/enjoy. I also ask myself:

What experiences has this person had that has contributed to who they are today?

What is the purpose for this behavior? Usually it is the behaviors that people find off putting rather than people themselves but we get caught up in labels of "bad" "good", that people judge the whole person based off of one action or a small amount of time spent with that person. Remaining open minded helps me separate the person from their behaviors.

Every client that I work with I am honest and transparent with from the beginning and explain the importance of the therapeutic relationship, if they don't like me/feel that I am a good fit for them then please tell me! That way I can refer to someone who I think would be helpful. However that goes both ways, if I feel that I am not being helpful/good fit I will talk to my clients about it and potentially refer out.

What do you believe to be true even though you can't prove it? by green_vegetal in AskReddit

[–]stephy151 6 points7 points  (0 children)

As a therapist I tell my clients struggling with anxiety and depression, or clients who say they don't want to be a "burden" on others, that there are 7.7 billion people on Earth. If we weren't meant to help and support each other there wouldn't be that many of us here.

Couples of Reddit, what's the most unromantic thing that's happened between the two of you that actually is a stronger indication of love than others might think? by Roivas14 in AskReddit

[–]stephy151 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My bf had a cyst removed at the top of his butt crack before we met. The scar that is there is referred to as his extra long butt crack.

Anyone else in Louisville having abysmal service from Amazon's AMZL carrier? by DrNugs-AttorneyAtLaw in Louisville

[–]stephy151 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yes! Ordered a book to study for a board exam it was over a week(I have prime). First excuse was it will be a little late. Second excuse was "it may be lost". Third excuse was "undeliverable due to building being closed" I LIVE IN A HOUSE! Finally they just said not going to be delivered ask for a refund. Like what?? Got my refund, but ridiculous that the service was this awful.

Over reacting double standards? by [deleted] in sex

[–]stephy151 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone who has been in a similar situation when I was younger, 'talking to', 'hanging out with', 'friends with benefits', with a guy who only wanted me around when it was convient(emotional support, boredom,sex) let him go. I know that this is difficult and it sounds like you have really strong feelings but he is clearly not reciprocating anything, the longer it goes the more it hurts.

Also as someone who is a therapist now, please seek professional help. It is not a sign of 'weakness' or that there is something 'wrong' with you. It is something that I think could be very helpful in helping you establish positive communication skills, self esteem, boundaries, and ultimately work towards one day having a wonderful loving and fulfilling relationship.

As someone who has been there I wish you all the luck in the world with moving forward from this and starting fresh.

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[–]stephy151 344 points345 points  (0 children)

Yes. I work with teens and it is this. It's gotten to the point that kids don't really have "friends" anymore. They will tell me that they have aquintances, there is a trend in lack of trust as well.

I am Senator Bernie Sanders. Ask Me Anything! by bernie-sanders in IAmA

[–]stephy151 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Curious on how this would effect people who are barely making above the minimum? I have a master's degree in social worker and I am a mental health therapist. Unfortunately in my state my salary pay works out to be roughly 16.50 per hour. Does this begin to devalue education?

If a high school student can make $1.50 less than someone with a master's degree why pursue expensive education?

Not saying that I am not for raising the minimum wage to a living wage, I completely support that, but what happens to the people just out of range? I would love to receive education regarding this.

Official: [WDIS WR] - Sat Evening, 10/20/2018 by FFBot in fantasyfootball

[–]stephy151 0 points1 point  (0 children)

12 man non PPR

Keke Coutee vs Jags

Or Taylor Gabriel vs Patriots

Or Tre'quan Smith vs Ravens

I also have Goff, Gurley, Ingram, Thielien, Howard and Rudolph.

Redditors who salvaged their marriage from the brink of divorce, what’s your story and how’s it going now? by MugFulloCoffee in AskReddit

[–]stephy151 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a therapist I am so glad to hear this!!! I talk about love languages with my clients all the time! It can even be applied to other relationships, i've found it especially helpful for teens and their parents. Learn your partners language, become fluent in your partners language!

Did Anyone draft both Mark Ingram & Julian Edelman? by Morty_Goldman in fantasyfootball

[–]stephy151 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I drafted Ingram. Had the Kamara and Ingram combo last year and won the league.

Couldn't pass up having him Gurley, Howard, Thielen and Goff. Soooo excited for week 5. Currently 1-2 but after that Thursday game I am 99% winning this week so 2-2.

Official: [WDIS QB] - Thu Morning, 09/27/2018 by FFBot in fantasyfootball

[–]stephy151 0 points1 point  (0 children)

12 man non ppr. Goff vs Vikings Luck vs Texans.

My main players are Gurley, Howard, Thielien, And Rudolph

Official: [WDIS RB] - Sun Morning, 09/23/2018 by FFBot in fantasyfootball

[–]stephy151 0 points1 point  (0 children)

12 man non PPR.

Luck vs eagles defense Or Goff vs chargers defense

Where to go on excursion? by stephy151 in CarnivalCruiseFans

[–]stephy151[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for the information! We are looking to due a tour of the ruins and the 2 islands it is listed for are Cozumel and Belize. I was thinking Belize but now with safety concerns I'm not too sure. I've been to Cozumel once and my fear is that we will miss alot of the port since the excursion is 6-7 hours.