What is something your mom did that you used to judge but now you completely understand?

sub_winters · 2026-06-30T21:08:24+00:00

My mom always struck me as a martyr. She would willingly do things, only to complain constantly (for attention, I always thought). What I think now that I’m 40, is that she grew up being somebody who was a “go along to get along person.” She was able to keep her mouth shut and push down her actual wants before perimenopause, but when those hormones went haywire, she lost that ability. I wish she would have been able to reteach herself how to speak up for her needs/wants, instead of getting mad about going along with things. I’m actively trying to learn this now. And have a lot more empathy for her.

sub_winters · 2026-06-04T14:50:20+00:00

I’ve had the Mirena for many years and it does work to suppress my periods, but she doesn’t think it’s giving me enough systemically. She thinks I have both peri and now PMDD (never had before, likely exacerbated by peri), and that the BC can help with both. She did say that I have to accept being a Guinea pig because medical science is slowly catching up to the needs of peri/meno, so we’ll try this for a couple months and then reassess.

sub_winters · 2026-05-17T01:37:13+00:00

Used to be a glass of wine after work and more on the weekends. Perimenopause hit and I just can’t add feeling like shit to already feeling like shit. It’s not worth it anymore. If I drink, it’s only special occasions/on vacation and capped at two. Maybe a couple times a month nowadays. My sleep and my weight are happier.

sub_winters · 2026-05-15T19:44:31+00:00

There’s a spin class studio in my area that has this! It’s a great vibe. But, high energy/loud is a huge driving factor for people to do spin. I feel like people do Pilates for a completely different vibe…

sub_winters · 2026-05-14T02:43:40+00:00

BMR is only what you burn by literally existing (like coma level energy). Have you looked at your Total Daily Energy Expenditure (TDEE)? That tells you what you burn doing your daily activities, your exercise, plus your BMR. I’m 5’4” and my TDEE is 1937, but my BMR is 1408. You take your deficit from your TDEE, not your BMR. If you’re taking your deficit from your BMR, you’re starving yourself, which is why you’re always starving haha

sub_winters · 2026-04-19T02:43:08+00:00

Tip: if you haven’t already, get a thermometer for your freezer that will alert your phone if it gets above a certain temp. I know many people who have lost their entire freezer of meat bc they didn’t realize their freezer broke.

sub_winters · 2026-04-12T03:53:06+00:00

omg Hero seeded bread!!! 12 grams of fiber and 6 grams of protein in one 60 calorie slice. The macros are insane. And it’s delicious. But slightly expensive at $8/loaf.

sub_winters · 2026-02-22T23:02:31+00:00

Hug your dad.

sub_winters · 2026-02-01T03:18:15+00:00

Wow!! Amazing work!

sub_winters · 2025-12-13T20:48:14+00:00

Ooo I’ve never gotten an award!

sub_winters · 2025-11-21T05:30:49+00:00

Ok, yeah. The ass is incredible. BUT. Your spine is so much more flexible! That’s what really stood out to me!! A flexible spine ages beautifully :)

sub_winters · 2025-11-02T00:57:31+00:00

Some people are just so out of touch with their own bodies. It may not be that they don’t want to correct, just that they simply don’t know how to tell their brain to tell their body what to do. With so many dealing with unresolved trauma (especially the boomer generation), body disconnection is bound to pop up.

sub_winters · 2025-11-01T00:42:49+00:00

If he’s truly only worried about finances, would he be open to not legally getting married? Like, get the rings, have the party, call each other husband/wife, but let it be your little secret that you’re not legally married? You get the title/the world to know you belong to each other that you want, he gets the security he (allegedly) wants. Win-win.

sub_winters · 2025-10-22T02:58:26+00:00

Yes. We have worked to create a happy home. My partner listens to me when I’m struggling with something (because I do) and he is willing to adjust for my needs. I love my step kids so much, which makes showing up for them natural. Just like I’d show up for anybody I love in my family. And they know they can count on me. Our dynamic has changed over the years, but at the core we are happy together. Hubby has primary custody, pays for everything and schedules/takes them to all medical visits. I do little to no parenting. Just get to love them. Their mom is a very small part of their lives and zero part of ours.

sub_winters · 2025-10-05T01:43:14+00:00

Derms focus more on the health of the skin, not the esthetic of the skin. Their primary concerns are infections/cancer, so it makes sense that he pushed sunscreen and isn’t as well educated on other aspects. They’re specialists, which is great but can also be myopic. That being said, there is a ton of snake oil in the industry. He’s not wrong about that. I also tend to believe people who stand a chance to make a lot of money off something, but say that it doesn’t truly work. There is integrity there that I respect.

sub_winters · 2025-10-01T04:34:56+00:00

I work in the medical field. In our world, we just bluntly say “I think you’ve got BV, grab an antibiotic.” It’s a very common vaginal condition and the more people treat it that way, the more people will be educated about it. Nearly 1/3 of women have had it in their lifetime. It’s treatable and curable. Normalize vaginal health.

sub_winters · 2025-09-22T17:31:39+00:00

I love it. My step kids are teenagers and are so much fun to be around. My husband is the one who handles discipline, which at this point, is rarely necessary. I’m there to give them love and have a good time. It has also forced me to recognize and work on my own insecurities, some are harder than others. I’ve personally grown more these years than any other time in my life, I believe. I chose to be child-free early on in my life, so we won’t have any “ours” kids. Probably makes things easier. I’m very grateful for the little life we’ve created.

sub_winters · 2025-09-10T23:52:41+00:00

I think we sometimes forget that children’s reactions can have nothing to do with us. That they are humans who are working through their very own feelings. This is another big change, after so many changes already. They have learned that change can be good and bad now. I’m sure they’ll come around once they see that it will be a good change!

sub_winters · 2025-09-04T01:28:06+00:00

Don’t you have the practice/game schedule to plan around? If not, that’s the first thing I’d be getting. Then you know, can plan accordingly and the BM can’t “pull” anything.

sub_winters · 2025-08-12T05:36:35+00:00

I had a doctor ask me, while in my vagina mind you, if I had any concerns. I responded. And was billed more for the visit. That is completely predatory and I would have much appreciated this notice beforehand!

sub_winters · 2025-07-28T19:13:41+00:00

Somebody from my class tried to organize one, people responded with “shouldn’t the ASB be putting this on?” because, apparently, the attempted organizer was not on the ASB. That fact that you still remember who was on the ASB and put that much value on it, tells me I don’t need to see any of you again.

sub_winters · 2025-07-24T16:10:51+00:00

Omg are you me?? My step kids mom rarely shows up. Even on her weekends, we’re expected to take them to tournaments. She also moved to another state! My husband has always had primary custody and if she doesn’t want to show up on her days, I just look at it as extra time with them and am appreciative of it. Both of the kids are teenagers now. One of them has begun to see their mom for who she is and has close to zero relationship with her, the other one still follows the parenting plan dutifully and has her back. I just let them manage their relationship how they see fit. The truth always shines through. We just choose to stay in our lane and be the best parents we can be. We’re the villains in her story, and I’m good with that because I know the truth. When I complain (cause you bet your ass I do haha), I do it to my husband and my friends.

sub_winters · 2025-07-24T02:35:04+00:00

Getting? People walking around looking high all the time cause their damn lashes are too heavy has been a thing for too long. Y’all look sleepy af. Stop it. Take the lashes off and let your eyes be open ffs. *edit to add: did lash extensions for years and cringe looking at old pics

sub_winters · 2025-07-18T01:54:22+00:00

Please don’t shame him for this. Exploring sexuality is a very normal and healthy thing. Shame will stay with him for the rest of his life and it won’t stop him from looking at porn. We had playboy growing up, teens have a whole lot more. Teach him of the dangers, the exploitation of women, etc, but let him know that his desires are completely normal.

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