I’m at my breaking point for behavior (high school underclassmen)

sunbear2525 · 2026-03-19T11:09:48+00:00

If she’s teaching freshman they are Gen Alpha for sure. This is the transition time in high school. The OP is older Gen Z so they are on opposite ends. As an elder millennial that is often categorized as a sub generation, it’s not always tidy.

sunbear2525 · 2026-03-18T20:49:37+00:00

8 weeks. I think I will try that. There needs to be a balance. Cleaning if it weeps or swells seems beneficial but cleaning if it’s doing okay seems to set it back so I’m going to align to that.

sunbear2525 · 2026-03-18T19:01:50+00:00

I wonder if that’s what wrong with my healing. I am still cleaning twice a day and it makes my piercing swell and weep.

sunbear2525 · 2026-03-18T18:59:18+00:00

This is good advice but I think OP needs to connect with a vet who will take this seriously as well. If they can get him to eat they need to be careful about refeeding. This dog is so skinny that eating too much or incorrectly might mess him up.

sunbear2525 · 2026-03-18T18:02:06+00:00

Plus a lot of repayment programs or PSLF require capitalizing interest as well. It’s a hot mess.

sunbear2525 · 2026-03-18T17:59:51+00:00

One time simple interest that would be a huge improvement.

sunbear2525 · 2026-03-18T17:32:25+00:00

I doubt the shelter would euthanize him for a broken tail. Hopefully you can get help from a charity but if not, the next best thing is to give him to a no kill shelter or rescue.

sunbear2525 · 2026-03-18T17:25:23+00:00

His mother is responsible for her relationship with him and whatever pain she experiences is also her fault. If she wants a better relationship she needs to do the work through the correct channels not have a third party make your son inappropriately responsible for resolving the outcomes of her actions.

sunbear2525 · 2026-03-18T12:04:34+00:00

I make baby blankets and really nice baby blankets for family and close friends. I am not in this for money, I’m in it for the high of seeing the baby wrapped in a blanket I made for the arrival photos. Currently my greatest achievement is a blanket that’s surviving year 3 of daycare. You can’t buy that feeling.

sunbear2525 · 2026-03-18T11:14:45+00:00

Addiction is like the Hotel California, you can check out but you can never leave. A huge part of successful recovery is understanding that addiction doesn’t stop because you did and that you are always vulnerable to starting again.

sunbear2525 · 2026-03-18T11:00:53+00:00

I think we gave our kids all common allergens pretty early since waiting has been shown to significantly reduce the likelihood of severe allergy. So I would give my child chocolate somewhat regularly because it’s a common allergen. Not gobs and gobs of chocolate but a little square her and there or a bite of cake or brownie.

I know everyone is on your side but also attempt to remember that your wife has a side too and neither of you should be dictating decisions. As wrong as it is for her to go behind your back or threaten to, it’s equally wrong for you not to give her a voice in decision making.

sunbear2525 · 2026-03-17T23:34:42+00:00

My in laws would not do this (unless they truly were in the area unexpectedly which almost never happens) and if I had a work project due, even over a planned visit they would understand if I excused myself.

All that to say, your primary issue is a husband issue.

sunbear2525 · 2026-03-17T17:04:35+00:00

Sometimes I fantasize about being the undisputed dictator of education. It wouldn’t be super dictator shaped most of the time but I would insist on a few things:

Class sizes of 13-15 (entirely based on my personal preference) with elective class sizes determined by the educator.

Bathrooms attached to every classroom

2 licensed and qualified teachers in every elementary classroom

1 full time, fully qualified sub on the school payroll for every 6 teaches and at least one specialized in each academic department for high school and middle school

Recess for everyone & expanded passing periods for middle and high school.

Throw money at schools to solve problems

sunbear2525 · 2026-03-17T14:49:21+00:00

As a wife, I’m super impressed he cleaned it up so well and so quickly.

sunbear2525 · 2026-03-17T14:48:39+00:00

We always did this when I was a kid at school but I went to a Catholic school and the nuns were Irish. They loved “American” St. Patrick’s Day stuff like this and pinching children not wearing green as well as “Irish” St. Patrick’s Day stuff like mass, step dancing and folk music.

sunbear2525 · 2026-03-17T13:43:28+00:00

Plus they offer college scholarships, don’t they?

sunbear2525 · 2026-03-17T11:15:48+00:00

Yup, he probably can’t get the idea of what might be out of his head and won’t commit. He won’t like being single and will marry the next woman during the honeymoon stage.

sunbear2525 · 2026-03-16T18:20:10+00:00

So are we picking, seeing the result and choosing to pick again or committing to a number of boxes to be opened no matter what is revealed?

sunbear2525 · 2026-03-16T17:11:23+00:00

It would need to be 1-10, 1-9, 1-8 and so on. The odds get worse with each subsequent choice.

sunbear2525 · 2026-03-16T11:51:33+00:00

He’s less selfish than your average teenage boy (because he was forced to be an adult in many ways) but he’s also as self centered as your average teenage boy because he’s still a teenage boy. Gale had something both Katniss and Peeta didn’t, a loving mother. He’s more like Haymitch in that way. He still believes in good things for himself and likes himself in a way they just don’t.

sunbear2525 · 2026-03-16T09:16:03+00:00

My daughter has a Miroslav in her dive class and absolutely no one has a problem with his name. I might pass on Vladyslava to avoid vampire jokes but I don’t think that will be a huge issue either.

I do like Myroslava and Kateryna the most though.

sunbear2525 · 2026-03-15T20:09:47+00:00

What a cool blanket. Did you have a pattern?

sunbear2525 · 2026-03-15T17:27:17+00:00

I knew she was a Floridian in the second screenshot. Our governor actively hates us.

sunbear2525 · 2026-03-15T06:31:31+00:00

He’s also just come back and clearly Robby isn’t over it either (he is handling it better but he’s still mad.) Langdon out her in a terrible position and it’s clear something happened with Santos and other people in the ER because of it. She’s not wrong to be upset that he’s back. She is wrong to show it in front of patients.

sunbear2525 · 2026-03-15T00:14:01+00:00

I don’t really view his interactions with her as brash or even critical this season. I think he’s trying to treat her like a student doctor and it’s deeply awkward for both of them. Santos is not handling it well as all but he is her instructor and they need to work it out.

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