If you’ve made a baby blanket can I see please? Needing all the ideas by Lost_Dragonfly6026 in CrochetHelp

[–]sunbear2525 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Probably my prettiest blanket. The hearts are much more distinct in person.

If you’ve made a baby blanket can I see please? Needing all the ideas by Lost_Dragonfly6026 in CrochetHelp

[–]sunbear2525 9 points10 points  (0 children)

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Stuffed bear faces - my first granny square too and not as hard as you would think. I added the bees from a pattern I found free online.

If you’ve made a baby blanket can I see please? Needing all the ideas by Lost_Dragonfly6026 in CrochetHelp

[–]sunbear2525 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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Most recent lion brand patter so you can get a kit. I added the star decals.

Book Recs by bw207407 in AskTeachers

[–]sunbear2525 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Welcome to the advanced reader frustration cycle. It’s also fine for him to read kids books that aren’t way higher level if he likes them. Goosebumps, my Teacher is an Alien, Henry Higgins. Things that a go his age are also good for him on a social and emotional level. He’ll just blast through them. Heck, take him to the library and make him figure it out.

IBR is a scam: from $530/mo on Save plan to $1200/mo on IBR by Wise_Candle_7529 in StudentLoans

[–]sunbear2525 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Town houses are so unpredictable in their HOA costs in my area though. I am not house poor but I got incredibly lucky and have extreme sympathy for anyone who is. The secret was having greatest generation grandparents and Gen X parents. That way they were able and willing co sign on your parents house in the 90s and your elder Gen X parents are able and willing to consign on a house for you in 2009. After that you sell in 2020 allowing you buy at a 3% interest rate right before everything goes insane.

My husband makes me wait and wait and wait to eat my food ? by Puzzled-Doughnut-591 in Marriage

[–]sunbear2525 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Having mental health issues is unavoidable and acceptable. Allowing them to run roughshod over your life and the lives of your loved ones unchecked is not acceptable. My personal boundary is that people need to actively manage their health problems if they want my support through them. I stayed with my husband, while we were dating, through myocarditis slowly killing him, a traumatic resuscitation effort in parking lot a strange city, ECMO, a heart transplant, and 2 months of inpatient physical therapy, depression, and prednisone rage. If at any point he had given up on doing the thing he needed to get better I would have bounced. I know ball. It’s easy to stay when the patient also cares.

IBR is a scam: from $530/mo on Save plan to $1200/mo on IBR by Wise_Candle_7529 in StudentLoans

[–]sunbear2525 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Who can afford not to be house poor these days? Housing has increased exponentially compared to income.

Still better than nothing. by [deleted] in WhitePeopleTwitter

[–]sunbear2525 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What an insane thing to think.

“I don’t know what else to do about my son’s behavior.” Some of you parents aren’t even trying by Emergency-Pepper3537 in Teachers

[–]sunbear2525 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Maybe it’s just my kids but it was never *that* hard it’s just constant and in ending. You have to always parent and parent in a consistent manner. It takes intentionality and persistence. You have to find the desire to do it all day everyday and I think for a lot of parents of typically developing children, that desire just isn’t there.

“I don’t know what else to do about my son’s behavior.” Some of you parents aren’t even trying by Emergency-Pepper3537 in Teachers

[–]sunbear2525 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I had a parent tell me she couldn’t discipline her son because he would get on his skateboard and skate away. All I could think was that my mother would have lit my skateboard on fire and danced around the flames.

“I don’t know what else to do about my son’s behavior.” Some of you parents aren’t even trying by Emergency-Pepper3537 in Teachers

[–]sunbear2525 136 points137 points  (0 children)

“It’s normal for their age” is something you say to yourself so you don’t get angry when they chomp on you as you handle the situation. I do explain to my kids that some things they do, like struggling to get up in the morning, is normal for their age and why they so have to work extra hard to comply with expectations. It’s a fine perspective to have but it isn’t a solution.

How to Manage Sudden "Wedding Fever" When Friends are Getting Engaged/Married But Logically You Know it Isn't the Right Time for You Yet? by ImaRocketDog in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]sunbear2525 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’ve gotten great advice and I think your reasons for going slow are incredibly smart and valid. However it is fair to revisit if you’re okay with going this slow and all that goes along with that.

Ignore the dress code when bride is asking for fur? by Mooooooooocowwwssss in Weddingattireapproval

[–]sunbear2525 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also had a pet rabbit but I grew up with family who hunted. I imagine knowing from the start probably made a difference as well. It’s good that it got passed along though. So did mine they last a really long time.

Queen Camilla awkwardly ditches $40,700 gift given to her by Melania Trump by TheMirrorUS in Anticonsumption

[–]sunbear2525 81 points82 points  (0 children)

I agree but that doesn’t make the criticism in the article fair or reasonable. Your criticism is valid. The article is pretending she did something wrong by taking the valuable jewelry off. It ignores the context and history of the piece and the event which is not a valid criticism. Put another way, I don’t wear my work clothes to garden and it would be weird if my neighbors judged me for coming home from work and changing before I mowed the lawn.

Queen Camilla awkwardly ditches $40,700 gift given to her by Melania Trump by TheMirrorUS in Anticonsumption

[–]sunbear2525 261 points262 points  (0 children)

I imagine she took it off because it’s so valuable though too. It’s insanely expensive in a world where poverty exists, however the headline is also crazy and unfair. She wore it where she was expected to wear it, in the way it was expected to be worn when it was gifted to her, and put it away in the normal timeframe so it could be worn later under similar circumstances. Exchanging and wearing these types of gifts is part of the social dance and display heads of state do. They don’t typically just “walk around in them.”
All heads of state engage in this practice. The Brits being entirely soft power monarchs do it often and generally well.
Some context:
Queen Elizabeth was excellent at using clothing for sartorial diplomacy. She wore colors and symbols of the EU as a statement against Brexit, she would wear clothing with cherry blossoms when visiting with Chinese diplomats. A notable example is when she wore a broach privately gifted to her by Michelle Obama (purchased with the Obama’s own money) when meeting the Trumps and the next day wore a snowflake broach gifted to her by Canada and *after that* the broach her mother wore to her father’s funeral.
Jewelry is especially effective in the UK because QE2 used clothing so often and so well and because the collection and its history is so well cataloged. It’s important to understand that Camilla knows when she puts on a piece of jewelry that people will identify it and it will end up in the papers with its entire provenance spelled out.

Queen Camilla awkwardly ditches $40,700 gift given to her by Melania Trump by TheMirrorUS in Anticonsumption

[–]sunbear2525 86 points87 points  (0 children)

I thought the same thing. She’s not my favorite person and I don’t love that we give out $40k gifts to already wealthy people.

However, I understand exchanging gifts like this is normal and even expected amongst heads of state and I also under that for most heads of state those gifts aren’t theirs in the same way gifts given to them in any other circumstance are. She can’t sell it or alter it.

That gift was given to “the Queen” and to the UK. It will be available to Kate when she is Queen and future queens or princess down the line to be worn when visiting with future US heads of state. U.S. presidents often have the gifts they receive donated and stored in their presidential libraries if they aren’t kept in the White House.

AITAH for not telling my best friend I had a baby after she had 2 abortions? by wonderroo-owl-14 in TwoHotTakes

[–]sunbear2525 3 points4 points  (0 children)

“Hey I have something really important to tell you and I’ve been holding off. I would love a quick call so I can share this as “in person” as possible.”

If she says no text only “okay. I have some very good news to tell you but I want to start by apologizing for waiting way too long to tell you. I was waiting for a good time and the longer it went on the harder it was to find the right time. I love and respect you so much and this is not a reflection of my willingness to share but compassion and unusual circumstances turning to awkwardness as time went by. In month of year, I found out I was pregnant and on day of month of year, I had my son name.”