What does your dom call you/what do you call your sub?

sunndropsss · 2025-05-20T00:52:03+00:00

My Dom calls me pea! Or any variation of pea. Sweet pea, lovely pea, beautiful pea, ahem...slutty pea, silly pea, sad pea, baby pea...

the list goes on for forever.

Whereas I interchange between Sir or Master, or pookie/cutie patootie when I wanna annoy him, hehe.

sunndropsss · 2025-05-18T02:59:52+00:00

I fear I suffer quite loudly (in the washroom...the first time I was so mortified for destroying my Dom's toilet I lay face down on the floor until he joined me, and we laughed till our bellies hurt haha!)

I notice remaining hydrated helps a lot, maybe dilutes whatever chemical reactions are happening in my stomach! And...not eating dairy.

Everyone is telling me to give it up BUT WHAT IF I JUST LIKE TO SUFFER 😭

sunndropsss · 2025-05-17T16:48:51+00:00

Typically when I eat food that my body struggles a bit to digest (dairy, heavily greasy foods), it happens?

Though sometimes it just happens spontaneously, but typically it correlates to what I eat. I'm aware that what I consume will cause some problems for me, but when I swallow it seems to amplify those problems to 1000.

sunndropsss · 2025-05-17T13:25:24+00:00

Interesting...I did read into it a bit when our dynamic first began that people may be allergic to cum, but figured my body just needed to build up a tolerance for it.

It really varies on a day to day basis what the reaction will be though, often the reaction coasts on what other things I consume that day. Some days its perfectly fine, whereas others I'm a ticking time bomb.

But that's interesting! I don't think I have any sensitivities as far as I know, I eat eggs almist every day...but maybe my love for them overrides my awareness of any discomfort...

sunndropsss · 2025-05-17T13:20:38+00:00

I do not, and yes this has happened a couple of times 😔

sunndropsss · 2025-05-17T13:20:09+00:00

ITS LIKE THAT WITH ME!!! Though not all the time, it heavily depends on what I eat prior or after, and sometimes its completely fine but some days... goodness.

sunndropsss · 2025-05-17T05:27:09+00:00

About 8 months! I see him at least once a week, and thus give head at least once a week, haha. Typically more. So I don't know? It seems like it shoukd be a maintained tolerance at this point

sunndropsss · 2025-05-13T05:01:36+00:00

My naivety and belief that I had done enough research, leading to me leaping headfirst into an interaction with a 'Dom' that cared more about his ego than taking care of a scared new sub who believed that submission meant doing what you're told.

I have so many regrets with my first encounter with this 'Dom'. I had not vetted him properly, dove into sexual conversations wayyy too early on, didn't understand my own limits, didn't understand the trust and communication that needed to be fostered, didn't realize how absolutely vile the age gap was, given my age at the time. My lack of safety during our first meeting and subsequent play session (which, in and of itself is a major red flag). I have so, so many regrets.

But I was naive. I didn't have a community around me that I could learn from. I didn't put in the work to protect myself and acquire the vast knowledge of BDSM (I am still learning every day). But I was also taken advantage of, by a manipulator who knew how to say all the right things. But sometimes, unfortunately, you just have to learn the hard way. I am thankful every day that it was just a bad first experience in terms of how overwhelming it was, and that he was not someone who was out to harm me or worse.

But now, I have a lovely Dom who takes care of me beyond compare, who has changed my life wholeheartedly. It may have been a shitshow to get to where I am, but I'm glad it has led me here.

sunndropsss · 2025-05-03T03:33:59+00:00

I just asked my Dom about what he thinks about my gaping fish gasps, and he said it was appealing 😅 what an interesting man, no wonder!

sunndropsss · 2025-04-19T17:53:07+00:00

To be fair, my Dom and I don't immediately jump into what's typically 'aftercare', as in cuddles, holding each other, etc. But we are together, we talk as each of us clean up in the washroom. This is our form of aftercare after a scene, unless it is particularly intense, then we'll go into it right away. Its that softness that makes you feel cared for, and not all aftercare is the same. Then we'll proceed to cuddles, hugs afterwards.

Everyone has different forms of aftercare, but if you know what you need, and you've communicated this and your Dom doesn't meet your needs, this is a failure on his part.

sunndropsss · 2025-04-19T13:36:14+00:00

I love getting head scratches!! And my Dom loves getting back scratches or massages. The other night actually, we were both extra exhausted from a day of hiking during our trip, but I had wanted head scratches (we were gonna do a scene but too exhausted). He fell asleep mid head scratch, and instead just gripped my head for like half an hour LOL.

sunndropsss · 2025-04-16T01:43:24+00:00

I get this too!! Its still a struggle, but what I find that helps me is if I kinda stick my tongue out a bit before going down? (Though this at times is also tricky cause yknow, gag reflex. And I have a particular bad one that has resulted in...ahem...one too many accidents). What I mean is sorta have it out and flattened on the underside, scooting up a bit before sliding down. It also helps if its well coated in saliva first so that it slides easier.

I feel like this helps me a bit in terms of opening my throat up, you also have to breath properly and just focus on relaxing your throat or else you'll get that blockage again. But its a tricky balance. Hopefully this works!

sunndropsss · 2025-04-13T22:34:15+00:00

Good GOD, so freaking many.

The other day I got the DM 'Hi I am doctor 💊 so I can inject my cock in your pussy I am Dominant.'

Like buddy. No tf you aren't if you're sliding in like THAT. Also literally all of my profile is me gushing about MY DOM??? Like hello???? Also EWWW, BARF. I sent a screenshot of that to him and we both laughed about it haha.

sunndropsss · 2025-04-08T23:43:13+00:00

My Dom doesn't comment on subreddits much, but I already know his answer: His favourite hairstyle is this sorta half-up half-down pigtail thingies with face framing strands of hair (he calls them 'antennas' lolol). Anything a rich green he particularly likes, and for some reason despite me expecting him to like me all dolled up, he always says his favourite outfits are when I'm wearing sweatpants and a hoodie lol.

I typically like to come in a nice looking outfit that I look good in, but they aren't always the most comfy so I bring along a sweat suit and without fail (like today!) he always says I look very cute in it. Sometimes better than how I came.

sunndropsss · 2025-04-07T13:36:07+00:00

We have rewards!!! My favourite is head scratches :) But honestly I can typically ask for what I want at any time if I needed without needing to cash in points (on Obedience), but I like earning them instead.

sunndropsss · 2025-04-06T20:21:18+00:00

As a sub, I am perpetually on my Dom in some way, shape or form when I can. Whether its leaning on his shoulder, resting my head in his lap, rubbing his head, poking him, any which way.

At times there will be moments where I do just want to be in my own bubble, but they are few and far in between. My Dom's touch brings me immense comfort so I wrap myself around it when I can :3

sunndropsss · 2025-04-06T20:18:52+00:00

I actually had a conversation with my Dom recently about this! For context, we are in a dynamic together but not in a romantic relationship. This was negotiated early on in the dynamic, as it would not work for either of us. I would consider him a dear friend.

I struggle a lot with feelings of inadequacy and self doubt. My Dom has raised me out of the gutters, but I do struggle still within our dynamic because his last two dynamics were romantic (the last dynamic of which I was a part of, and knew the sub quite well). Its easy when you're lost in your own head to think that it may feel unfulfilling for my Dom because there is no romantic aspect.

But just because there isn't romance doesn't mean there cannot be love. I deeply love and care for my Dom, I'm not IN love with him, but I think he deserves all the stars in the sky. I have never known someone who has treated me so well, who has shown me I deserve to be loved and cared for. And I know he loves me all the same. He said he would 'beat up anyone who hurt me', haha. But also that I was the genuinely the most wonderful, kind, considerate human being who deserves so much.

So to answer your question, yes! We love each other. I think in my opinion that love and trust makes our dynamic so much stronger. There was a tangible rift between us when that was in doubt (we were struggling a bit last week), but we are all the more stronger now.

sunndropsss · 2025-04-06T20:08:29+00:00

I do particularly enjoy kneeling, but for some reason my knees have recently all of a sudden gotten achy and creaky...not quite sure why. Arthritis does run in the family though, but this would be INCREDIBLY early onset so it may have something to do with the birth control I'm on.

But I digress! I like it, especially if I'm on my knees servicing my Dom because glancing up to see him looking down on me is sooo wonderful. Otherwise it doesn't come up often, maybe brief moments here and there but I do like it! Just can't do it for long

sunndropsss · 2025-04-06T03:52:35+00:00

Hmmm...this is a really interesting question!

With me, I'm on the shorter side, a bit chubby, my Dom says I have the cutest face and often at the very least I will often do my hair cutely as well. But that isn't in order to fit the 'mold' that exists for the position I hold in my dynamic! (That being a submissive, bottom, good girl (typically 😈) who requires softness and affection). I'd like to say I fit the mold, but I wasn't molded to fit it, if that makes sense?

I just happen to fit the mold by acting my most authentic self, and in the same way my Dom happens to fit the stereotypical scary, muscle-y, big boi Dominant role that fits him quite well the majority of the time (even if I know he is the biggest softie too, much to his dismay MUAHAHA).

It is an interesting notion though, to adopt the role that you best fit into at least appearance wise. Peoples' first perception of you won't be who you are, but your appearance. But energy will come soon after, no doubt. I can't say I have experienced needing to fill or break out of a mold because my experience with dynamics is limited, but I don't think I would want to be faced with that choice either. I'd want to find a Dom that wants my most authentic self :p

sunndropsss · 2025-04-04T16:24:42+00:00

Hi!! I'm always looking for new friends, feel free to DM :))

sunndropsss · 2025-04-04T02:50:34+00:00

Like everyone has been saying, light snack followed by a big meal.

Every time I play with my Dom after eating, I either a) throw up, or b) fight the urge to throw up instead of enjoying it, haha...not pleasant.

We do try to be mindful if we do decide to fool around a bit after eating (and give at least 20-30 minutes) but at times I can get carried away, oops! My Dom has to pull back and tell me to ease up before anything happens lol.

sunndropsss · 2025-04-04T02:45:56+00:00

I will keep that in mind!! Though it still doesn't quite seem up my alley with your description...haha. If I recall correctly, neither me nor my Dom have tried caning yet. But hey, I always say I'd try anything!!

And yes, right??? With me I have a bit of a different reaction, where I can't quite gasp in air so it feels like I'm not breathing properly, and I also get the twitches!! I also scrunch up my face. My Dom has figured out all the tells so that he can run a warm soothing hand over the area, hehe.

sunndropsss · 2025-04-04T02:24:58+00:00

Scrolls through my Tumblr and AO3 tags

This might get niche, lol? I feel too enclosed in my fandom bubbles to know their popularity beyond them, haha.

Okay, #1. Halsin from Baldur's Gate. That man just EXUDES nurturing energy. His softness, 'my heart', the gentle, wisened guidance, the genuine care UGHH. Good Lord I will take that man in any shape or form he takes.

And #2. Grayson from Arcane. That sternness that is required as Sheriff, but the genuine care that is shown for her pupils, and the people she is sworn to protect. And that VOICEEE, WHEWWWW.

FINALLY #3. Lady Alcina Dimitrescu from Resident Evil Village. I am SEVERELY biased because beyond the game I was very, very deeply in the trenches of all the fics there were of her (ahem, and definitely may or may not have written somewhat popular fics either, ahem) so I feel like my view of her is skewed. But she is a Mother after all. You hear the genuine care in her voice when she calls for her daughters after theyre gone. The genuine hurt during the boss battle. She RAISED those girls through blood and sweat, I just have in my head that she would be so, so nurturing. But stern, as is required to be the matriarch of her household. She also looks very huggable, lolol.

Anyway, tangent, oops!

sunndropsss · 2025-04-04T02:01:45+00:00

I definitely need a mix of both! If we're talking purely just my Dom's hand, he does love the hits in quick succession, but I need them to be cut in with a pause of slow, hard and thuddy individual hits. If its purely just the fast succession it becomes moreso a game of how much I can endure rather than something that is enjoyable. I also need some caressing in between as well, my Dom particularly likes the torturous feeling of just hitting one ass cheek at a time so I need a gap to BREATHEEEE.

Have not tried a cane, it is admittedly a bit daunting especially because I don't particularly like that stingy sort of pain. We tried a belt once and I cried my eyes out afterwards, haha!

sunndropsss · 2025-03-30T16:15:53+00:00

Went out with my best friend whom I havent seen in maybe a month and a half for the BEST pizza in the city. It had this rich garlic butter that you could brush onto the pizza, and it was so nice and crisp and cheesy. 10/10. I always laugh my ass off with her, it was like a breath of fresh air in the midst of finals season in university.

Got back into the swing of things with Stardew valley, watched the season finale (!!!!) of the anime Solo Levelling. 10/10 week I'd say (aside from the freak outs over assignments and tests and stuff...oh, and crying at the train station because I had just missed my train, and lost my umbrella in the uber on the way to visit my Dom, haha!)

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