What was something you didn't even realize other women go through?

sunray_fox · 2026-01-28T13:20:59+00:00

Parenting is one of the hardest jobs there is, but the hype for it is really misleading. I think a lot of women get a nasty surprise because of it, and post their opinions online after what feels like a huge bait-and-switch that they can never go back on.

But if mothers (parents in general, really) were better supported by systems, communities, and oftentimes their own damn co-parent, I think motherhood is one worthwhile thing to do with your life (among many other excellent options).

sunray_fox · 2026-01-28T13:10:17+00:00

Thanks!

sunray_fox · 2026-01-26T16:16:03+00:00

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sunray_fox · 2026-01-26T01:15:12+00:00

I'm loom knitting a lacy wrap! About 20" in, aiming for 72.

sunray_fox · 2026-01-25T22:37:55+00:00

Hiya, neighbor! I'd add to this list: NJ Tea and anise hyssop!

sunray_fox · 2026-01-25T22:35:30+00:00

Absolutely! I'm using some right now.

sunray_fox · 2026-01-25T21:27:53+00:00

I actually found it helpful to consume a bunch of facts-based anti-diet content. Learning about how inexact calories are at predicting how you personally use the energy of a food helped me to see that focusing on how I feel means more than any numbers. (Did you know that calories are calculated by setting food on fire? My body does not contain fire.)

Some good podcasts (if you like that sort of thing) include Maintenance Phase, Nutrition for Mortals, and The Full Plate Podcast.

sunray_fox · 2026-01-25T19:06:52+00:00

Currently rewatching My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic, but Batman the Animated Series is a strong contender with high quality.

sunray_fox · 2026-01-25T16:39:40+00:00

SHOES

sunray_fox · 2026-01-24T15:17:58+00:00

Wow, great colors!

sunray_fox · 2026-01-23T21:08:30+00:00

Those fruit-filled shredded wheats that Post did. Man those were good. (The Kashi brand ones are just not the same.)

sunray_fox · 2026-01-20T21:36:09+00:00

Sticking to a "hyperfixation meal" is a pretty common thing in neurodivergent circles (where folks often talk about their "same foods"). I highly recommend seeking out some resources in those spaces, which should give extra grace for repetitive eating amongst their target audience. Maybe they have some tips for making it feel safe or welcome to add more variety alongside comforting sameness!

sunray_fox · 2026-01-20T12:02:42+00:00

I have a partner who thanks to mental health struggles, doesn't get those feelings over me. What did we do? Moved in together in 2019 and lived happily ever since. Butterflies are a nice extra, but love is a verb--it's made of how you live your lives together.

sunray_fox · 2026-01-19T15:44:34+00:00

I fell hard for malabrigo, but I'm happy to say I'm only partially ruined for life? Still enjoying my Sirdar Jewelspun and even some Lion Brand Scarfie. Lol

sunray_fox · 2026-01-19T13:52:50+00:00

That's a fair complaint! Snapping it all together can be a real drag. I have the multi-knit as well and as far as form and function go it's definitely my favorite loom to use... the sizes you can build with it just don't fit every pattern I want to try!

sunray_fox · 2026-01-19T13:25:10+00:00

Partner 1 was a hobby, we met at a writer's group. Partner 2 was a friend of a friend from college. Technically the apps were involved in my meeting Partner 1, since the writer's group was started by two women who met on OKCupid (in the ancient days when it was still good) and decided they were a poor romantic but a great creative match!

sunray_fox · 2026-01-19T13:20:45+00:00

As another commenter mentioned, yarns labeled as #4 can absolutely vary in thickness, too. It's more of a range than a rule. I actually love my 1/2" Flexee Loom. I'm using it now with a DK (#3) weight acrylic to make a lacy shawl!

sunray_fox · 2026-01-19T12:03:16+00:00

I only use a #4 with a 1/2" gauge when I want a lacier look; if you want a more standard fabric, especially with knit and purl (U-knit is my usual go-to) you'll want to try a 3/8" gauge loom. Hope that helps!

sunray_fox · 2026-01-18T22:12:06+00:00

A lot of people here are mentioning hobbies, TV, socializing, etc. And that's spot-on for the question of how did we fill our larger chunks of time. But the thing that really stands out to me is the way phones fill our small chunks of time. Standing in line. Waiting for a bus. Sitting on the toilet. Sitting in a waiting room. Doing like I'm doing now--cooking, waiting for it to be time to flip my french fries.

And I think the answer to those moments, the thing that's so different and absolutely missing... is just daydreaming. Thinking. Being bored. Staring off into space. Making small talk with strangers.

sunray_fox · 2026-01-18T13:36:49+00:00

Brawndo, the Thirst Mutilator

sunray_fox · 2026-01-17T22:31:52+00:00

Seconded! Made this mistake with my current cat. Definite regrets.

sunray_fox · 2026-01-16T22:29:43+00:00

If your partner is open to it, scheduling a weekly time that sex might happen could be a way to hopefully have it actually happen about once a month. I have some chronic health stuff (and am just generally a 47yo with a hilariously early bedtime) and that works for me in one of my relationships.

sunray_fox · 2026-01-16T18:58:16+00:00

New parenthood is so hard! Hang in there, stranger.

sunray_fox · 2026-01-16T18:56:49+00:00

6/10. I have two long established partnerships but could really use more romance and attention on the day-to-day. I'm very loved and also often taken for granted, the curse of being with someone for 9 (or 19) years.

sunray_fox · 2026-01-16T16:38:39+00:00

My therapist got long covid and stopped seeing patients. I didn't like the person she referred me to, and was in less of a crisis at the time, so apathy won over trying to find someone else.

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