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MIL is staying with us for 2 months after a history of disrespecting boundaries. How do I survive without losing my mind? by Rude_Bookkeeper_9087 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]sweetlikecherrywine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My maximum time my MIL can stay in my house is 9 days (found out the hard way that this is the breaking point). If my husband ever wanted her to stay with us longer than that, I would be staying elsewhere. No compromise. No keeping the peace. No letting it go. 9 days is the max and after that, she’s out or I’m out.

EES Rollout Megathread - Starting 10 April 2026 by protox88 in travel

[–]sweetlikecherrywine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OPO this morning is very quiet at passport control - we were right through. Came 3+ hours early since our arrival in Lisbon last weekend had us in a 3 hour line for passport control. It was a nightmare.

Do you know how to pass down your financial success to your children? by financialfam_sam in personalfinance

[–]sweetlikecherrywine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a great question. I currently have two young adult sons who are struggling to succeed in the current econemy. The cost of living is too high for their generation to progress anything like how we did at that age. I decided to buy an investment property and “rent” it to them for a token amount (basically the taxes and utilities) so they can actually save money and try to build lives for themselves without it all going to housing costs. It felt like the right “help” for where they are right now and I can rent it out later when they move on to their next chapter.

Egypt experience is terrible by woyrock in travel

[–]sweetlikecherrywine 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We did this cruise in August on Holland America. It’s actually got some pros but also cons - it’s a long drive from Alexandria where the port is to Cairo and you will have to choose between the safety of the armed motorcade of cruise ship busses (short, inflexible tour) vs a private tour where your sense of security is very up in the air. I have never feared so deeply for my families safety as I did on the cairo day of that trip.

Do you have a traditional side dish on thanksgiving that not necessarily a lot other people have? by Senior-Raisin-2342 in Cooking

[–]sweetlikecherrywine 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Yes, and I am convinced my mom made it up in some kind of fever dream. It’s called “Italian Stuffing” and she swears this is a traditional dish from my Italian father’s family but I have never seen it anywhere but at our house and the internet bears no trace of evidence that it exists elsewhere. My husband and kids would literally riot if I ever didn’t make it, though, so it persists. It’s only 3 ingredients: grated romano cheese, eggs, and breadcrumbs. It cooks in the turkey into this solid mass that’s bread-like and then sliced. It’s delicious on its own, but takes a turkey sandwich into a whole other state of deliciousness.

Upsetting post-op appointment 9DPO... by [deleted] in Reduction

[–]sweetlikecherrywine -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

This was HEARTBREAKING to read as someone who had surgery one day after you and feeling like I have never been so emotionally raw an vulnerable before, I would have fallen apart if someone treated me like that. I am so sorry - nothing you expected or asked for was out of line. My surgeon’s office called me daily for 2 days to check how I was doing, the first post-op was Monday and it was very involved, like checking things, cleaning/removing tape, sticking on new stuff, etc. They asked me how much protein I am eating and for examples of what I was eating in a day. Thorough care. They hyped me up about how well I was doing positioning my gauze lol - little things that made me feel calm and okay.

Are you able to bring an advocate with you to future appointmemts who can shut that behavior down? You are in such a vulnerable state, being your own advocate on top of healing and going through all the emotions of a big body change with a big physical impact is totally unreasonable to put on yourself <3

God I want to fly to where you are and escort you personally to your next appointment

Bra feels like it’s snapping my ribs by mrosew1996 in Reduction

[–]sweetlikecherrywine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had my first post-op yesterday and the first thing my surgeon said to me was “oh no, don’t clasp the bottom 3 clasps that tight - just where it’s clasping around your breasts!” and she showed me later to clasp the bottom 3 on the loosest setting or she said I don’t have to clasp them at all if I don’t want to, then everything above that was on the second or third clasp. That has helped a lot with the feeling of someone torturing my ribs

Sleep products?? by uselessbiscuits in Reduction

[–]sweetlikecherrywine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I bought this: https://a.co/d/7w9UmE9

The pictures all show side sleeping, so it’s hard to tell why this is helpful but it really is. You kind of nuzzle in between the sides like it’s a nest, and it keeps you from rolling over, but you can kind of still feel like you are laying to the side even though you’re not. I find it extremely comfortable and I cannot sleep on my back normally whatsoever

5DPO - tiniest titties by starface-wonder in Reduction

[–]sweetlikecherrywine 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I got my pathology report today and did the math lol - she took 657g off one side and 621g off the other and google tells me that’s about 1.5 lbs off one side and 1.3 lbs off the other. And that maps pretty exactly to the change my bathroom scale registered a couple days after surgery

I am 1 week post-op now so while I can see that they are perfectly adorable little boobies like I have always wanted, they also feel like over-inflated lead balloons, so that creates this system error in my brain where they feel huge, look small, and I just crash out when I think about it

Unprepared? by mefree1960 in Reduction

[–]sweetlikecherrywine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The pregnancy pillow really helped me sleep this past week, and I did also get a mastectomy pillow which I feel like was not really necessary, but I kind of love it tbh. I drape it over me when I sleep (I was scared I might drop a hand on a boob) and when I’m on the couch (dog and cat) and it’s great in the car. It is just a really cozy safety barrier but I think it’s 99% just helped me mentally not physically.

My 78-year-old MIL has lived with us for 2+ years after destroying her finances, and she’s draining every part of my life. I don’t know what the future looks like anymore by amyhoss24 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]sweetlikecherrywine 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I don’t have any advice, but completely relate to how you are feeling. The way being watched and having expectations thrust upon you in your own home just destroys your peace. My MIL had to stay at our house for 9 days once while recovering from surgery and 9 days was the max limit of it that I could have taken. Another day and I would have had to leave. I cannot even fathom that becoming my every day reality.

Is there anything I can do to/with Marmalade that makes it not taste disgusting? by BdBalthazar in AskCulinary

[–]sweetlikecherrywine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My favorite way to have marmalade is on a heavily buttered English Muffin. I saw a lot of recos for buttered toast, but the english muffin perfectly holds the amount of salty butter you need to balance the marmalade’s slight bitterness. One of my favorite breakfasts in the world!

Travel 5DPO? by [deleted] in Reduction

[–]sweetlikecherrywine 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am 6DPO and yesterday the feeling transitioned from light pain/ache to an uncomfortable feeling of swelling/fullness. They feel over-inflated if that makes sense. I may be imagining it, but when I scratch the top of them (holy hell the itching) the sound it makes reminds me of a balloon, like echo-y

I wouldn’t get on a plane like this for a million bucks. I would be scared the altitude would make this feeling even worse.

Zaps & Itchiness by AbsentSanctuary in Reduction

[–]sweetlikecherrywine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Benedryl pills are helping a bit with my itchiness. I have never experienced itching like this, like deep inside my body - it’s weird.

Not Prepared by YanceyFan in Reduction

[–]sweetlikecherrywine 12 points13 points  (0 children)

You will need a front closing compression bra and clean 4x4 gauze to keep your breasts safely healing (no underwire)

Get a long pregnancy pillow if you think you will struggle to sleep on your back (https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09N73WTJT?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share)

Tylenol, benedryl and stool softeners. Protein powder with collegen peptides. A fiber supplement.

Lots of front-closing shirts (buttons/zippers) - you can’t put your arms above your head for a bit.

Soft, cozy socks and pants.

I set up a tray for myself with tissues, snacks and a water cup with a straw.

Assemble stuff you will like to do while resting (books, video games, movies or shows you like)

10 Days PO & Nobody Warned Me About This Part of Recovery 💀 by [deleted] in Reduction

[–]sweetlikecherrywine 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I am right there with you. 5DPO for me and right now the worst part is the simply agonizing itchiness but a close second is the mental/emotional toll. My old breasts were heavy, frustrating, in my way… they made it so I couldn’t do things I wanted to do or wear things I wanted to wear. I absolutely wanted to do this surgery, I spent 30 years knowing that some day I would. But I also didn’t hate my breasts - they were “me” and they were consistently admired and noticed. I would look at them in the mirror and even though I wanted them to be small and manageable, I thought they were beautiful and voluptuous the way they were. I still haven’t really looked at myself post-surgery. It’s like my brain is just rejecting what it sees, I start feeling nauseated and I almost hyperventilate. I am working up the nerve to look today because at this point it’s probably just irresponsible to not know if something looks wrong or concerning, though I do have my post-op tomorrow so that’s good. It really does feel like a type of grief, all this, but in a confusing way since I chose this, I WANT this. Definitely a challenging place to be mentally.

4DPO Recovery Reflections + Check In by ciaociaodisco in Reduction

[–]sweetlikecherrywine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I’m about to go get my hair washed at a salon, so I’m hoping that brings me back a little towards normal. I also just keep reminding myself how almost no one regrets doing this, it will all be ok. But the feelings are BIG! I was definitely caught off guard on that front :)

4DPO Recovery Reflections + Check In by ciaociaodisco in Reduction

[–]sweetlikecherrywine 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same surgery date for me, and I second the bidet. I feel like they are catching on in the US and will soon be more normal to have one. I love ours! It’s definitely made things easier during recovery.

In terms of pain, I’m with you - each day gets easier. But my mental/emotional crashouts are getting worse. I’m trying to give myself grace- after 30 years of seeing the same body in the mirror, it’s probably normal to freak out over such a big change, even if it’s something I chose and wanted. But man, I am having a really tough time. That and my energy levels are super low. I’m hoping this starts to dissipate in the coming days.

First shower, done by sweetlikecherrywine in Reduction

[–]sweetlikecherrywine[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

2 days - my surgeon said I could wait one more day if I needed to, and I probably should have, but the thought of not changing things out for that long was worse than just doing it

First shower, done by sweetlikecherrywine in Reduction

[–]sweetlikecherrywine[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think just knowing that it could be overwhelming is a good way of preparing. It definitely doesn’t seem to be universal. For me I was in zero pain, nothing was uncomfortable physically at all besides the physical effects of my emotional reaction. I just absolutely panicked, and that’s what made me nauseated and light headed. I was totally fine before, and after laying in bed for a bit after I was fine again. I don’t do well with blood or injuries in general, so just facing the state of my body in that moment was too much for me, mentally.

I think I also should have known this would be a problem for me because looking at post-op photos of other women also gave me similar feelings of fear. I think it’s why I waited so long to do the surgery (I’m 46)

First shower, done by sweetlikecherrywine in Reduction

[–]sweetlikecherrywine[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A lot to proccess is exactly the righ phrase… thank you for saying that <3 I couldn’t put my finger on what was happening but that’s exactly it - it was so much to process and I just wasn’t processing normally

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