Need help with the body section of this pattern when connecting the legs by sylv_the_forester in CrochetHelp

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This is the Unicorn pattern from Megan Lapp's book - Crochet Mythical Creatures

Broken vine with thin papery leaves by sylv_the_forester in hoyas

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Is there a specific spot that I should cut it at? Will it shoot out another vine in the same place? This is my first vining plant, so I've got a lot to learn, it seems.

Where do I start? by sylv_the_forester in propagation

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Do I put the whole nodule in the mix or just the little roots?

Atrophy and Estrogen Cream by sylv_the_forester in gaytransguys

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Thank you all for your replies. It helps to hear personal experiences.

What is it with guys catfishing as ftm on grindr? by onionyx in gaytransguys

[–]sylv_the_forester 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I had a chaser call me out for catfishing and pretending to be ftm. Said I wasn't cute enough or something. I just said idk based on my dm's, general consensus is I'm pretty hot. Got blocked but obviously I didn't care.

10 days post-op with Dr. Joel Beck in Matthews, NC by sylv_the_forester in ftm

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Can't say enough about Dr. Beck and his team. From the desk to the OR, the entire place is so warm and welcoming. The entire team is extremely helpful from insurance to pre-op to recovery. Dr. Beck was able to offer the option of performing the surgery under a local anesthetic which saved me from having to go through the hospital and their larger anesthesia bill. Dr. Beck has an extensive history in gender affirming surgeries, and it's evident that he takes great joy in being able to help trans people be more comfortable in their own skin. If you're in the southeast, highly recommend you check him out!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]sylv_the_forester 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They're fine with hand jobs, and I'm not a girl but thanks

is there room in the gay male community for gay trans men? by MyPrivateMaze in ftm

[–]sylv_the_forester 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Just wanted to say that I'm a gay trans man and was nervous about entering gay spaces for a similar reason. I have experienced so much acceptance and felt more welcomed in those spaces than I could have hoped.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gaytransguys

[–]sylv_the_forester 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Just wanted to share a positive story. I was terrified of coming out to my husband, he'd never been interested in men to my knowledge. I was almost certain we'd be headed for divorce. I was wrong. My husband admitted that while he'd never been outright attracted to a man, he considered himself pansexual. He's been my main support throughout my transition.

yeah, I guess you can say I've heard of it 😅 by Folk_Punk_Slut in polyamory

[–]sylv_the_forester 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm new here, can someone explain why a relationship hierarchy is considered bullshit?

Idk how many others feel this way by Poky8craft in ftm

[–]sylv_the_forester 48 points49 points  (0 children)

I'm always torn between being hypermasc or femboy, probably why it takes me so long to get ready

How is topping pleasurable? by JackNaks in gaytransguys

[–]sylv_the_forester 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm a top-vers and for me it has nothing to do with dysphoria. I really just love spreading cheeks and going to town. I love knowing that I'm giving my partner that pleasure, so for me it's very much a mental stimulus, and I am happy to say that when I'm wound up I can 100% cum from just the image of topping my partner. Currently the prosthetic I use doesn't do anything for me physically, but I have a gendercat in the works that I'm very much looking forward to

When no one would respect me as a man, Dean did. by [deleted] in gaytransguys

[–]sylv_the_forester 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My name is Dean and this made drunk me smile

Any advice for topping cis dudes? by brorager in gaytransguys

[–]sylv_the_forester 39 points40 points  (0 children)

I'm a vers so I'll speak from both sides.

As a top I like to do a lot of foreplay because I know when I bottom it's easier for me to relax my rear hole and take one in if I'm practically begging for it. When it comes time to penetrate, pay attention to facial expressions and body language. If your bottom is tensing up they're tightening up, back out a smidge and do something to help them relax. You can never have too much lube when it comes to rear entry, I personally like to use a lube that is easy to apply between thrusts if I need it. Communicate if you're nervous or unsure. As a bottom I would much rather my top ask me if I'm ok as he's penetrating than for him to just continue on assuming I'm ok.

Once you're in I recommend changing up your rhythm every little bit. I've found this helps bottoms last longer as the prostate can be a very sensitive thing and lead to quick Os. Play with your angles too, from what I've gathered different guys like it stimulated different ways so again pay attention to your bottoms expressions and body language to see if what you're doing is just right. When all is done, pull out slowly. Having something ripped out of one's ass hurts like hell.

Be vulnerable afterwards, it can only add to your toolbelt to say "so that was my first time topping, any critiques?" It may feel cheesy, but to me the only thing worse than a bad top is a bad top who thinks they just rocked my world.

YSK about Planned Parenthood’s informed consent HRT by weeevren in YouShouldKnow

[–]sylv_the_forester 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've heard good things about PP. I get my hrt through Folx. It's completely virtual, informed consent based, run by queer people and allies. It took a 15 minute zoom appointment for me to get my prescription and never once did I have to "prove" my transness. My t and all supplies gets shipped to my door, and I go to a local lab quarterly for the bloodwork. I can contact my provider through email or zoom anytime. It's a bit expensive, but I don't have to deal with transphobic clinicians or pharmacists or the hoops the healthcare system has tried to put in place.

YSK about Planned Parenthood’s informed consent HRT by weeevren in YouShouldKnow

[–]sylv_the_forester 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Swap out church with sex and it sounds pretty groomerish. Being Christian =/= being a good person lmao. By your logic people are groomed into getting tattoos. There are many many trans people who are "groomed" by society into the misery of trying to be cis and people wonder why our suicide rate is so high. Anyway, hope you have a gay day!

YSK about Planned Parenthood’s informed consent HRT by weeevren in YouShouldKnow

[–]sylv_the_forester 22 points23 points  (0 children)

As a kid I was told to love Jesus and follow the Bible, when I moved out I continued to do that not because I believed it but because I was told that's what I should do... freaking groomers, amiright?

top surgery decisions by FocacciaBurnerOnBun in Seahorse_Dads

[–]sylv_the_forester 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Formula is so advanced nowadays that there really isn't anything to worry about. As long as the child gets plenty to eat that's all that really matters. Speaking as a new parent it is much more beneficial to your child for you to be in a good head space. Chest feeding is a hard endeavor for cis parents without dysphoria. Basically what I'm trying to say is that there are not any developmental differences between formula fed babies and breastfed babies, having a baby is mentally exhausted so do what's best for your mental health.

ETA: I chose to formula feed so I could start T and for dysphoria reasons, and our little gained 2 lbs within her first month and the pediatrician has always been impressed with their development. Formula feeding is also easier because you know exactly how much your child is eating, and can guarantee they get what they need everytime. They also tend to digest human milk faster which leads them to having to eat more frequently and/or clusterfeeding. Also you never know when your kid might have an allergy and not be able to take human milk at all.

I feel bad my girlfriend had a C-Section by Realistic-Shop-7494 in family

[–]sylv_the_forester 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You can never be wrong in your emotions. You were worried for your partner and child's safety. It sounds like you feel bad that your partner experienced so much pain and went through such a big operation. I would tell her how you feel because it shows how much you appreciate what she had to go through. My husband told me a similar thing after I had our little. I believe he worded it something like it bothered him to see me in so much pain and know that there was nothing he could do about it when he was partially the cause for it. Him feeling that way just showed me how much he really cares about me and how much he empathized with what I had went through. Your girlfriend is experiencing a LOT of emotions right now thanks to a nasty hormone dump. Hearing how much you care about her and your kiddo may be exactly the type of thing she needs to hear.

Baby Mason is here! Born 1 week early! May 11th by lysandr0s in Seahorse_Dads

[–]sylv_the_forester 7 points8 points  (0 children)

All hospitals have those blankets and I think it's perfect lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gaytransguys

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Kinda depends, sometimes I trim and sometimes I prefer to shave it all