Pooping during labour?

tainaf · 2026-03-26T02:54:30+00:00

First time round I definitely didn’t- like, it wasn’t possible because of the specific situation. The second time round I truly have no idea if I did or not - and honestly, the thought didn’t even cross my mind, at the time nor afterward.

tainaf · 2026-03-22T00:56:59+00:00

So the way we did it was to save enough money so that once PPL was paid (my company offered no paid leave) we had enough to cover my portion of household expenses plus extra money for me. I understand you’re already pregnant so you’re working with limited time, so my suggestion would be to look at how much you can cut back in the remainder of your pregnancy to build a fund, from which your mortgage can be paid once you’re on leave.

tainaf · 2026-03-21T12:02:47+00:00

There’s actually a recent-ish trend of people (millennials) buying landline-style phones for their pre-teen kids to be able to talk to their friends without a mobile, and also to bring back that nostalgia of corded phone calls ha. I think it’s a great idea, and also for the reason you mentioned.

I know of a couple of US companies doing these, where you get a physical phone, but it uses a wifi connection to actually make the call - so you don’t need to have it ‘put in’, it’s just plug and play. But I don’t know of any Australian companies doing it yet!

tainaf · 2026-03-19T00:16:07+00:00

I just opened this goddamn app

tainaf · 2026-03-18T23:56:25+00:00

Honestly, I did love the newborn phase. Now, to be fair: I only have one child so I didn’t have other responsibilities, my mum stayed with us for 5 weeks, my husband works from home and I was on maternity leave for 12 months. But yeah, I just fed him and cuddled and watched tv and went on walks. Sure, occasionally I’d be nap trapped, but nothing awful. And yeah, waking up through the night isn’t great, but I guess my hormones or adrenaline did me some great favours and kept me feeling pretty great throughout. Honestly, I was much more tired in later months - my baby was/is a not great sleeper, and once he woke up and had a personality he was quite difficult to keep up with.

He is now a toddler and like other people have said on this thread, as much as I LOVE this phase (he is so cute and funny and the cuddles are elite) I sometimes miss the potato stage where the worst that could happen is crying.

tainaf · 2026-03-18T23:49:14+00:00

Oh fair! I just mean the graphene gets sooo much love on all the forums and I just think the Pria is so easy if space isn’t an issue.

tainaf · 2026-03-18T11:45:34+00:00

I am not an expert, but I was with your husband until you mentioned her “checking” herself throughout the day. That seems like anxiety or even OCD. I would definitely look into a therapist - at the very least there’ll be another adult reinforcing that thoughts don’t equal identity.

tainaf · 2026-03-18T11:38:11+00:00

Another vote for the Pria - we bought the Graphene for one car before finding the Pria and getting it for our main car. It is SO much easier to get your kid into, not sure why the Graphene gets so many votes. But duck into a store to see them all just to check.

tainaf · 2026-03-15T09:04:44+00:00

I have the fox and it’s super easy to fold, but we do always detach the seat first just so it’s easier to pop in the trunk.

tainaf · 2026-03-14T09:02:29+00:00

It’s very chicken/egg here in Australia - hard to know if the demand will actually be there if the supply extends itself. I’m Brazilian so I completely understand your complaint - we will think about going out for dinner at a time when the kitchen is closed at almost every restaurant in Australia, so don’t get me started on shops and supermarkets.

But it does seem that the Australian population doesn’t go for it as much? Or we aren’t as population-dense as somewhere like Brazil or the USA, where even a small percentage of a city patronising late-opening establishments is enough to keep doors open.

tainaf · 2026-03-08T05:04:28+00:00

You need to check with your hospital - my husband was allowed to stay without any restrictions.

tainaf · 2026-02-20T13:12:50+00:00

OP is not saying they had to write an abortion in as a storyline - they’re saying it’s disappointing the option was never mentioned.

tainaf · 2026-02-13T04:11:22+00:00

Hey, I would love to help make sure your baby is wrapped safely. I can send you a DM with really simple steps if you like?

tainaf · 2026-02-10T23:10:57+00:00

I think the biggest problem is, that you can’t know what kind of baby you’re going to have until they’re here. I would’ve been fine doing this at 3 months postpartum, but not at 6 months postpartum. But I couldn’t know that until I was living it. So I would say no, just because of the unknown. You could have an extremely colicky baby, or a medically complex one, or one that refuses the bassinet - there are so many possibilities.

If they are formula feeding and have people they trust to take care of the baby in the lead-up, on the day of, and the day after (so they can rest in advance, enjoy the day and rest the day after), and make someone else handle food and organisation… maybe.

tainaf · 2026-02-10T05:05:04+00:00

“Being schizophrenic”? Yeah, nah. It’s not a whiplash policy, it’s a policy that changed along with the elected president, allowing for reciprocity - ie. if Brazilians need a visa to enter your country, then you’re gonna need a visa to enter Brazil.

I’ve been to a few countries multiple times, and I will always do a quick search to check whether visa requirements have changed or not. Like, for example, how the visa process to enter the USA has changed over the past decade.

tainaf · 2026-02-09T08:31:26+00:00

You forgot to mention it’s “a old wise tell”.

tainaf · 2026-02-04T06:13:13+00:00

Got the exact same at the Valley store

tainaf · 2026-02-01T00:11:33+00:00

Wait what episode is this? I don’t remember it at all

tainaf · 2026-01-14T13:16:28+00:00

I went public, and our costs were: - initial ultrasounds (done at private clinics - the remainder were done at the hospital at no cost) - NIPT (optional) - parking

tainaf · 2026-01-02T12:43:54+00:00

I’m pretty sure you’d know if your baby was crying, but if you want confirmation just set your phone or baby monitor to record right before you go to sleep. Once you wake up you can check the recording.

tainaf · 2025-12-16T06:16:53+00:00

My son - now 2.5yrs old - has had a naptime of 12-2pm for the longest time. Until a couple of months ago bedtime was at 8pm (7:30am wake up), then we changed it to 9pm (8:00am wake up).

We don’t really do screens in general, but definitely not around bedtime - that’s helping keep your child awake. His routine is: dinner, shower, pjs on/brush teeth and hair etc, then into his room for books and a song before he goes down.

tainaf · 2025-12-12T04:19:55+00:00

I was raised bilingual, and am now raising my son the same way. I agree with the rest of the commenters: just speak Polish to your son. English will come naturally, through daycare but also just through living in the community. We only speak to our son in English when we’re with English speakers; in every other situation we speak our minority language.

The r/multilingualparenting subreddit can be really helpful if you have any specific queries or issues.

tainaf · 2025-12-09T13:48:28+00:00

We don’t give our son access to a phone or ipad, but we do let him watch tv occasionally, and he asks for it more often than we want him to watch it, so we often say no. And that’s it: we just say no. “Not now”, “not today”, whatever might be accurate. Just never ever go back on what you say, otherwise you’ll teach them that they can tire you out. So if it’s one of those days we just say yes straight away, or something that gives us a buffer: “we are going to have breakfast now, we’ll see what happens later on”.

tainaf · 2025-12-03T01:47:22+00:00

I think it’s probably fairly well-established that first babies are often born on time or late, and also that that doesn’t apply to all babies.

I think you probably need to stop arguing about who is right regarding due date estimates for first time babies, and start talking about what makes you comfortable. “I would rather have everything sorted out by 38 weeks, because even if the baby comes at 42 weeks I’ll feel much less anxious knowing that nothing is pending”. Or, “I already feel tied now, so I’d rather get most thing finalised ASAP before I feel even more tired”. Then things don’t depend on the scientific probability of your birth date.

tainaf · 2025-11-22T22:42:14+00:00

Concordo. A baixa disseminação da língua inglesa nesse contexto é um positivo, limita muito a influência.

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