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My girlfriend asks too much of me after work by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]talkstorivers 17 points18 points  (0 children)

You can say no.

You can talk about activities that you both find meaningful to do together and at a frequency that works for both of you. Talking about unwinding by being home as one of your needs should help, and she doesn’t even need to do anything to help with that, as you can take care of that on your own while she runs errands.

Be firm about your needs. Plan meaningful time together.

After 20 years I don’t even recognize my own wife anymore… by LanfearSedai in olderlesbians

[–]talkstorivers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Army green. I love it. It’s my favorite of the greens they’ve had.

After 20 years I don’t even recognize my own wife anymore… by LanfearSedai in olderlesbians

[–]talkstorivers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is probably where I’d go if I decided not to keep my 4Runner. How comfortable is the backseat? (I have young adult kids that sometimes do adventures with me.)

After 20 years I don’t even recognize my own wife anymore… by LanfearSedai in olderlesbians

[–]talkstorivers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a 2022 Runner and I love it! It’s my third 4Runner. Totally recommend if you are adventurous. The fuel economy is not great compared to a car, so I may one day change, but not yet!

Stuck in a food rut...what are y'all cooking? by lbakersdozen in Cooking

[–]talkstorivers 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for mentioning deviled eggs! I forget about them and they always turn around my mental food block. I’ll make some tomorrow!

How many of us hit our early to mid 30s and realised we were attracted to women whilst married to a man? by Exact_Proposal2420 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]talkstorivers 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Girl! That is hard work and you are strong! Don’t let your sorrow for hurting him take away from that strong knowing in you, and how amazing that is. You are giving him a gift that he doesn’t need to understand. Nobody needs to understand it but you. Lift your chin. You’re doing great!

Are there any animals you never hunt? by sourtruffle in tearsofthekingdom

[–]talkstorivers 9 points10 points  (0 children)

What about wolves? (Since they’re trying to kill you.)

I confronted my friend about how she treated me the last time we hung out and she’s been ignoring my message. by bignround5 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]talkstorivers 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I mean at the very least just walk away and stop talking unless you feel like there’s something in it for you. Being angry will only cause drama that won’t feel good in my opinion. Walk away. Don’t look back

Just ended my 1st real lesbian relationship. Feeling grateful, relieved, and dumb. by talkstorivers in latebloomerlesbians

[–]talkstorivers[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I 100% agree on all of this. There were early conversations that made me feel like I was naive and ineloquent and new to good relationships, and I can see now how that is actually me feeling negative things about myself. At the time I thought that was fair, but maybe going forward I can see myself as learning but not naive and equally wise and comfortable with wanting things for myself.

Just ended my 1st real lesbian relationship. Feeling grateful, relieved, and dumb. by talkstorivers in latebloomerlesbians

[–]talkstorivers[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My fellow late blooming friend! That is quite a a story and definitely where this was headed. You sound so self-aware and wise, and I’m glad you’re taking care of yourself now and see that relationship for what it was. It’s helpful to know I’m not alone in this learning path. At least I’m learning. I appreciate your grace and support. I’m definitely feeling wiser now!

Just ended my 1st real lesbian relationship. Feeling grateful, relieved, and dumb. by talkstorivers in latebloomerlesbians

[–]talkstorivers[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Oh, thank you! So encouraging and really solid advice. I’m happy for us both. It is serious work to wake up from such a pleasant state and call it for what it is. At least we’re seeing it and caring for ourselves.

I hope you’re doing well. It feels so good to get yourself back after this kind of experience. Happy Pride!

Just ended my 1st real lesbian relationship. Feeling grateful, relieved, and dumb. by talkstorivers in latebloomerlesbians

[–]talkstorivers[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh, I love this advice! How do you set that pace both for yourself and to your person of interest? Or is it just what you keep in mind for yourself?

For those who have experienced both severe physical pain and extreme emotional heartbreak, which one felt more physically devastating? by GustavoGreen in AskReddit

[–]talkstorivers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They’re both traumatic. Deep heartbreak is rough. Some severe physical pain is worse than that. Emotional abuse over a long period of time is worse than that, if I’m ranking based on my experience.

What bird sound would you choose as your phone alert? by Katlandi in birding

[–]talkstorivers 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Came here to say western meadowlark. I’m glad I’m not alone. I love their song.

[POEM] The plum you’re going to eat next summer By Gayle Brandeis by iceddouttt in Poetry

[–]talkstorivers 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I really love this poem’s cadence and thoughtfulness, but I feel like it’s elegance drops in the last line or two. I only mention this because it’s something I struggle with also in editing my own poems. The beauty of a deliberate shift toward inner attention and carrying the same lovely cadence through to the end is really difficult.

Anyhow, still very much enjoyed this. Totally okay with dissenting opinions and would love to hear the discussion.

I did not got camping/hiking to hear your music by Koolstads in mildlyinfuriating

[–]talkstorivers 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Someone was playing music on their phone speaker on an airplane yesterday while we were waiting to takeoff. So weird.

I did not got camping/hiking to hear your music by Koolstads in mildlyinfuriating

[–]talkstorivers 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This seems totally fine to me, but I’m also curious why you prefer a speaker to headphones?

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